Its Just Me Know: Life After The Death of My Spouse

“The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely, or unhappy is to go outside... Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be”(Anne Frank). In the story, “Diary of a Young Girl”, by Anne Frank, Anne is a young Jewish girl who has to flee into hiding during the Holocaust and writes in her diary about what goes on. At the beginning Anne is sociable, but as the war progresses she becomes lonely. Therefore I believe that loneliness can change a person.

“Actually, feeling lonely has little to do with how many friends you have. It 's the way you feel inside. Some people who feel lonely may rarely interact with people and others who are surrounded by people but don 't feel connected” (Karyn Hall 2013). Truthfully, loneliness is something almost all people fear. It 's a deeper feeling then just being isolated. It 's feeling distant or disconnected from others. Loneliness is so much more than just feeling secluded, it 's feeling rejected by society, or even like an outcast. In Of Mice and Men, John Steinbeck suggests that there is a deeper meaning to being lonely than just the superficial sense of

Loneliness has become an epidemic among young adults and spared out in elders’ everyday life where social isolation has become a cause of early death because we cannot cope alone.

Oftentimes, people confuse loneliness with the state of being alone. When looking at the overall big picture, it is easy to forget that loneliness is temporary. People are not alone because even back in primitive times, they bore a natural instinct to strive for companionship in order to survive. Human imagination creates companions in cases of extreme loneliness which contradicts the state of being alone. Due to societal and family standards, others in society make it practically impossible to be alone. Mankind often goes through life without realizing the overwhelming amount of human contact and support. People are never alone, they are just simply

While past Christmas gatherings were full of joy, this time bittersweet feelings hung heavy. Several relatives drove down from northern California, so I was able to meet family members whom I had either never met or had not seen in years. Seeing Grandmama weak in bed, straining to speak, wrenched my heart. However, I had the opportunity to spend time with my relatives throughout the evening. Despite difficulties, my family came together and celebrated what mattered with Grandmama for the last time.

Nouwen (1975) describes loneliness as a universal experience that affects even the most intimate relationships. He identifies loneliness as one of the universal sources of human suffering. Some of the mental suffering in the

In normal life, people will sometimes suffer from depression or sickness caused by the loss of a loved one in a romantic or family relationship. This has been a part of life for hundreds of years and it is a way that authors like Edgar Allan Poe, William Faulkner and Horacio Quiroga connect with people all throughout the world. Using exaggerated scenarios, these authors communicate how much of an impact isolation or abandonment can have on a person physically or mentally decaying.

Everyone has a favorite holiday. There is Valentine’s Day, St. Patrick’s Day, the Fourth of July, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and then there is everyone’s favorite- Christmas! Christmas comes with the feeling of warmth, of family, and of home. What happens, though, if all one ever knew during Christmas time was completely changed? What happens if home just is not home anymore? Sandra M. Castillo addresses that situation that actually occurred in her own life in her poem, “Christmas, 1970.” Castillo moved from Cuba to the United States in 1970 and as an eight-year old she reveals her true feelings during and about the Christmas season. Throughout the poem, she reveals a theme of what home means to her, written in her point of view as she sits under her aunt’s Christmas tree at her aunt’s apartment. Castillo uses devices like symbolism, imagery, and flashback to support her them that no one can return to their childhood home.

I engulf the feeble victim in seemingly unescapable loneliness, overtaking the joys of their heart and ensnaring them in a pit of desolate solitude. The sense of bleakness will overcome the senses and suck out all the bliss they hold close. Because it appears most of humanity rely on one another for comfort and joy, the unavoidable reality of being unaccompanied is enough to drive a man mad. I describe the sense of separation that strikes a soul, sucking out every ounce of remembrance and comfort the past attempts to bring. Yesterday will never return, just as tomorrow always comes; it’s inevitable. Once I reach you, it’s a struggle to get rid of this parasite that I am, called isolation. There comes a point where the victim will decide

Loneliness attaches us just as a placenta sticks tightly to a baby when it is still in its mother's belly. There is loneliness that does not come from the isolation or inadequacy. There is loneliness that comes from disagreements in love, gender, religion, generation, and the not-in-tune souls. Cutting loneliness out of our lives is just like resecting a part of our body. Therefore, what we could do is not elimination but an acceptation.

Generally almost all loneliness can be traced back to low or below "average" self-esteem. Chronically lonely people will usually have low opinions of themselves. They may think of themselves as unintelligent, unattractive, broken, unwanted, not worthy of good things, no good, unable to do anything right, and/or socially isolated. Unlike many other emotionally hurting people, the chronically lonely usually know what is wrong, but like many others they don't believe they can do anything to fix it, or, circling back to the low self-esteem, they may also believe they are not worth of happiness.

Many times a person can be surrounded by many people and still be lonely on the inside. When people think of the word lonely or loneliness, we tend to picture someone sitting by themselves all alone. Being lonely not only means to be isolated, but it is defined in other ways also. Loneliness can be defined as having sadness because one has no company or being unfrequented or remote—isolation. A person could be isolated from people and still not be lonely, or a person could be in a group of people and feel like the loneliest human-being on earth. Sometimes people try so hard not to be lonely that they begin to make themselves more miserable by forcing themselves to feel happy.

To begin with, loneliness is a mental state. Loneliness has no single common cause. Loneliness can cause people to feel depressed, empty, unwanted, and alone. Some reasons people feel lonely are: physical isolation, moving, divorce, death of a loved one, and low self-esteem. In the article, “Loneliness: Causes, Effects and Treatments for Loneliness,” Kendra Cherry claims, “Loneliness, according to many experts, is not necessarily about being alone [although this is a factor]. Instead it is the perception of being alone and isolated that matters the most” (Cherry 2). While loneliness is strongly connected to genetics, it is also factored by your current situation. For example, a person who has just ended a four-year

I feel merciless gusts of cold wind from the swinging church doors as I grab my dress coat and search for my sisters. There is an energy of excited hurriedness as churchgoers pile up and wedge through the main exit to carry out other Christmas Eve plans. It is the most important night of the year for my family and I have grown to love our traditions profoundly. I spot my family through the crowd and we slip out of the side door and begin to tread up the ice-covered hill toward our grandparent's house. In the midst of our slippery trek, I manage to capture a few moments of peace, pulling my eyes away from my snow coated heels and letting them settle on a perfect yuletide scene. Delicate snowflakes float about the crisp evening air illuminated by strings of multicolored Christmas lights that outline my grandparent’s cozy home. I become numb to the discomfort of the wintry atmosphere and melt in the presence of this divine moment. A cheerful glow starts to tingle throughout my body with anticipation for tonight. We approach the front step and begin to smell the mouth-watering fixings of Christmas dinner that we would devour later that evening and hear the joyous conversation of relatives already inside.

Loneliness seems to have become a common characteristics that individuals share around the world. Although this is a subject that has been a part of discussions and a focus of research for many years in philosophy , theology, psychology and literature, the scientific study has had a relatively short record. In this day and age there have