Childhood is a time where children learn about the world around themselves. They see and experience many factors that influence their everyday lives, which help them grow stronger when they become adults. In 'Girl'; by Jamaica Kincaid and 'The Lesson'; by Toni Cade Bambara the characters within the stories learn valuable lesson with help them grow to become better individuals. In 'The Lesson'; the character of Sugar undergoes a realization that society does not treat everyone equally, that not every individual has the same opportunity and equality that they should have. In 'Girl'; the main character learns that she must be perceived as a woman and not as a slut, her mother brings to her
Most common cultures have rituals, celebrations, or traditional ceremonies to acknowledge the coming of age of boys and/or girls. The Hispanic culture have a traditional “Quinceañera” for young teenage girls turning age 15 to recognize her coming of age as a woman. Jews have “Bar Mitzvah” for men or “Bat Mitzvah” for women to celebrate coming of age. Although in some cultures, celebrating coming age is nothing less than actually celebrating; but in other cultures, such as Aborigine culture, rather than having a huge celebration, young teenage boys, age thirteen, are enduring an essential evaluation. In this stage of their life, their elders test them to see if they are “man” enough to survive by themselves.
Despite lowering the age to vote and drink in the 1970’s, Australia continued the practice of giving a key too 21-year-olds on their birthday, symbolising their “coming of age”, and with it, the underlying expectation of respect and the adherence of social norms, just as how to act appropriately in public. Between the eighteenth and twentieth centuries, the transition to adulthood was defined by, and adult identity rooted in, the attainment of “spousal status” with the formation of a family to follow (Kenyon & Heath 2001b). “Adulthood” was steeped in the achievement of material symbols; marriage, houses and children (McNamara & Connell 2007). While it was evident in my interviews that the attainment of such material symbols are no longer defined
14 kids have sealed themselves in a superstore as a freak hailstorm and serious chemical weapons spill threaten to bring the world to its knees. Once brothers Alex and Dean establish a sense of security, they find that their only chance of rescue is to drive 67 miles across the now deadly state of Colorado to the nearest airport for evacuation. Dean and the others with type O bloods decide to stay behind because the poisoned air outside would turn them into savage rage-fueled monsters.
Furthermore, Okonkwo’s fear of being weak and resembling his father, forces him to act without compassion, and he suffers the “loss” of his son, Nwoye. Like Unoka, Nwoye is effeminate and sensitive. After Ikemefuna dies, Nwoye notices that he feels the same as when he saw twin babies left to die in the Evil Forest, “Then something had given way inside him [Nwoye]” (62). Nwoye is an innocent child who is baffled by the cruel rituals of his clan. He loses respect for Okonkwo and the traditions of his clan. He is unable to forgive his father for killing his adopted brother and unable to forgive his clan for allowing Okonkwo to do so. When the missionaries come to Umuofia Nwoye is intrigued by Christianity, a better way of life, where he feels relief. Strict and inflexible, Okonkwo is angered by Nwoye when he finds out that he converted to Christianity, because Nwoye abandoned their ancestors and he thinks the missionaries are effeminate. Later, Okonkwo tells his five other sons of Nwoye: “You have all seen the great abomination of your brother. Now he is no longer my son or your brother. I will only have a son who is a man, who will hold his head up among my people” (172). Okonkwo disowns his eldest son, Nwoye, because he betrays the clan. Okonkwo’s inability to be compassionate and understanding, drives Nwoye away, and he loses his eldest son.
Most of the time, becoming an adult is planned. There are religious ceremonies, the gaining of a driver’s license, and other forms of new responsibility to signify the coming of age. Sometimes though maturity comes at you like a freight train. It comes at you in the blink of an eye and there is no stopping it once it hits you. You are forced to grow up and take on new responsibilities that you thought you wouldn’t have to take on until many years later. It's up to you though to decide what to do from there. You can either try and run away from the problems you have come to face or you can take the train head on and conquer what has been presented to you. I decided to face the train.
