My Interest With My Parents

It doesn't matter what lies behind or before us, what matters is what lies within us. Self love is to believe in ourselves that we are valuable which  indirectly builds up from the independence and freedom we get from our family, culture and believe. The text shows Independence and self love which includes the following texts. The memoir “The Glass Castle” by Jeannette Walls represents the struggles  the way  she overcome them in various self independent ways. The song “I ” by Kendrick Lumar represents the affection and self love towards oneself  and “The Other Family” by Himani Bennerji shows the complexity of a daughter who is struggling to achieve her own self love and independence. Firstly, childhood struggles and difficulties can be overcome if one loves them and they are passionate to achieve their goals and dreams. Secondly, our experience of the family can help to shape our independence and to halt our progress as we are reliable on them. Finally, accepting ourselves and investing in self love makes us capable to achieve something in life. By examining the impact of  struggles, family and acceptance, this essay will demonstrate that finding self love regardless of family status influence our perspectives on ourselves and what we are capable of achieving.

Can you imagine your life without your parents? Your parents are the ones who teach you about what’s right and what’s wrong, about growing up, about respecting others, about life and death; they are the ones who help you to become who you are today. Without them, you would be lost; you would stumble without their loving guide. It’s true; however, some parents do not have the best influence upon their kids, damaging the kid’s potential goals in life. There are also times when one parent can influence you more than the other, just like in Hugo Hamilton’s memoir, The Speckled People. In his beautifully vivid written memoir, we encounter a young boy named Johannes who faces many misconceptions due to his father’s teachings. Throughout his naïve

There is something quite beautiful about the dynamic between a mother and her son. And how the initial grounds of dependency are rooted in physical and emotional nurturance. But once adolescence arrives, the ground seems to dissipate between one’s toes like the sands of an hourglass falling from its start to eventual finish. The lack of communication during the teenage years causes a separation between both parties, one that is at once necessary, but also torturous to better understand one another and individually.

A conscious level can be teaching other family member whereas an unconscious level is emotional behaviors or reactions (Bowen Theory, 2014). Parents actively shape their children while children respond to their parent attitudes, moods and actions. The consequence of parents shaping their children is parents cause their children to have the same level of differentiation as the parents. The children may then seek out mates with the same level of differentiation as mentioned in nuclear family emotional process. The levels of differentiation becomes more distinct over multigenerational as the differentiation is repeated through generations (Bowen Theory, 2014). The different levels of differentiation can affect the whole life functions of a multigenerational family from marital stability, longevity, health, reproduction, educational success or failure, and occupational success (Bowen Theory, 2014). The transmission occurring through multigenerational not only affect an individual’s sense of self but how the interact with other people.

My parents sent me to China soon after I was born to be in the care of my grandparents due to financial circumstances. For five years, I regarded my grandparents as my parental figures, and I always questioned why my “parents” were so old compared to my friends’ parents. I realized the truth the first time my mom called me and my grandparents told me who she was. After that phone call, my parents started to call me more frequently, and I always asked them questions about their life, as I was curious. Usually, I would forget these conversations, but sometimes, after a call, I wondered how different their lives were from mine’s; I imagined them as being wealthy and living in a big house. While I enjoyed talking to them, I never imagined the day that I would receive the shocking news that I was going to move to America to live with my

Healthy family relationships act as pillars for interactions with people outside the household. Families have a way of instilling people’s attitude, characters and the general perception towards life. Such are characters that are developed in

Throughout my childhood, I was always spoiled and pampered. I knew my parents loved me because of their actions. Till this day, I don’t think I’ve ever

Looking back at my past, I recall my mother and father’s relationship as if it were yesterday. I am only four years old, small and curious; I tended to walk around my home aimlessly. I would climb book shelves like a mountain explorer venturing through the Himalayans, draw on walls to open windows to my own imagination, or run laps around the living room rug because to me I was an Olympic track star competing for her gold medal; however my parents did not enjoy my rambunctious imagination. My parents never punished me for it but would blame each other for horrible parenting skills; at the time I did not understand their fights, but instead was curious about why they would fight.

Analyzing two families helped explain how roles can affect the strengths and weakness of all the family members. Family roles affect the expectations of the members that are included. The Shade’s observe to know who their role is. The children know the mother and father and who is the head of the household, same with themselves knowing they are the siblings, daughters and son. This family knows their roles within themselves give this family great strength. The affective roles such as the provider for food, clothing, and shelter are affected by the choices the parents make. The parents are in charge of family decisions. All the members within them offer the support and encouragement with their affective roles. The Shade’s show the five important

Parents shape so much of our early lives and we rely so heavily on them that a strong bond is created

I have come from a well-meaning but very scarring, ambivalent and dysfunctional family. My father was a sometimes physically, but often times very emotionally abusive person. Using a large amount of fear and intimidation of him to control our family and home. My mother regularly took out her anger and frustration towards my father on me since my parent’s first major separation when I was seven years old which in conjunction with the negative impact of my parents’ off and on separations leading up to their eventual divorce I developed depression, anger and other behavioral problems as well. I suffered many years of abuse from my mother as a result of these things. I understood both my parents cared for me, even though their actions often time both demonstrated it and contradicted it which lead to much confusion in relationships and friendships outside of my family. One of if not the most scarring experiences were of my mother and the adults she surrounded herself with sympathizing her abuse towards me because of the abuse she endured by my father and

Since I was a little girl I have always witnessed the kind of love my parents had for each other. I always noticed that in comparison with my friend’s parents as a couple they were less affectionate with one and other. As the years went by I could observe how that feeling of love between my parents became less and less stronger. At present they are going through a divorce, and as the only child of the relationship I have to suffer what comes with being in the middle of them. Even though I have seen the process in which the love of my parents went deteriorating, I still cannot understand how two people who swore before God to love each other until the end of their lives could no longer love each other.

To finalize this, a parent can influence his or her child in ways you can’t imagine. To us our parents are a symbol of respect and in some cases even wiseness. The mayority of us always admire our parents, for specific events they have done for our better, or for the simple fact that they gave birth to us. But not can

Creating and maintaining positive relationships have never been a strength of mine. Throughout my adolescent years, I formed an extremely unhealthy relationship with my parents. My attitude towards them were unpleasant and troubling. I had learned to isolate myself from them completely. I stopped telling them about school events, because I was too embarrassed of their presence. I halted all areas of our communication,

When discussing love, people generally think about the love between a husband and wife, or the love between a couple in a romantic partnership, and that is one type of love that I will be discussing. In addition to romantic love, there are other types of love also. There is the love we have for our children, our families, and also the love that we have for our friends. All of these types of love share some of the same attributes, however, they have differences also. In reading and researching different types of love, I have found that romantic love and friendship seem to be the most similar in nature, although they have differences, they share a lot of the same attributes. I found that friendship and romantic love tend to have more similarities than differences. In this paper I will examine romantic love and friendship. I will discuss the definitions of the two, and what elements each of these have. I will discuss the different theories of love, and I will compare and contrast the similarities and differences between romantic love and friendship.