I Am A Mother For The First Time

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In the summer of 1996, 30-year-old Jennifer Hopkins felt sick to her stomach at her job at GE Healthcare. She was just 11 weeks into her first pregnancy, and so in hopes of lifting her spirits, a co-worker performed an ultrasound to see the baby she was expecting. It was at this moment that not one, but two little heartbeats appeared on the monitor. In that instant, Jennifer truly felt like a mother for the first time. Growing up in Ottawa as the youngest of four siblings, with her closest sibling being six years older than her, Jennifer spent a lot of her time with primary and secondary care givers. She learned ideas and values about motherhood from her own mother, her grandmother, her siblings and other neighbourhood moms. The majority…show more content…
Though she knew that having twins decreased her chances of having a natural childbirth, Jennifer’s birthing experience was far from ideal. On March 6th 1997, the twins were delivered via emergency C-section, and were not even held up for Jennifer to see before being taken to the NICU, as Christopher weighed six pounds and six ounces, and Alexandra weighed only three pounds and 14 ounces. Jennifer was sent to recovery post-surgery and was not allowed to see, let alone hold, the babies until 36 hours after birth, after the children’s father (Jennifer’s then-husband), and both sets of grandparents were given the chance. Jennifer felt robbed of the experience of being handed your child right after birth, and feared that without the skin-to-skin contact that is so highly praised, she was already harming the babies’ development. Abby Epstein, the director and producer of The Business of Being Born, also talked about feeling robbed of the experience of a more natural birth with her friend Ricki Lake, saying “The other births that we filmed, that we saw, there’s just that moment, it’s like the orgasm, at the end....where they put this baby in your arms” (“The Business of Being Born”), when asked if she feels if she missed out. This is common, as many of the expectations that women have surrounding birth comes from media, such as movies as What To Expect When You’re Expecting and Breaking Dawn Part I,
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