Human Relations Theories : Knowing Yourself

Self-disclosure is an important part of any close relationship. Without sharing our own fears and weaknesses, we can

The work is separated into sections with sub-headings which clearly identify the themes being discussed. Footnotes appear frequently giving further explanations of points being made and also direct us to sources with added information. This work provides us excellent understanding of how we as individuals present ourselves to others when interacting in our daily lives.

Humanistic theories emerged in 1950s. We have two types of humanistic theories, the first one is Person-centred theory by Carl Rogers which is based on how people see them-selves in relation to their personal experience and the second theory is Self-actualisation by Abraham Maslow which is based on the needs that motivate people. In this paper both theories will be described in detail and also they will be evaluated.

Research has further revealed the “presentation of self” (Marshall, 2010). Ertürk Dilek (2016) divides the self-concept in three different categories: “self-image”, “self-esteem”, and “ideal self” (p.31). “Self-image” is the way that people see themselves; “self-esteem” means personal values of humans; and an “ideal self” illustrates how people desire themselves to be. Soraya Mehdizadeh (2010) approaches self-presentation in a different perspective. Mehdizadeh distinguishes the presentation of self into two different categories: “now self”, an individual or a characteristic known to public, and “possible self”, a characteristic unknown to public (p.358).

The realizations I have on self disclosure is that, it is one way of letting my self go. Letting another human being know my inner most feelings and my fears. I am a very private person and I tend to not say much about myself unless I know the person very well. I tend to not to like people who disclose a lot of information to me mainly if we do not have a very close relationship, because to me that means I also have to let them in on some of my inner most feelings. I feel like even if they are a lot of advantages to self-

Nona Mitoyan COM 200 October 3, 2015 Professor Williams Interpersonal Lens Outline I. Working Definition of Lens: Whether verbal or nonverbal, interpersonal communication is the exchange of symbols between individuals. Breaking the term into two, we get “inter” and “personal,” meaning interpersonal communication is both personal and connecting between two or more communicators. II. Communication Phenomenon for Analysis: I will use an interpersonal lens to examine the progressive relationship between Lucas and Peyton in One Tree Hill.

opening up to others, being vulnerable and showing our flaws can be a scary thought. We risk

There are many instances where my family and even my closest friends question why I am so reserved. They sometimes ask me why I am unable to fully open up and talk about my thoughts and feelings like they are able to and I never had an answer. I was never able to figure out why I am this way until I took this test. I realized that being a private person is one of the weaknesses of my personality type and that it is very common amongst INFJ’s. This is something that is in fact easily noticeable based on the type of person I am. I like to keep my thoughts and feelings to myself. I find I very difficult to fully trust those around me. Finding someone I can fully trust whether it may be a friend or a love interest is like finding a needle in a haystack. Being a private person has made me worried about my future life and it makes me wonder if I will ever find someone who can fully understand and relate to me. I wonder if ill ever be able to find some whom I can blindly trust. In order for me to find those whom I can trust, I have realized that I need to let myself loose. I have learned to confide in a few of my closest friends. I have learned that sharing my thoughts and feeling with those whom I’m close to not only makes our relationship stronger but it makes me feel lighter. It makes me feel as if a weight load has been lifted off my chest and restores my trust in

Although the risks associated with self-disclosure can be dangerous, the rewards of self-disclosure can be very beneficial. You can gain self-knowledge, communication and relationship effectiveness and physiological health. While watching the film, Ordinary People, I was able to identify many examples of self-disclosure between the charters in the film. The film, Ordinary People, is about a family who has a very hard time dealing with the sudden and tragic death of their son.

Carl R. Rogers is known as the founding father of person-centered therapy. He was born in Oak Park, Illinois, in 1902 to a devoted Christian and a civil engineer (Rogers, Kirschenbaum, & Land, 2001). In 1922 Rogers began to doubt his religious teaching from early on in life, he sought a more liberal education at the Union Theological Seminary (Rogers, Kirschenbaum, & Land, 2001). After two years he left to attend Columbia University to study clinical and education psychology. Rogers went on to write four major books: The Clinical Treatment of the Problem Child (1939), Counseling and Psychotherapy: New Concepts in Practice (1942), Client-Centered Therapy (1951), and Psychotherapy and Personality (Rogers & Dymond, 1954) (Walsh, 2010; Patterson, 2007).

Individuals have different levels of disclosure and when combined with another individual’s disclosure level can have positive or negative outcomes. The decision to communicate can also cause uncertainty within relationships. Prior research was conducted to try and measure what exactly causes the uncertainty and negative results to show up in a relationship. Intimacy, security, problematic events, and irritations are all different elements that can be stronger or weaker in the relationship based on the disclosure (Theiss and Solomon 2006).

However, there are cases people can refuse self-awareness. According to Maslow (1962), people avoid acquiring new knowledge about themselves because of the uncertain and uncomfortable feelings they can receive (as cited in Whetten & Cameron, 2011). Whetten and Cameron (2011) believe dis-closure is the key for people to overcome that panic. By discussing one’s own aspects with others, people can reduce the ambiguity of problems. For instance, through exchanging results of self-analysis toolkits in Developing Self seminars, people can be more aware of their own strengths and weaknesses as well as receive feedbacks from others. Their Johari Window of what I know and what others know can be more extended.

For a young child, telling a secret to the person he or she likes is a big deal. But the secrets that are told are minor, probably about a favorite item or candy. Not knowing at the time but social penetration theory is going on. Information about oneself is communicated to friends, loved ones, and acquaintances on a daily basis, sometimes without knowing we are revealing personal information. As we get older we knowingly reveal information to a person that we have a connection with. Social Penetration Theory is, “The process of developing deeper intimacy with another person through mutual self-disclosure and other forms of vulnerability” (Griffin, Ledbetter, Sparks, 2015). The closer we are to an individual the more information we reveal, the greater the bond becomes. This theory is important to understand because it sets the framework for how we reveal ourselves to others and helps set up other communication theories. In the next sections we will take a closer look into the theoretical overview on social penetration theory and also, discuss the synthesis of scholarship.

Human Relations, communication, and interaction with others are key components to effective educational leadership. These are the foundation as to what leadership lies upon. This continues to be important in education, as accountability in schools and its workers are constantly being increased. In order to work well within the organizational environment of a school, superintendents, coaches, teachers, parents, community members and students must be able to communicate in a variety of effective modalities (Razik & Swanson, 2010). These modalities gives school leaders the tools that they need to make effective decisions that can improve a school and all it’s components. Without an understanding of human relations and how it pertains to

Evaluating my own reflection was indeed something hard to do until I started learning Human Relations. Without self-awareness and self-disclosure, one can’t see his own reflection. It’s like a mirage in the dessert. We assume that something is there, but it won’t be there. And others mostly won’t envision the views we perceive. We may even have different opinions and may end up in fights.