Deciding Marriage Most people start looking for there special someone at a very young age because they want to experience true love as soon as possible, but is that smart? Most people get to pick and choose who they want to date and potentially marry, but are they making the right decision? Are younger people educated enough to know what they are really doing? When people bring up the idea of parents picking who you marry they tend to despise that idea and basically say that's not happening, but if we really think about it they most likely have a lot more experience than us and more knowledgeable in relationships. Parents should choose who their children marry because they can choose from a more knowledgeable standpoint, they know the right time for marriage, and they can help their child make the correct decisions regarding marriage. The first reason why parents should give a say in who their child marries is because they can choose from a more knowledgeable standpoint. A study found in 5 Stages of The Human Brain Development states that, “The brain reaches its peak power around age 22 and lasts for 5 more years” (5 Stages of The Human Brain Development). This quote demonstrates that after an adult has become at least age 22 that there brain is fully developed. Also this also basically shows that after age 22 you will be much more informed on relationships and will have a knowledge of the right steps to make and correct things to do, and most of your parents exede the
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Also, this type of marriage is chosen because of social status. A rich family will want their heir to marry into a family that is worth their status. And lastly, very religious and cultural son and daughters will just agree to an arranged marriage because of the way they have been brought up since childhood and they know that they will not have to worry about their parents of not approving or rejecting of their choice of spouse.
I believe that marriage is not meant for everyone because a lot of people are just trying to find someone to buy time or someone to just be there for them. Marrying someone is a privilege, but it is a legal process that you must go through that just makes things complicated. There is a difference between dating and marrying someone. When dating someone, the couple is trying to find a bond between each other as if they are best friends, which can make the best relationship because you can be so close to each other. The only difference between marrying someone is the legal paperwork and a ring on your finger. Another reason I do not agree with Laurie Essig and Lynn Owens is because when couples get divorced, it tends to be a long court process. Usually there is a law involved with a divorce if the spouses have kids, and it usually ends with the mother having the kids and the father paying some sort of child support to help the mother. Growing up with a single mother I have experienced the struggle of not having a father figure around. This destroys a kids’ childhood because every child needs a father role to follow. In most cases my own mother played both roles. This occurs throughout most divorces or single parent homes. A child does not deserve to grow up without either roles in their life because it is not fair.
A common issue seen with this is the concept of arranged marriage. Some might think that this tradition only happens in third world or foreign countries. This is not the case. A journalist from Harvard, Anita Jain, writes about her difficulties and her parent’s persistence to get her married. Anita said, “My parents, in a very earnest bid to secure my eternal happiness, have been trying to marry me off to, well, just about anyone lately.” Although this could be seen as her parents trying to help her and find her a spouse, think if it was you in that position.
Another reason why parents should prevent their teens from dating certain people is that they are just trying to help their child on the path known as life. My parents have limited me from dating certain people and have given me guidelines to follow for the people that I may want to
Nicholas Wolfinger conducted a study that focused on the success rates in marriage among young people. Couples who get married at the age of twenty or earlier are fifty percent more likely to divorce than couples who marry after the age of twenty (Wolfinger. Nicholas). If teens were allowed to enter into marriage the divorce rates would likely raise significantly. The average human brain is not fully developed until the age of twenty-five. Lowering the age a student should be allowed to drop out without the brain being fully developed could cause an increase in unemployment.
A survey of 14000 adults states in ‘A Guide to Family Issues: The Marriage Advantage’ that marriage was a pertinent factor contributing to happiness and satisfaction with forty percent of the married individuals being happy as opposed to 25 percent of either single or cohabiting individuals. The same study shows that ninety eight percent of never married respondents wished to marry and out of those 88% believed that it should be a lifelong commitment. Even though, divorce rates are rising numerous researches show that young people aspire to have a lasting marriage.
Most people arrange marriages for their off springs because they think that they can find a more suitable mate for their offsprings and they believe that their offsprings should be married to someone of their own family status, the same salary and the same religion. Marriages continue to be arranged in order to enhance family resources, reputation, and alliances, and because parents and older relatives feel that they are more qualified than young people to make such decisions. In today's society parents are giving their children more power (not all the power) to make somewhat of a decision on who they're going to get married to. Some families still have strict rules on who their offsprings are going to marry but they still give
From Shakespearean time to present day, the dating and marrying of certain people has been put in the hands of teenagers. In the 14 to 1500’s parents always had a say in who their son or daughter was to marry. Things today aren’t like that, but in some cases parents don’t allow their children to date certain people. Some parents restrict who their teens date, and others want to allow their children freedom and to have their own independence in preparation for becoming an adult. Different parenting styles have a major impact on their teen’s future. Parent’s today should have the right to prohibit who their children date.
Those individuals who are proposed of the idea of arranged marriage ask the question “whether a parent can be trusted to find the right partner for a child” (Kolker, 62). These days parents and children argue about almost every single topic let alone finding a spouse for them. It sounds weird when a mother looks for brides for her grown son. But, marriage “as we understand it,
A recent article from The Atlantic, “The Case for Getting Married Young”, discusses the right time to get married. The author, Karren Swallow Prior talks about advantages and disadvantages of delaying to married and the change of someone marriage's reason. Although studies cited by the author is correct, in real life this case actually depends on who decides to marry at an early age because no one can guarantee will succeed or will be failed.
In the Shakespearian play, Romeo and Juliet, two teenagers fall in love. The only problem being that that was a time in which arranged marriages were common, and the two families hated each other. Because Romeo and Juliet were not allowed to marry the love of their life, this lead to secrets being made and rules broken so they could be happy together. In this scene, Juliet expresses her unhappiness to marry Paris, The man that has been selected to marry her. I think teens should be happy with who they are dating and not have it forced upon them, everyone deserves a chance to find love on their own. Holding teens back from things only leads to rebellion later on.
“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go.“―Erich Fromm. With love and promises comes a life changing situation- marriage. So at what age is it appropriate to marry? Teenage marriage has become a subject that many people have disagreed on over the last few decades. Some say that teenagers are not mature enough to marry, while others argue that if a teenager truly loves someone they should get married. If love is a promise, are teenagers prepared to make a commitment to marry someone else? Even though teenage marriage should be discouraged, the marriage can be successful if the couple puts Jesus first.
Arranged marriages are set up by friends and family, and sometimes by a matchmaker that sets up the marriage. But the bride’s father has the most responsibility in arranging marriage for his daughter, and is the one who approaches the father of a potential bridegroom. Important aspects when considering a possible match are financial status, caste, and the bride and bridegrooms horoscopes matching. The role of astrology is important, and if a Hindu priest finds that the horoscopes of the potential spouses do not match, they will not marry, and must begin the search all over again (Livermore, 2009). India’s view of marriage first and then love is very different from the Western view where love comes before marriage, seems to be successful. The
As the society changing, the history of marriage also changes. Marriage is legally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship, but do those two partners always have to be a man and a woman? Most people believe that homosexuals should be granted equal rights as heterosexual couples. Being as an important social issue, same-sex marriage has become a hot topic of public debates in the recent years. For over the past decade, public support for the same-sex marriage has quickly risen. The United States is one of over twenty countries that allow gay and lesbian couples to wed. I believe that same-sex marriage should be legalized in all countries for several reasons, such as being an issue of equal rights, separation of church and state, no negative effect on the heterosexual communities, increasing in child adoption, and decreasing divorce and suicide rates.
In the generation where my grandparents came from, marriages were purely arranged by the elderly. Mothers or aunts usually selected a marriage partner for their sons. My grandparents got married when both of them were very