Communication Advice for Newly Engaged Couple, Michael and Cody

Having two people in love and getting married can change a lot about both lives. Lifestyles will change and adapting to each other will be one of the major goals. Not being able to adapt to each other will cause stress and great pain to each other. The key to marriage is being able to withstand each other and having patience for each other. Marriage in the twenty-first century today lacks the skills of withstanding each other and patience, especially couples who get married at an early age. A perfect marriage is to marry a person who loves you for who you are and what you are, not for you to be different or to change. “The best life partner might, I think, be the one who sees you as you are and loves that person-the person who is boring and anxious or blotchy from a weekly scrub mask-not the imaginary one who is poetic and broodingly smart and sexy and ecstatic all the time” (Miller 64). This statement wrote by Catherine Newman clearly shows that a couple getting married should pick that right partner that choose you because of you and nothing different. If you choose a partner to be different or act different and not for what he/she truly is, you will guaranteed to have a hard and stressful marriage. Both of you will have trouble understanding each other and it will cause you to have therapy. Marriage therapy is very common today and one the reason of them is not loving your partner for who he/she really is. Marrying somebody can be easy, but finding the right somebody is hard. It may take more than one try to find that right

Marriages in modern culture aren’t as traditional as they once were. When society changes, sometimes we have to change. Having couples prepare three-six months before their marriage should be prerequisite around the board. Having married couples participate in marriage seminars. Those minor yet major courses could help and save a lot of couples. Maturity plays a vital part of a marriage. Learning about yourself, exploring life for yourself, and being able to make responsible choices are things that will strengthen a marriage. Education is paramount, not just for marriage but in general. Having a higher education will make for a lasting marriage. Lots of issues that can hinder a marriage, however with great preparation marriages can be just as surreal as they once

My advice to you for a successful relationship is to be open and honest with each other about how you feel. It starts by identifying barriers to effective interpersonal communication. In fact, being open and honest with your significant other is very important in not creating problems later on the relationship. When you are honest you build trust. According to Pope (2007) the article states “When you’re suppressing communication and feelings during conflict with your husband, it’s doing something very negative to your physiology, and in the long term it will affect

I will inform others that fighting is a normal part of relationships and it is good to negotiate a solution. Often fights are drawn out over a course of time, when the important words are often stated at the beginning. I will highlight that negotiation happens in multiple facets of life as one is trying to get a raise or when one is trying to buy a car. Individuals should learn to practice negotiation and use some of the points made above, such as going to the other person side and watching their conversation from a audience point of view. I will use these tactics as I grow my own family and as I engage with my parents and friends

Healthy communication means communicating one another’s feelings when things need to change. “The wedding ceremony formally instructs each spouse to love and to cherish his mate; clearly an instruction that requires high communication, not only of information but also of feelings (Senn).”

Handling conflict is a skill which can be learned. It requires practice, discipline and self-control. In the midst of conflict, most people forget the overall goal in addressing the conflict: Having your partner understand your feelings and resolving the disagreement. The more a couple can keep this goal in mind the less likely either will engage in criticism, yelling or name-calling. These behaviors only fuel the conflict (Managing Conflict in Your Relationship,

Don't understand after everything that you can't even try to hear me out in a honest conversation. It's important were able to communicate with each other as opposed to put the other person down or dismiss them by hanging up.

The argument resulted in us breaking up our four month relationship. After the argument was over, I realize five communication barriers that took placed through-out our argument.

Stonewall and defensiveness are all about redirecting the blame, either by avoiding it or putting it all on the partner. One could use the mindful component “maintaining reciprocity” to combat defensiveness in the relationship. Maintaining reciprocity asks that both partners invest in and better the relationship in an equitable way. By taking equal blame in relationship problems and taking an equal role in a solution, the role of victim and assailant no longer exists. This is easier said than done but if both people truly want the relationship to work, both parties must learn to concede. To combat stonewalling, which is when one retreats to avoid conflict, the “acceptance and respect” component might be the best approach. The acceptance and respect component emphasizes empathy and the use of good social skill when learning about one’s partner and working on issues. A nonjudgmental environment where one’s partner is respectfully listening and responding kindly would promote discussion and decrease

you even though he’s not talking back or looking at you, or the “listener-noises” your wife

On February 8th, 2016, Robert Leahy wrote an interesting article titled, “Relationship Communication: How to Talk So That Your Partner Will Listen.” Leahy posted his article on the website called www.huffingtonpost.com and stated several ways to improve communication between partners. Some of those ways include picking the right time to express concern or emotions, simplifying what needs to be said, and when speaking pause and ask for some feedback. Leahy also spoke on not attacking your partner when trying to communicate, don’t degrade or point fingers in the midst of an argument because it will only escalate the issue. Lastly, Leahy mentioned to try and “validate the validator,” when your significant other is taking their time to listen to

The description of how the concept of marriage in today’s era in comparison to how marriages was originally conveyed is accurate. Andrew Cherlin describes the current thoughts of marriage of how I view it—marriage should be something as a last resort for adults. Reason being—people should experience their life first beforehand, gained knowledge and skills that will help them out in a long run. Thus, when marriage is becoming an option, they have plenty of experience to take them further into adulthood. This was the problem I had with my sister getting married back in May. I felt that she was rushing into marriage in order to compete with her friends (whom are getting married as well, after they already settled everything they needed to do).

I am not sure how much you are trying to be in part of this relationship. This particular issue has been occurring before we had our big fight and has yet to be resolved. I don't know if you know, but I try to my hardest to help you out and it boggles me that I can't. I try to help you out, but it backfires and you get mad at me for trying. I try just to sooth your emotions, but that is not working. I try to be open ears and you refuse to talk it out. I am at a cross roads to what to do. In addition, i'm sure you don't know how much your feelings affect me. Whenever you tell me you are sad or are lonely, it really brings me down because I can't help you and the only answer you will give me is "come home", which is not possible. But when you say these things I make it an effort to stay at home and have my phone

Have you ever formed an engaged? Is it better to not be engaged or to marry the wrong person? Would you rather feel like Mr. Darcy after being turned down by Elizabeth for a short time or to feel like Kathrine being wed to Patricio for a lifetime?

Most couples need help to discuss their needs in a productive way. Having different attitudes toward talking doesn't mean there is something wrong with either spouse, that anyone was deceived, or that the marriage is hopeless.