“Kenny I bet I can carry more boxes than you!” I yelled to my younger brother as we struggled to haul as many boxes as we could at once into our dad’s new apartment. While moving all of my dad’s belongings into his new home, I noticed Kenny crack a smile for the first time in a long time as he realized that he is winning our little game. The truth was, I made sure to carry fewer boxes than he did, to make him think that he was out-doing me. I thought up more games while we helped our dad move in so that my brother would not think about the fact that our parents were getting a divorce and would never live in the same house again. I was six years old and my brother was four when they divorced and it was already having an effect on him. I knew my brother needed me to show him that we would be ok and that he needed someone in his life to step up and be his role model. As his brother, I instinctively knew that I had to be the one to step up for him. I had my parents as role models, but it was hard for Kenny to use them as role models because the thought of them reminded him of the divorce. I knew that I would have to rely upon what I learned from my parents, and relay this information to him. My …show more content…
She was able to balance a difficult divorce, working as a substitute teacher, going to college, and taking care of us. I knew that if she could do all of those things for us, then I could take on more responsibilities around the house and in my brother’s life. Being my brother's role model meant that every choice I made affected not only me but him too. I always tried my best in school and listened to my mom in hopes that he would follow suit and do the same. At times it was difficult and I almost faltered, because like any kid I wanted to goof off in school, not do my homework, and stay up past my
From working several jobs at a time to make sure I had everything I needed, she became the reason why I was raised the way I raised. The lesson that “ I should treat everyone like the most important person in the world because I will never know when I might need them” was engraved in my head was owned by my mother. Sometimes she would tell me that she had holes in her socks and I knew it was due to most of her money going towards my private school tuition in order for me to be able to have the best education I could get. My mother is my background, my identity, interest, and talent. She is truly the one that has set me up for success, regardless of how fatigued or overworked she is. She is the person who truly defines who I am and who I have become to this
Watching my mother live from pay check to pay check when I was young was difficult. It was always hard for my mom to keep up with other parents but, she still somehow managed to get me everything I wanted, and more. Even though I was too young to understand, I could feel the stress, and the struggles my mom faced every day. She was only 20 years old when I was born and, because of that she had no choice but to grow up fast. At such a young age, I saw the effects of being a single parent, and the ways it changed my mom. She not only had to be a young mother but, she had to find a way to replace the void of a father, or a father figure in my life. My mom was strong, independent and courageous. Growing up watching her live her dreams under all the circumstances she faced, made me want to strive for a better life for myself. Seeing how hard is was to live and to have enough
One of the things my mom did that explains why she is my role model would have to be the time in which I was in the middle of a custody
Being a divorcee, she devoted her life to raising me and giving me everything I needed to succeed, starting with a strong Christian environment and education. One of my fondest memories was of her taking me to Sunday school then going to her class. Guess what.... her Sunday School Teacher was my 1st grade teacher. I felt so good on Monday mornings when I walked into school, seeing my teacher's smiling face and, knowing she was my Mom's teacher too.
She pushed me to pursue college, she offered opportunities to serve the community, and she was a great role model during the roughest patches of my life. She taught me how to be kind and compassionate, how to love others unconditionally and how to stand firm in my religious beliefs when peer pressure ran high. She was the mother that I lacked at home and she took me under her wing and molded me into the person I am today.