The relationship between Kambili and Aunt Ifeoma and her family, also develops her relationship with Papa Nnukwu – Eugene’s non-Catholic father. All her life, she has been taught by her
The impact of Ikemefuna’s death on Nwoye is devastating. Something gives way inside of him when he thinks of his father and the killing of Ikemefuna. The fear of his father and the horror over the sacrifice of Ikemefuna separates Nwoye from tribal customs and the sense of community. His family’s banishment isolates him further. Hearing the Christian hymns, which cater to
For some, coming of age is a time of obstacles and success in a young youth's life. It involves a number of trials that is needed to overcome to become mature. Although, obstacles are not the only features that a young adolescents will encounter. The journey will happen beginning with successes and triumphs that will come to the shaping of who they are to become. One can simply presume that the occurrence taking place in the world would have a strong impact on how an adolescent comes of age. The tale Old Chief Mshlanga focuses on the main character, the protagonist known as “she” or little Nkosikaas her encounter with an African chieftain that causes her to see the differences between her people and the natives of the land they reside. The author, Doris Lessing, uses the protagonist to show radically changing attitudes towards the Old Chief Mshlanga.
She learns from watching Papa Nnukwu doing his morning prayer (p. 167 – 169) that his traditionalism is a very spiritual thing for him and something that made him happy; happiness her family doesn’t feel after saying their prayers. This is a breakthrough for her as she makes the conclusion for herself and understands herself that there is an important something in Papa Nnukwu regarding his beliefs that is missing in their own lives which revolves around their religion. She also understands her grandfather better and sees and experiences that her father is wrong. This matures Kambili greatly and contributes to her independence of her father.
He was especially hard on Nwoye who appeared to resemble a relative who was considered a failure. Nwoye had become happier after he’d met Ikemefuna, a role model of sorts. Ikemefuna was brought to their household as a peace offering from a neighboring village and would be dealt with later. Although Ikemefuna met Nwoye through less than pleasant circumstances, the two quickly became inseparable. Due to tragic circumstances, the two were severed apart by the swift movement of a blade, held by Nwoye’s father, Okonkwo. Ikemefuna’s death caused Nwoye to see his father and culture in another light, leading to his acceptance of a new religion with different values. The culture that had killed his “brother” and made his father a murderer was no friend of his. Nwoye was skeptical of the new religion at first ,but later became, “...a young lad who had been captivated,” (Achebe 147). Eventually, Nwoye recognized that despite the negative stigma on the Christians he felt he belonged with them. When he attempted to interact with the Christian community his father tried to strangle him! As a result, Nwoye left his family, “but he was happy to leave his father,” and past obligations behind (Achebe 152). The lingering questions and hopes he had for his father were crushed. He set out with his new identity as a Christian, not the son of Okonkwo.
Taught by missionaries that his own language and culture are religiously and intellectually inferior, Eugene suppresses his roots to the extent of changing his accent in the presence of caucasians. Eugene’s cultural self hatred is so great that he even takes it out on his family. However, this particular Nigerian Catholic view is not unanimous. Father Amandi retains far different views of God and the Church despite the Catholicism he shares with Eugene. While Eugene goes so far as to refer to his own father as “a heathen,” Amandi’s liberal views include acceptance of the pantheistic Papa-Nnukwu and appreciation of his own Igbo culture and music (62). These differing examples of Catholicism in Nigerian culture ensure Ngozi’s mission “that there is never a single story” of Nigerian religious views (Ted.com). Furthermore, religion is present as a force of growth and damage in Kambili’s life. Her father mentally and physically abuses her in an effort to save her from “Godlessness” resulting in crippling paranoia that prevents her from even speaking (). However, Catholic kindness wielded by the capably caring hands of Father Amandi propels Kambili to believe in herself and largely undoes the damage done by her father. Furthermore, the kindness and regularity of Papa-Nnukwu despite his pagan religion leads Kambili to a new, more loving, understanding of religion. When Kambili realizes “that there is never a single story” of
There is so much one person can take in their lifetime before they begin to look for an open door; A new door that leads to a new life. In “Things Fall Apart,” by Chinua Achebe, a young man named Nwoye was offered a new faith. One faith that handed him a blank book where he can start writing his own story for once. All his life, Nwoye was forced to undertake violent behavior from his entitled father, Okonkwo, until he was introduced to Christianity. A fresh start was all he needed and he took it, but it did not sit well with his father. Chinua Achebe purposely created havoc between father and son to amplify Okonkwo's downfall towards a new culture he did not accept.