Question: Where Do Our Attitudes About Good And Bad Language

Talking, it is a form of communication that we as people do because it is our human nature to. AS humans “conversation is a ritual” (327), we speak without thinking of other meanings that our words could mean. We don’t think about appropriation, the way others may think, or take other feelings into account. WE as humans speak to interact because as mentioned earlier “Conversation is a ritual” (327). When it comes to talking there is no right way, the way society communicates it can “mislead, distort, inflate, circumvent, obfuscate” one another.

Chapter four in the book Interpersonal Communication: Everyday Encounters explains that language has a set of predefined communication rules, which are taught from a very young age. They break these rules into two sections: regulative rules and constitutive rules. The book states that regulative rules “specify when, where, and with whom individuals talk about certain things.” Constitutive rules “specify how to interpret and perform different kinds of communication.”

Communication takes place in any and all locations, intentionally and unintentionally, and it can be positive or negative. Many of our personal traits and character qualities can affect how we communicate with other people, and how they communicate with us. Recently, I had an experience that further proved this point to me in a very real and tangible way.

Communication is defined as ‘a transactional process involving participants who occupy different but overlapping environments and create relationships through the exchange of messages, many of which are affected by external, psychological and physiological noise’ (Adler, R and Proctor, R. 2010). Communication doesn’t just mean verbal communication, as non-verbal communication is just as, if not, more important as verbal communication. According to Albert Mehrabian, only 7% of a message is communicated through verbal communication, 38% is communicated through your tone of

Communication isn’t just about talking. There are so many different elements to communicating in society. How a person gestures, the tone in an individual’s voice, an expression on a person’s face, how a person listens is all a part of communicating. As we all know, in order to communicate with one another we must be able to listen. I think in society people think that communication is all about speaking but in reality it is just a little piece to a bigger picture. In today’s society, listening seems to be a skill that is being neglected. Even though it is basically the first communication skill that we are exposed to, we have pushed it aside and chose speaking to dominate our lives. Researchers have discovered that fetuses can process incoming sounds during the last trimester of pregnancy, and that by 12 months children have learned sounds of and rules of their native language(Worthington, 3). This shows that children’s abilities to speak, read, write and reason are influenced highly by how well they are taught to listen. As parents we can all be teachers to our children so that they can grow up to be well-rounded communicators.

People in society develop their own language on how other’s see them which can be seen

People from different backgrounds may use and/or interpret communication methods in different ways because every family has their own way of communicating together. For example: some children might hear or speak more than one language at home or they could hear others swearing. This can affect children’s communication and how they communicate as adults.

Everyone is an individual but people from the same or similar backgrounds tend to communicate in the same ways. This is to do with shared culture, different experiences and family backgrounds. Therefore when communicating with people who have a similar background to you, you may assume that they will interpret what you are saying in the way you intended however you should not expect this to happen or use this as a method of course. The experiences of communication children have depend a lot on their home lives as experiences outside of the home environment and family circles at this age will be limited.

Different backgrounds also affect how people perceive body language and tone of voice, but also how their confidence and self-esteem allow them to communicate too. Social status can also hinder communication, because people may not be able to read written communication, or be introduced to holding a conversation with someone.

Language is an incredibly powerful tool for communication and the words we use control the

Linguistic stereotypes are an existent form of discrimination. Since, languages are criticized and mocked due to the connection between language and cultural character. Thus, language is significantly related to the identity of the speakers. In addition, languages are vulnerable to criticism due to differences in cultural behavior.

When communicating with others you need to adapt to different situations, for example, you will use formal language and behaviour in a meeting. Spoken words is not the only way in which we can communicate, it also happens in the way in which we respond to others, for example, the way in which we respond to emails or phone messages, how we respond to others when they are speaking to us and how we dress. Non spoken forms of communication can be an issue of they are misread by adults and children. Different cultures will use

In the Movie Tootsie, The character played by Dustin Hoffman is disguised as a woman and is speaking to a beautiful young actress played by Jessica Lange. During a session of late- night girl talk, Lange's character says, "You know what I wish? That a guy could be honest enough to walk up to me and say, 'I could lay a big line on you, but the simple truth is I find you very interesting, and I'd really like to make love to you.' Wouldn't that be a relief?" Later in the movie, a twist of fate throws them together at a cocktail party, this time with Hoffman's character dressed as a man.

Communication is one of the central building blocks of brain development. A child's ability to communicate begins at birth with crying. The more words an infant hears the more brain connections are made. Interaction is essential in order to master the skill of language.

From my readings to research from Edutopia to literature courses, I have gained a deeper appreciation for language. In order to understand what one is speaking, a person needs to spend time listening to one’s language and before responding must reflect and analyze what the other said and how to respond. If a person wants to love another person they have to listen to their language in order to speak their language, and the core part of learning another language is by listening. According to Joan Blaska, author of The Power of Language: Speak and Write Using “Person First” the language people use shows one’s bias and prejudices.  Beliefs and another’s performance fall under the influence of language. Blaska claimed “ the degree to which children are able to perceive themselves as competent and worthy, or the opposite, is heavily influenced by the verbalizations used by their teachers...Studies have found that labeling of students does affect teacher expectations which in turn affects student progress”. People have heavy influence with their words, because of this, our language must be intentional in a way, that breaks down negative stereotypes and helps one gain empathy as well as seeing others capabilities. Communicating and reading others comments and inquiring others has helped me to accept