though that Mr. Smith would like to pursue a legal separation. The third thought is to help Mr. and Mrs. Smith to make their own decision about their choice to continue in their marriage or not according to their personal strengths and recourses.
The fourth thought is to put into their considerations the family as a unit and the needs of their children while they are deciding. The fifth thought is helping them to get insight with their ethics and values and how they grounded it on their ethnicity, culture, background, and their personality. The sixth thought is psychoeducate them about the depression and the side effect of the antidepressant medication. Also, psychoeducate them about the Gotman four horses concepts which cause the dysfunctional
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Smith’s depression, she feels depressed because she believes she is a victim of the negative the group of her life’s stressors; her significant depression, a child with special needs, non understanding husband, she does not have social support system, and her husband would divorce her. She is not able to function well because her stressors make her feel guilty, frustrated, sad, and anxious due to her unresolved pain and conflict. As Fowers, (2005) stated, “In the process of gaining greater clarity about cultural values and the character strengths necessary to pursue them, critical questions about those values will arise” (p. 31).
Mr. Smith also believes that his marriage has to be perfect as his parents’ marriage was perfect. He felt that Mrs. Smith made a mistake by having an affair and it might have been partially his fault because he wasn’t emotionally available to her. This is the reason behind Mr. Smith’s hopelessness and anger. Mr. Smith acted according to these feelings by withdrawing. Unfortunately, he feels he cannot cope with the situation and discuss the issue openly with his wife. For Mrs. Smith, she will remember every time she communicates with Mr. Smith that he wasn’t able to forgive her for having the
Broken marriages are also a major theme in Interpreter of Maladies. Mr. and Mrs. Das married at a young age. Although the story doesn’t state whether they had relationship issues in their early states, it is almost evident they were not the happiest couple before marriage either. That would explain why Mrs. Das is not in love with Mr. Das. “… The more premarital conflict, the less satisfaction couples reported with their relationships at the follow-up assessment and the less the wives reported being in love (Thomas N. Bradbury).” Another reason we could predict Mr. and Mrs. Das did not have a healthy early relationship is their lack of communication skills. “…several studies have found evidence that later communication can be predicted from early satisfaction (Thomas N. Bradbury).” If their relationship was built upon a strong foundation in the early stages, it would have been easier for them to communicate in their later marital stages.
When both involved do not effectively communicate with each other, a distant marriage may lead to discontent for all. Sinclair Ross’s short story, “The Painted Door”, deals with the growing dissatisfaction and loneliness of a farmer’s wife, Ann, who feels alone as her husband deals with the harsh conditions of the environment. This story demonstrates how deeply communication can affect a marriage, be it bad or good. One of the most fundamental elements of a healthy relationship is communication. Lack of communication in a relationship can result to severe consequences. Irrespective of the kind of relationship, lack of communication magnifies issues in a relationship undermining the very foundation of the relationship. The success of any relationship relies on one's ability to communicate well. Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other. John is a simple farmer who thinks the only way he can please his wife, is by working all day to earn money for her. However, Ann would prefer he spend more time with her. Their relationship is stressed even further when Ann is left at home alone with nothing to think about but their relationship because John has to go to his father’s house. The terrible snow storm accentuates Ann’s feelings of loneliness and despair. These feelings lead Ann to seek comfort and companionship from Steven, the attractive friend of her husband, John, thus leading to John's suicide.
Depression is the most common mental health disorder; it affects over 17 million American adults each year. Depression is a mood disorder characterized by at least four symptoms such as changes in sleep, appetite, weight, and psychomotor activity; decreased energy, feelings of worthlessness or guilt; difficulty thinking, concentrating, or making decisions; or recurrent thoughts of death or suicidal ideation, thoughts or attempts. “Women are approximately two times more likely than men to suffer from major depression” (Research Agenda for Psychosocial and Behavioral Factors in Women’s Health, 1996) and it has been called the most significant mental health risk for women. Women are more likely to suffer from depression during marriage
Over seven billion people living on earth we are all diverse in our characteristics. We live in societies made up with laws and don’t have the freedom to exploit another person right. People who disobey laws and misuses another person rights are known as morally sick and selfish. They never bear the shame of their actions and always fails to understand others. While laws only ensure peace in a society, families that makes a society needs better understanding between a husband and a wife. Now with divorce rate that is growing higher by each year, Sociologists and psychologists are pointing many aspects and actions of couple that must be taken into consideration before we expect a happy life. Among them “Mark Karpel”, “Abraham Maslow” and
In everyday life, a relation is always identified as trust and support. In this novel, a relation between a husband and a wife is shown in a different way. Min, one of the characters in the story, is shown losing her mental stability and is living with her two children. She did not have any contact with her husband in few years and neither did he try to contact
When most people hear the phrase “The Great Depression” they only associate it the crash of the stock market and the hard times that followed. Here in the Midwest, when we think of the Great Depression we also think of the Dust Bowl and the Dirty Thirties. The Great Depression was a very climactic end to a series of poor choices that greatly affected the entire United States.
