“The most misinterpreted and misused word is the word, love. It is apparent that the theory and practices of some individuals and groups in our society today who use words, phrases and slogans of love do not convey its real meaning and are used out of context” (Love and its Misuse and Misinterpretation. (n.d.). Retrieved October 6, 2015). We love food, dogs, learning; but what is love according to relationships and what does love look like. Even though the undefinable emotion is commonly used throughout American culture as a simple expression it has more meaning. Everyone wants love, but no one is sure on what that looks like. A researcher named John Alan Lee developed six different love styles that people tend to fall into. In this paper I will discuss the six different love styles in relation to my “Love Style” Inventory, and “Are You a Good Listener” survey. When trying to understand love, one must know how to communicate. When communicating, listening is probably the most important element for any relationships rather intimate or professional. Many people, including myself, strongly feel as though they are great listeners and do not need any improvement in this particular skill. However, according to “Are You a Good Listener” survey, my listening skills were not up to par. Scoring a 97 out of 125, showed me that I’m a good listener but not quite perfect. An exceptional listener is someone who is gifted, selfless, and overall enjoys conversing with others. My
The human idea of love is quite possibly the most misunderstood in today’s society. Love can be between a man and woman, mother/father and their kids, or even really good friends. However, these relationships of love go through many interactions and stages to start and progress. Many psychological events must occur and be worked through in order to be successful. All relationships must endure the five perspectives of human behavior. These perspectives are biological, learning, social and cultural, cognitive, and psychodynamic influences.
Listening is a very complicated skill that many people do not posses. It requires individuals to reflect and to admit to their flaws. In order to communicate effectively it is important to know when to talk and listen. Peterson’s book is an excellent tool to enhance all types of relationships.
Love is a commonly misinterpreted concept that is many times taken for granted and unsurprisingly difficult to thoroughly comprehend. Love is an intangible conception and a condition of the mind that allows one to transcend emotional barriers between one another. In Raymond Carver’s short-story “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love”, love is illustrated in several different ways to provide insight on the various forms of love and how they transcend these emotional barriers.
Laura Kipnis’s “Against Love”, and Raymond Carver’s “What We Talk about When We Talk about Love” ,brings up the issue of what is the definition of love and is love what we think it is. Love has changed in comparison to what it once was, and we now loosely use the term, but what does it truly mean, and why do we buy in to it. Kipnis’s essay develops the idea that this “mature love” is when someone can love and be loved, and she takes the position that this does not happen. Although Kipnis believes mature love is neither a realistic expectation nor a good thing to have, I claim that the idea of mature love is not bogus, because even though it is rare to find, and may even take a few tries, I believe it is possible for people to have this mature love. Unlike Kipnis too, I believe mature love can take on different forms, and doesn’t have to just be so black and white like Kipnis explains it as.
In the essay, Love’s Vocabulary by Diane Ackerman, the author describes how love is something that is difficult to command or explain. Throughout the essay, she describes how love comes in different forms and strengths. People express love with art and music. Throughout the world, love is becoming a word that is used most of the time in our daily language. People see love as something that can be crueler than violence or hatred, meaning it can be very painful. Throughout the essay, Ackerman’s use of figurative language demonstrates the tone of the essay is informative for its informing the reader how there are different parts to love.
Diane Ackerman’s purpose for writing her essay “Love’s Vocabulary” is to inform the reader not to underestimate love since love is the great intangible and cannot be defined, but can be felt. The neutral and positive connotation of words such as “monotone” and “delirium” suggest Ackerman’s passionate tone about how love cannot be the same constant emotion that is felt everyday, but a powerful feeling that has many meanings since love is an emotion that is older than humanity itself. Ackerman’s use of figurative language, particularly metaphor and personification, reveal that Ackerman is trying to inform the reader that love is to intangible to be defined in a single word that is often used, which can also connect to her irritating attitude
In the essay, “Love’s Vocabulary,” Diane Ackerman communicates the idea through figurative language, that love is an emotion that is seen universally, but no one can explain what it is. For instance, the analogy about music conveys Ackerman’s idea as it suggests that every person from different time periods and locations recognize love just as they recognize music, but they cannot comprehend its meaning.
