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Personal Essay: When A Controller Got Controlled

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When a Controller Got Controlled Have you ever faced this kind of situation? You are an organizer of something, let’s say a band. You look for places to perform, you coordinate the rehearsal time and you buy all the necessary equipment for the band. However, some of the band members always come late to your rehearsals, and other members complain it’s not fair that they need to wait for the tardy ones and waste their time. You want to make your members happy, so you announce that anyone who comes late to the rehearsal will be kicked out from the band. But one day a girl called Susie just breaks up with her boyfriend and comes late to the rehearsal. You have no idea about Susie’s relationship issues of course. You don’t offer her any comfort, but kick her out of your band instead. Everything seems reasonable because …show more content…

The difficulty is that it’s hard to find a balance between my classmates and my teachers. No matter which side you choose, there is always someone left unhappy. And most of the time that someone is …show more content…

If I’m the controller, then I need to have a sense of control of the situation instead of being controlled. I would come up with a plan first before my teachers told me what to do, and then negotiated the plan with the teachers from my classmates’ perspective so the plan could be easier to be accepted by them. After the plan was made, I would explain the plan to my class and be willing to hear any advices but not complains, and interestingly, no one would speak at this time. Conflict solved. Because when you act actively, others can see your confidence and are more willing to listen to you, and eventually I found the key to stay clean and efficient is to isolate myself as a third party, become active, tell people what to do instead of asking them what they what to

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