Ripple Effect On Children

There are many influences on children's development by their family such as birth of siblings and the child's interactions with the sibling such as learning how to win, lose, love and even fight and the influences that their sibling has over them. Sometimes there may be a lot of jealousy and rivalry between them.

Being the oldest sibling you need to be more responsible. Needing to balance out the immaturity that your sibling may have, and because they are not as mature as you are you need to be the “bigger” person and be more responsible and take on the responsibilities of a mature older sibling. For instance, I was in the car with my two younger siblings. I’m sitting in the front seat while they are in the back. My younger brother started to kick my chair. When I ask him to stop he began to mimic me. Now being the oldest out of the two I had to be mature and handled the situations maturely. For one thing, I had to set a good example for my brother who is also setting an example for my younger sister, so that would mean that I’m dealing with setting an example for both my younger siblings not just my younger brother. Therefore, I didn’t turn around and mimic him back or yell at him.

However, the gender and personality of the oldest child can influence the sibling in several ways, being negative or positive. Goetting (2010), who is the author of The Development Tasks of Siblingship over the life cycle, wrote, “siblingship remains recognized as unique and influential, and perhaps gaining in importance with the development of modern trends in family norms. It is unique among close human relationships by its long duration and because participants share common cultural trends and common early experiences within the family. Furthermore, the relationship between siblings in highly egalitarian, which leads to greater relevance to the sibling relationship” (Goetting, 2010). Sibling relationships are defined by their communication structure (Stetzenbach, K 2006). Sibling interactions are important because they can provide children with their most intense childhood experiences and set the stage for future relational development (Batson, E, Bullo, K 2006). However, the significant impact on the sibling interactions can have on an individual’s communicative and relational development (Bevan 2006). Therefore, in research very few scholars study the sibling relationship (Bevan 2006). Take a look at the observation that was done on two siblings both male and in the age group of 3 and

One thing is for sure about eldest children: They are nothing like middle born children. Middle children are dubbed as the outgoing, friendly, and loud sibling. All too often do they get lost in the madness of the family dynamics and, in turn, develop a competitive nature. They are eager for their parents’ approval and praise, but feel as if their older sibling received too much credit and their younger sibling receives too little discipline compared to them (Neal). “They are both teacher and student, babysitter and babysat, too young for the privileges of the firstborn but too old for the latitude given the last” (Kluger).

Does one’s sibling rank affect their character? People believe, “the oldest is dictatorial,” everyone “babies the sweetheart,” and the middle child is “-- well, stuck in the middle.” As a middle child in a family of three, I have come to recognize these statements as facts, and not mere assumptions. The average middle child is a peace-making, social, secretive, and easy-going person. Even though I share in all these traits, I will be focusing on the peaceful, laid-back and social side of my character.

A. Phillips and C. Phillips built off of Adler’s work by hypothesizing that the differences in birth order that Adler documented may be a result of “differences between first-borns and later-borns in making attributions for their own good and poor performances” (475). Research indeed seemed to prove their hypothesis correct; “first borns in the sample made much stronger internal attributions for their own good performance than did later-borns” (A. Phillips, C. Phillips 477). The results seem to corroborate Adler’s theories of birth order development as being partially due to differential parenting, and partially to changing environment with subsequent family expansion. The results of these studies have compelled psychologists to examine leadership tendencies as related to birth order as well. Eckstein and Kaufman report that “first born children are extremely overrepresented among U.S. presidents, members of Congress, state governors, and foreign leaders” (69). While traditional Alderians would contend this is due to first-born children associating with traditional values, being less rebellious, and more achievement oriented than their younger siblings, Laswell argues that “compared to younger siblings, the first-born child is thus the object of his or her parents’ high expectations and anxious concern, and it is this combination that leads (a child) to seeking power” (qtd. in Eckstein and Kaufman

My siblings and I were raised with authoritative parenting Style. My nuclear family consist of my mother, father, older sister,older brother, and me the youngest Isaiah. My sister the eldest being 31, and brother of 26 I was always considered the "trouble maker" in the family because my siblings would always claim I was the spoiled one of the bunch due to the way my parents raised.. My parents became more experienced and more lenient with