What is Love? Does anyone really know the meaning of the word? Does it have a different meaning to different people? In Kipnis’s essay “Love Labors”, Laura Kipnis touches on many different aspects of love. This is a touchy subject simply because love brings out many different opinions and beliefs. Kipnis argues over the fact that in order to have a good relationship and love someone people have to be able to meet certain requirements, which are mutuality, communication, and advanced intimacy.
Love is said to be the greatest human experience in which mankind are privilege to partake in. To love can be a wondrous experience filling life with bliss and other strong emotions. Some people believe to love is to be alive and be able to see the good in the world and others. The purpose of this paper is to examine and find a better understanding of what is love, to explore what people believe love to be, and what lies surround the perception of love and to explore and expose what the meaning true love is or at the very least the authors understanding of the perception of love. In addition to exploring the concept, deception and the truth of love,
In 2008 the snowboarding brand, Burton released the contentious ‘Love’ series of snowboards, which featured images of 80’s playboy bunnies emblazoned on the boards. Parmett reviews academic debate concerning the objectification of women in sport and uses the series of boards as a case study of modern gendered lifestyle branding.
on for decades. Some of us have felt love, and some of us have been in love. But
While people are often able to identify when they feel the emotion love, love itself seems to defy definition. In her polemic “Against Love”, Laura Kipnis argues that love cannot exist as traditional expressions of love such as marriage, monogamy, and mutuality. However, in her argument, she defines love incorrectly by equating love to expressions of love. This definition lacks a component essential to understanding the abstract concept of love: emotion. Recognizing love as emotion helps us realize that, contrary to Kipnis’ argument love by nature transcends all expressions of love. Love is subjective and exists in any and all forms. In her argument that love cannot survive as conventional expressions of love, Kipnis ignores the nature of love as emotion in favor of equating love to different expressions of love. Love is a force which exists above expressions of love; a true understanding of love can only come from an assessment of how individuals, not societies, respond to the emotion.
Max Shulman’s piece, “Love is a fallacy” expresses many arguments expressed during every day social interactions. In the piece, the author comes into contact with his roommate, Petey Bellows and a possible love interest, Polly Espy. The author makes many unjustified guess pertaining to their wisdom and intelligence, and these false pretenses contribute to his interactions with the two, and he aims to take advantage of the opportunity of manipulating the two into achieving his own selfish desires. His plan backfires, and he is forced to reconsider his actions. In the process, Max Shulman reveals that his piece is both anti-women, anti-men, and Shulman underestimates the intuitive and emotional aspects of love.
“I love you.” These three little words might possibly be the most powerful statement one can make to another person. In life, most yearn for the intimate affection that a certain someone can provide them. Women dream of their Prince Charming to come and sweep them off their feet, while men search for the love of their life that sets their heart on fire. But what happens when love is thrown around without a second thought? Has this four letter word become an overused cliché? Has love been replaced with lust? Is there such a thing as true love? This last question has been asked throughout history, while many have argued and debated over the final answer. We, as a society, have become a loveless, sex crazed group
When discussing love, people generally think about the love between a husband and wife, or the love between a couple in a romantic partnership, and that is one type of love that I will be discussing. In addition to romantic love, there are other types of love also. There is the love we have for our children, our families, and also the love that we have for our friends. All of these types of love share some of the same attributes, however, they have differences also. In reading and researching different types of love, I have found that romantic love and friendship seem to be the most similar in nature, although they have differences, they share a lot of the same attributes. I found that friendship and romantic love tend to have more similarities than differences. In this paper I will examine romantic love and friendship. I will discuss the definitions of the two, and what elements each of these have. I will discuss the different theories of love, and I will compare and contrast the similarities and differences between romantic love and friendship.