Moreover, I learned about the internal emotional and psychological dimensions of divorce introduced by Reva Wiseman. By reading this, it shows that process of separation can extends deeply into the psyche. Wiseman said that there are five stages of divorce—denial, loss and depression, anger and ambivalence, reorientation of lifestyle and identity and acceptance and integration. This view of divorce let us see and learn about the process of crisis in individuals’ mind. It also shows how emotions can shift accompanying
Sandy, I enjoyed reading through your response and I agreed with many the important principles you were able to glean from the chapters. It was valuable for the Brice family to be to have the choice to continue therapy. The family was given the independence to choose to continue or discontinue the therapy. Your second observation regarding Napier and Whitaker’s thoughts on how couples aid each other in poor behavior was another concepts I found to be interesting as well. One of the main points I was able to glean from the chapter was that an individual may choose someone who they sense, unconsciously, the potential for a crisis which will force the individual to face their own central fears. The concept of choose a mate based off an unconscious
Like in “Hills like White Elephants,” the lack of communication in this story is causing a crisis in the characters’ relationship. The couple is going through this critical situation because they can’t find a mutual base for their marriage. The husband and his wife are in different levels of maturity. He is already a grown up man who doesn’t care for a cat that is getting wet in the rain, while the wife still presents a childish behavior.
The book mentions about the mental confusions, insecurities and the effort to understand their spouses. The writer has expressed simple and usual emotions of a womanhood, fidelity and family. A tint of Indian culture is reflected in each chapter indicating how a bridegroom and groom select each other, the nature of an Indian woman and how she takes up challenges in her life, reconciling the roles of a daughter, an ex-wife, a wife and a mother, the strength of the human spirit and their passion to survive and fight for a good life. It also features the distinctive qualities of Indian relatives highlighting their interest in an individual’s marital life and how offensive it is to the society to find a married woman talking to an unknown man. The book also focuses on the pain of a mother to see her unhealthy
(39). However, Mrs. Das has an obvious distance with her husband who is blind to the unhappiness of his wife. Thus, her cheating contains not only physical relationship but also an emotional infidelity, so she has been feeling guilty since
Dr. Murray Bowen, a psychiatrist, offered us the family systems theory. This theory views the family as an emotional unit, further providing a thinking systems approach to describe the complex interactions in the unit. Bowen offered, “A change in one person’s functioning is predictably followed by a reciprocal change in the functioning of others” (Kerr, 2000). If one person within the family unit is having a difficult time, it effects everyone within the family unit. An example of this would be a father who is the primary breadwinner for his family suddenly loosing his job. Prior
After a thorough review of the textbook and the course material, the specific family system approach that I choose to explore is the Bowenian Approach for this literature review. This specific family system approach is also known as the Bowen Family System Theory as well (D.V. Papero, 2006). The Bowen Family System Theory was established by Murray Bowen, a theorist and psychiatrist who specialized in treating children who were deranged and had schizophrenia (Rockwell, 2010). In the 1950s, Bowen wanted to explore a new venture so he decided that he wanted all of the family members of each child to be involved in an therapeutic process at the same time (Rockwell, 2010).
Women experience depression at twice the rate of men. Gender differences emerge first at puberty and occur mainly in the common mental disorders such as depression, anxiety among others. These disorders, in which women predominate, affect approximately 1 in 3 people. The frequency of major depression in adults is estimated to be 7 to 12 percent in men and 20 to 25 percent in women in a community and this constitutes a serious public health problem (NIMH, 2006). Several and variable factors in women contribute to depression, such as genetic, hormonal, developmental, reproductive, and other biological differences like premenstrual syndrome, childbirth, infertility and menopause. Factors associated to social issues may lead to depression
Marriage is one of the most essential factors of human life. It creates the basis for everyone to pursue a better, healthier, and happier life. However, it is the fact that there are more and more couples marrying and then ending up with divorce, and this rate is increasing faster year by year. Actually, all the divorce cases are originated from some of the forms of emotional illness that gradually appear in each partner during the time of their relationship. It is good to cure these forms of emotional illness to solve the martial problems of the specific patients. However; it is absolutely the best when the original