Sitting with my aunt Alning and cousin Vincent is a pleasant reprieve from the bustle inside the house. A slight breeze cuts the air as I overlook the balcony. Rice fields stretch out past the horizon. Coconut trees, that my grandfather planted, stand tall with ripe coconuts waiting to be butchered open. Smoke from an outdoor cooking pit thickens the air-- a warning the farewell feast is well on its way.
It’s been thirteen years since I’ve been back in the Philippines and the first time I’ve visited it as an adult. To learn more about my mother’s family I decided to interview my aunts and uncles-- Tita’s and Tito’s-- about past memories. Growing up, I knew my mother’s family was very poor, but also very close. In the beginning of my mother’s life, she, her six brothers, and four sisters lived in a mud hut and walked miles to get to school. My grandfather was a farmer and eventually moved his family on decent land where he grew rice to support his family. Coming back to the Philippines I wanted to learn more about my maternal family. My ambition was to one day keep a written record of my maternal family’s legacy to pass down to future generations so they wouldn’t lose sight of who they are and where they came from especially if I decided to marry someone who wasn’t Filipino.
On that balcony my first interview was with Tita Alning. Her son--my cousin-- Vincent-- or as I like to call him Manong Vincent-- sat beside her. Manong is used to show respect to an older male brother or cousin. He sat there somewhat of an interpreter. Tita Alning knows how to speak English, but there are just some words she may not know how to cross over well from Tagalog to English, hence, Manong Vincent being our interpreter.
“Thanks for doing this Tita Alning,” I said as I whipped out my iPhone and turned on the Voice Memo App. “My first question is, what is a memory you have of grandpa and grandma? Something that stands out?” Manong Vincent and I watch her as she tries to think of a memory. Vincent tries to rephrase my question so she can answer it.
“Ah! I have something I remember!” she exclaims.
Part of her story involves her conflict between moving to Mindanao or Manila, two different cities on two different islands.
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