Most siblings living under the same household will have to live be the same set of rules from their parents. There are several variables that can be affected within a shared environment. “Psychological aspects may include home atmosphere, parenting practices, the quality of sibling interactions, or psychopathology in the home” (Miserandino, p.145). If a child is raised in a dysfunctional environment and they are from a broken home that is adapted to substance and alcohol abuse, the risk of that child becoming involved with the same lifestyle is greater than others. Other factors in a shared environment that can be positive is a sibling who is the oldest. They would be used to making the decisions or being responsible for others that could follow them to their adulthood in their personality. It could help them want to become a leader and naturally find themselves making major

Being the oldest child, your younger siblings will see you as their mentor or the role model to try and follow your footsteps . Me as a person, I love to motivate people because some just need a little push to strive for the better. I always seen myself as a leader for my younger siblings. Being a leader isn’t being bossy, it’s having a time to be serious when something is important. An example of my leadership is taking care of my two sisters and my five year old brother and showing them right from wrong. My middle sister is currently a sophomore at Moreno Valley High School. Her name is Lesslie. Lesslie has always been the type of person that feels like she can’t do something. When Lesslie was in middle school, her grades were straight A’s

Then you have your siblings. When you are the oldest, they look up to you in every way, which makes you work to be a better role model and a better person. If you are the youngest, you rely on your older siblings to be that model of what you are going to be someday. Lastly, look at your grandparents. They set the model for how your parents act and how they treat the ones around them. The further back you go in your ancestry, the further back you see how your relatives affected each other and helped each other. Then there is you at the bottom of the tree, and eventually, you will affect just as many people that are related to you.

Society can influence your identity by birth order. Oldest children or firstborns like taking charge and are bursting with confidence. The author writes that firstborns often become perfectionists and over-achievers due to the desire to mirror their parents. The author states that older children are more motivated to achieve because they have no older siblings to compete or be made fun of by(is the oldest child likely to be president)(13-15).This passage shows how most firstborns.

On that subject, “Thus, you’ve learned how to seduce the crowd with charm and likability (Gross, 16).” Youngest children get a lot of slack from their parents, so they learn how to attract people to them. This gives them the ability to easily make new friends and be “The life of the Party”, as Gail Gross calls them. Moreover, “As the youngest child, you have more freedom than the other siblings and, in a sense, are more independent (Gross, 17).” They are free to do whatever they want, whenever they want. They develop in a way that allows them to choose and make decisions on their own, so they learn from experience rather than depending on another

Paulhus, Trapnell, and Chen (1999) researched, “Across four diverse data sets first borns were nominated as most achieving and more conscientious later borns were nominated as most rebellious, liberal and agreeable.” (482). The different treatment of children by their parents varies on the order the child was born i.e. first borns must deal with a new competitor entering the family, with an addition of a sibling they are no longer the center of their parent’s attention, they no longer receive the praise they were given unwarrantedly, now first borns must protect their position and priority in the family. This motivation by the first born that begins in childhood, or rather when the knowledge of an addition to the family is acquired, results in a drive to achieve success. For this study (Paulhus et al., 1999), a within family data set was used with four families, family

The superior one is the first type of sibling. This duty usually falls to the oldest in the family which only makes sense because they often think that just because they came first that they know best. They always make sure that you know what they think about your actions, and they are kind enough to give constructive criticism even when not asked. How considerate! However, being the all knowing sibling is not the only responsibility of this type. They also are either a mommy or daddy’s kid. This duty is taken extremely seriously, and they feel that it is absolutely a necessity to defend their parent whenever their so-called “honor” is in danger from another sibling. How they protect their parent is actually quite simple where they will use a superbly developed matter of fact tone to degrade their fellow kin back to kindergarten and ask questions such as, “Why are you so upset?” or “You know you don’t have to yell.” The key to this technique is to make sure that this is all done in front of their parent in

Growing up as the oldest has its advantages, but it also has its disadvantages. Yes, the advantages can be having a cell phone before your brother or sister, or going out to eat with friends, but the disadvantages can be much greater. If your parents were like mine, then there was no such thing as going out much, because your siblings had to be watched when no one else could. Things changed quickly when your parents are called into work. The plans that were made and approved by your parents no longer matter. Siblings come first and there is no if, and, or buts about it. When I was finally awarded freedom, I made bad decisions. One in particular involved me drinking and driving. Gerald M. Nosich, the author of Learning To Think Things Through: A Guide To Critical Thinking Across The Curriculum persuasively suggest that critical thinking involves using the elements and high standards of thinking (133). If I had used the elements and standards of critical thinking correctly for the activity of drinking, and think more clearly about the consequences, then I may have never decided to do such a thing.