Sex Lies And Conversation Deborah Tannen Analysis

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The most important thing people need to realize is that men and women come from different worlds. Women’s way of communicating is like living on the beach, open and carefree. Men’s way of communication, on the other hand, is the opposite. It is like living in a cave, quiet and cooped up. Accepting that there are differences, such as the way men and women listen, act, and sometimes the level of emotions expressed will help each understand how to communicate better with one another. Noted linguist, Dr. Deborah Tannen, studied this problem. In her article, “Sex, Lies and Conversation: Why It’s So Hard For Men And Women to Talk to Each Other?” She explains the differences, and shows how problems go away once the differences are understood. If everyone would learn these differences, life would be so much easier. For example, men and women listen differently. When a woman initiates a conversation, she is wanting to be heard. The man assumes that she is looking for advice or his help with something. Trying to make my fiancé Jamie listen when I come home from class or work is like talking to a wall; it does not happen. Teaching him to listen patiently, not just passively, does not come easy to him or most any man. Solving this problem was easy for us. When it comes to work, we do not speak …show more content…

That fact causes men and women to behave and feel about things differently. When talking about something Jamie does not really care about or thinks is boring, his facial expressions change. He does not look me in the eyes; he gets distracted by looking at his phone or even playing his game. This almost drives me insane. I have finally learned what battles to choose and which ones to let lie. I just decide what is important and what is not. I am sure I act differently when he is talking about something I do not care about. Having a healthy and happy relationship for me and our kids is more important than arguing over how we act when we

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