Personal Relationship Wellness : Marriage

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Personal Relationship Wellness: Marriage Marriage requires effort and work. Many newlyweds come into a marriage thinking it is easy but do not consider the consequences of marriage that heavily rely on balances and partnership. Marriage is all about compromise. It is important to engage in a premarital program to allow both partners to learn what to expect within a marriage, how to face certain roadblocks, and to better communication when conflict is aroused so that divorce does not become an option. Gottman’s research (2009) has made a significant contribution to the study of relationship and marriage tying unity, harmony, and communication together to make relationship and marriage work. When a couple who does not have consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment), they often portray the six indicators of divorce: harsh startup, the Four Horsemen, flooding, body language, failed repair attempts and reflecting on bad memories (Gottman, 2009). Divorce often occurs within the first two years of marriages and almost half of divorces end within the first seven years (Bhutto-Ramirez, 2015).
Marriage
Marriage is a true testament of ability to withstand a person’s overall being. A strong marriage is a marriage that incorporates not only love but also having the complete form of love, consummate love. According to A triangular theory of love, consummate love is having all three components of the triangle: passion, intimacy, and commitment (Sternberg, 1986, p. 124).…
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