Infidelity Is Not That Big Of A Deal

One of the largest reasons that couples in the US get divorced is because one member of the couple commits infidelity with an outside member. Infidelity includes being unfaithful to your spouse or leaving your spouse to be with another more desired partner (Amato & Previti, 2003). When it comes to infidelity, more often than not one spouse will cite the other as having been the offender than themselves (Austin Institute, 2014). Reports from the Austin Institute

Over seven billion people living on earth we are all diverse in our characteristics. We live in societies made up with laws and don’t have the freedom to exploit another person right. People who disobey laws and misuses another person rights are known as morally sick and selfish. They never bear the shame of their actions and always fails to understand others. While laws only ensure peace in a society, families that makes a society needs better understanding between a husband and a wife. Now with divorce rate that is growing higher by each year, Sociologists and psychologists are pointing many aspects and actions of couple that must be taken into consideration before we expect a happy life. Among them “Mark Karpel”, “Abraham Maslow” and

Throughout history, divorce has remained a controversial topic. Perceptions of divorce have drastically changed essentially because the value of marriage has changed. Marriage was once seen as a practical necessity and an irrevocable commitment. The view of marriage caused divorce to be perceived as a stigma. Divorce in earlier generations was not granted by the court system unless there were extenuating circumstances (Evolution). For example, if the woman in the marriage was unable to conceive children the divorce would be granted to the man. This remained the standard practice until the 1970’s with the introduction of “no-fault divorces” (Croteau).

Throughout time, practices that were once never used, become more common. In the 1600s divorce was a forbidden practice or a last resort. Since then, laws have changed, and so hasn’t the stigma related with divorce. The guilt and fault that divorce once carried has vanished. According to the book Should I Keep Trying to Work it out, “In the United States, researchers estimate that 40%–50% of all first marriages will end in divorce or permanent separation. The risk of divorce is even higher for second marriages, about 60%.” (Hawkins 42). As it became more common for couples in America to separate, divorce gradually became a normal part of so many lives. Why are so many couples separating now? Through research on EBSCO, and other findings, I will attempt to explain this question that so many people ask in today’s world. The divorce rate in America is drastically increasing over time due to new laws, certain generations, and relationship issues.

Levinger’s theory of marital dissolution (1965), proposes that “divorce is a function of inducements to remain in the marriage, specifically the attractions of the marriage and barriers to leaving, and inducements to leave the marriage, specifically the attractiveness of the alternatives to staying. The attractions of the marriage are conceptualized as the ratio of the relationship’s rewards to its costs”. He describes the rewards of marriage as love, respect, trust, sex. He describes costs as abusive behavior, while including barriers for leaving a marriage despite rising costs such as children, pressures from relatives, religious beliefs and social standards. However, the appeal of rewards sometimes triumphs over the costs and further strengthens the barriers to divorce, which means that not all unhappy marriages end in divorce, and sometimes happy marriages can end, if there are more attractive alternatives producing higher rewards (Lewis and Spanier, 1979). For example, couples who have pro-marriage views and life-values are more prone to staying in a relationship only for the sake of the relationship, even after costs such as infidelity, loss of closeness and incompatibility, if they are guaranteed a socioeconomic stability. On the other hand, once happily married couples whose rewards are no longer higher

The best way to teach others how divorce, in certain relationships, frees the families from bondage is by using personal experience because individuals who have experienced divorce find it easier to explain the facts of divorce. From childhood, many parents teach their children that divorce is wrong and that there becomes a way to fix the circumstances. At a young age, Kingsolver inherited a definition of divorce from her family and friends. Kingsolver held these beliefs about divorce: “That it 's a lazy way out of marital problems. That it selfishly puts personal happiness ahead of family integrity.”(Kingsolver). Society teaches the principle of family integrity, and that when the spouse of a divorce leaves they are only thinking for themselves. Although, principles do change and the perception of divorce can change too. Kingsolver, from experience, claims, “I had no idea how thoroughly these assumptions overlaid my culture until I went through divorce myself.”(Kingsolver). Divorce is commonly misunderstood, and frowned upon, but the many who face such trials are left with the understanding of what divorce really extracts from families, and the

With a major upsurge of divorces beginning in the forties, experts argue that divorce was and still remains a social problem. From a religious perspective, historically theologians and moralists have disapproved of divorce and decreed divorce as a dysfunctional and disruptive of the stability of society , the family and the welfare of children and the well being of adults. In addition, sociologists imply that divorce is undesirable and promote familial disorganization. The increase of divorce has threatened the normativity of intact families, thus divorce defies the desirable family structure. Psychologists, including children psychologists and social workers emphasized several deleterious consequences of divorce in terms of the

“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce,” states Jennifer Weiner, a New York Times Bestselling author, in her novel, Fly Away Home. Although Weiner has a point in voicing that a dispirited and forlorn relationship can corrupt the innocent mentality of children, it is vital that she also considers the darker, more sinister side of divorce. To put the term ‘divorce’ simply, it “is what husband and wife do together when they no longer wish to do anything together“ (Yantiss). If for any reason one may feel as if their current marriage isn’t right, isn’t working out, for them, one way to solve that problem would be divorce: the

Data published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology suggests some 25% of men and 15% of women will be unfaithful to their partner at some point in their relationship. This data reveals that affairs can and do occur even in what many would consider a happy relationship. The statistical data fails to do justice to the emotional trauma that is caused by infidelity. Thankfully, there is hope for affair recovery Little Rock, AR through focused therapy.

Infidelity is one of the most challenging issues that come up in marital therapy for the simple fact that it usually layers a major issue (the infidelity) over other major issues (finances, intimacy, communication) and each layer involves a unique and, at times, competing set of interventions. The latter grouping is usually very receptive to skills work; once capacity to work through the issues within the couple is developed the problems or issues facing the couple tend to create less distress in the relationship or are resolved, although the issue around intimacy tends to be a bit more complicated. When infidelity is thrown into the mix these other issues are typically not seen as the priority by one or both spouses and even discussing these underlying factors can prove difficult as the infidelity typically acts as a contagion.

In today’s society it seems that divorce is as common as marriage. Statistics have shown that 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. In looking at the information available I decided to look at common causes of divorce and look how each one affects the marriage and creates dissension and animosity in the relationship.

Marriage used to be a long-life institution once established between two people. Even in troublesome times, people struggled to remain married for the sake of their children and to prevent the criticism of society. Today, however, this norm has been relaxed with the 700 % increase in divorce that America has seen since the early 1900’s. This accepted deviance once created chaotic opposition. However, today it is more common for a marriage to fail. Surprise and admiration are gained if a marriage lasts more than five years. In essence, it could be argued that the relaxation of this norm has created more irresponsibility and selfishness in society leaving children in the midst of a break-up.

Due to the many incidences of extramarital affairs, the percentage of couples seeking therapy while coping with adultery is largely unknown. Even with the enormous amount of occurrences, as well as clinical research in couple’s therapy, only three earlier studies have delved into the actual usefulness that couples therapy has had on extramarital affairs (Marin, Christensen & Atkins, 2014).

I do understand from this reading that adultery and divorce were complicated issues, often deeply ingrained and difficult to treat, but I think we need to be successfully communicate what we know that there will be hard times and there is a possibility of

“DIVORCE” – Just the sound of such word in any married couple or children’s ear can cause great agony that can even become terminal. Research and personal experience, has proven that in today's society, divorce is more common amongst newlyweds. Since 2009 the rate of divorce has increased to approximately forty percent, There are three out of every ten marriage that ends up in divorce before it reaches the stage of maturity, and the most prevalent results are – lack of communication and infidelity.