Every day she pushes me to go to school every morning so I can have a better education than she did. A better education is a brighter future. She’s always saying “I want you to experience all the things that I couldn’t.” She is such a great motivation. Every time I want to give up she helps me understand why giving up isn’t an option. Especially because this is my senior year. There are some people in this world that don’t have their mother or father and it’s really tough for them. I’m one who doesn’t have their father but shout out to my mom doing her job so well, I never needed him. She played her role well and also played his. Without her I don’t know where I’d be. I’m very appreciative. Thank God for giving me her. Well, giving her me. She is a
I am the spitting image of my mother. High cheekbones, fair skin, and a wild head of hair, have made me main stage at family events, as every relative swarms to see how big I've grown and how much more I resemble my mom from the last time they saw me. This woman is my rock, my idol, my protector, and friend. Growing up at home it was just me, my mom, and my older brother, and even with my dad's slight presence, my mom's always been both a mother and father figure to me. Through financial struggles, she was able to raise two very academically involved children, while juggling a 9-5 work day and trying to go back to school. No matter the situation she made sure my brother and I received the best of the best, from every birthday
It wasn’t till I got older that I truly realized how much she has done for my siblings and I, and I probably don’t know the entirety of everything she has done. Mom’s are some of the strongest and bravest warriors there are. If you ask me what a hero is, I’ll describe to you my
But day by day year by year she finds the strength inside herself to go on. Since the passing of her mom her siblings have all went separate ways her brother Shane lives in Missouri with his wife and kids, her brother Jason lives in Biloxi Mississippi with his kids, and her sister lives in Missouri with her son. They don’t talk much anymore but they talk on occasion. I admire my mother. She brought me to this world, cared for me, and taught me a lot. She also listened to me all the time. She is my protector and angel in this world. In the future, if I could be a mother, I would like to be as my dear mother: a special, simple woman with a lot of love to give. My mom has inspired me to be strong and to be there for my family. She is a single parent of four, working but also trying to be there for all of us kids. Even when times get rough she is still always there for us kids. Her words of encouragement didn’t work immediately. Now that I am older and more mature I know she was right. My mom is a big motivation in my life to this day. She is standing behind me on my positive decisions in life and confronting me on the negative ones. One day I will have my own family and I hope to be half the woman my mother
Her father had been murdered when she was a small child. I never heard my mother talk about the sacrifices that she made for her family. Despite the sacrifices and challenges that she made, she went on to have a full life. Thus, my mother was my greatest role model of what I could do in my own life.
For as long as I can remember my was always there for me. Deep down I honestly feel like she molded me for my future. She made me who I am today by teaching me responsibility, finances and life struggles.She never bothered to hide the cruelty of the real world.
She taught me important lessons and one of them was how to be an independent female. she told me if I wanted to be successful, college will lead you the right path that you need to be at. Whenever she told me stuff like this, it would help and encourages me a lot. I have never been in any hard situation in my life and that’s because my mom is always by my side. Whether she’s away from me or not, distance will never separate us no matter what. she is my inspiration and he keeps me motivated to get my degree heart Surgeon, my dream job.
Mom did the best she could to fill the role of both a mother and a father figure. I was able to compete in athletics and attend all school functions. She appeared at every one of my athletic events when she wasn 't working. We lived a happy and simple life. She always made sure that I had a dollar or two in my pocket. She made life for a young teenager a happy memory. In retrospect, I was spoiled I 'm sure.
No matter how stressful life gets for me and how chaotic things can become there has always been one person that I can turn to, my mother. She’s been a wealth of advice to call on when I’m clueless and a shoulder to cry on when I’m down. Her compassion for others inspires me to be a better person as does the guidance she has given me over the years. She’s not afraid to give me a reality check and to tell me the things I don’t want to hear even though I need to. She keeps me grounded and teaches me to appreciate the smaller things in life. Even though my father was still involved in my life after my parents split up it was my mother who I primarily lived with and it was her who had the greatest influence on my life growing up.
This person gives the family a sense of dignity” (Bradshaw 33). In a healthy family there may be roles being played but they are flexible and changing. It is dysfunctional for one person to play a rigid role such as “Hero” and that is what was going on with Shawn. I don 't think my family was drastically dysfunctional, or that we really needed to have a "hero," but for some reason, my dad felt we needed one. By putting so many demands on my brother to be perfect, he took away his freedom to think, feel, to take risks, and to be his true self. This was a form of the Poisonous Pedagogy (Bradshaw 7) that Bradshaw talks about. “Children are considered ‘good ' when they think and behave the way they are taught to think and behave” (Bradshaw 7). This was exactly my dad’s way of thinking. He drilled that into us as children. I think my dad really meant well and wanted us to succeed in life. Even though he drilled this success talk into us, he was still kind and did always encourage us and tell us good things about ourselves. One way he demonstrated this was every morning he would wake me up and sing these words to me “Hey did you happen to see the most beautiful girl in the world (Charlie Rich)”. It’s funny, I find myself singing to my boys in the morning, and sometimes they get so irritated, just like I used to. I bet someday they will sing to their children in the morning.