The Beauty of Fantasizing

Unconscious sexual drives are the most powerful behaviours of mankind. Libido, colloquially known as sex drive, drastically affects one’s thoughts and actions and leads to abnormal behavioural consequences. Guy de Maupassant’s “Was It a Dream?” is about a man who spends all his spare time mourning over his lover’s grave. The story reveals the adverse psychological relationship to sexuality, as the man’s actions are molded by his affection towards his lover. Hence, sexual drives lead to an unconscious mind and results in displacement of love as it is a powerful and pleasurable tool that all human beings desire.

Pornography is commonly used in many cultures across the world. Within the United States, alone, roughly 40 million people regularly visit porn sites (Streep, 2014). And yet, despite its growing popularity, only a handful of studies have explored pornography’s potential effects on sexual satisfaction for those in exclusive relationships (Bridges & Morokoff, 2011; Daneback et al., 2009; Maddox et al., 2011; Stewart & Szymanski, 2012; Stulhofer et al., 2010; Zillmann & Bryant, 1988). As using pornography can potentially have negative effects on both the user’s and their intimate partner’s sexual satisfaction, it is important to

Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera, two Mexican artists, entered into a consensually non-monogamous relationship. Frida was very well aware that it was not in Diego to be a monogamous man. We know this because she answered the question of why she puts up with his affairs like this; “Look, Diego is how he is, and that is how I love him. I cannot love him for what he is not. (Clancy Sigal).” These relationships are basically ways to engage in sex outside of the relationship but they differ from cheating because the partner is aware. Different types of non-monogamous relationships include partner swapping, swinging and polyamory (Pappas). Studies are just beginning to be started about consensual non-monogamy, but there is some evidence that these

To begin, pornography has addictive characteristics and because of those characteristics intimate relationships often suffer. Today, men and women tend to become addicted to watching pornography and use it to masturbate. It has been proven that “problematic pornography is characterized by a predominant urge for behavioral engagement, referred to as a craving” (Allen 67). If both parties of a relationship have this urge or craving for pornography, this could cause their relationship to suffer. The sexual act lacks love and intimacy and becomes mechanical or second natured. Pornography has been compared to addiction and people who are addicted enable each other. Therefore, there is no

Many different types of temptations exist in the world, but one of the most prevalent kinds is the temptation of another human being. The ideal partner, the gold standard of lovers, is a temptation not many can resist. There is some inherent part of the

Before we move to know more about Love Addiction I would like to write few words about the subject of our next article which we will analyze the Sexual Addiction.

Relationship satisfaction is an important part of romantic relationships. A lack of satisfaction can lead to consequences in other areas of life and eventually, the destruction of the relationship. For example, job performance is heavily influenced by romantic relationship satisfaction. In a study by Greenhaus and Beutell (1985), they argued that poor satisfaction leads to poor job performance and vice versa. They stated this was to because these two spheres are “interdependent.” Satisfaction can also influence quality of health. Conflict in a marital relationship is associated with higher heart rates and blood pressure (Broadwell & Light, 1999; Ewart, Taylor, Kaemer & Agras, 1991; Flor, Breitenstein, Birbaumer & Furst 1995; Frankish & Linden, 1996; Kiecolt-Glaser, 1993; Mayne, O’Leary, McCrady, Contrada & Labouvie, 1997; Morell & Apple, 1990; Shwartz, Slater & Birchler, 1994; Thomsen & Gilbert, 1998). It is also strongly associated with depression and depressed syndromes (Beach, Fincham & Katz, 1998; Fincham & Beach, 1999). This relationship between marital conflict and depression seems to be bidirectional meaning depression is not only a result of conflict but also is caused by the conflict (Beach, et. al., 1998; Fincham & Beach, 1999). Because a lack of relationship satisfaction can negatively affect so many important areas of life, it is important to understand what influences the level of satisfaction held in romantic relationships.

·         What do sexual fantasies allow people to experience? (Page 218) Things they would be uncomfortable doing in real life

Mark Lasser’s book “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” there are 4 major themes being explored, Part One: What is Sexual Addiction? Here Dr. Lasser explains what sexual addiction is, and what the three building blocks of sexual addiction are “Sexual Fantasy, Pornography, and Masturbation”. (Lasser, 2004, pp 28)Lasser expands on the different types of sexual addiction, and give us understanding of the different characteristic of the addiction. Major theme part 2: “The Roots of Sexual Addiction”, here Lassser gives the roots of sexual addiction and explains the reasons

Mr. Gotcher’s sexual fantasies have not changed. He masturbates to thoughts of the victim in his index sex offense. He has found some success in using thought stopping techniques when these fantasies occur, but admits that he forgets to use these techniques from time to time.

These beliefs have affected our culture, for instance the writings of Sexual Hook-up Culture write of common sex behaviors among college students called hook-ups. Some females who practice hook-ups are riddled with guilt and depression. Casual sexual practices lead to negative after affects, such as emotional suffering and psychological injuries. They can also suffer from sexually transmitted disease that could possibly prove life threatening. Such casual beliefs can prove harmful physically and mentally, furthermore Kinsey study continues to plague our culture. As the Demythologizing the Kinsey Reports reports, Kinsey failed to mention the impact of love in sexual behavior. This emotion is closely associated with sex and an extremely important segment of any culture. The article, The Psychology Behind Love and Romance, discusses the importance of love and how it stimulates the reward systems area of the brain. Oxytocin is release in the brain during an orgasm and also with the feelings of romantic love. Love is powerful behavior that is followed with many positive reactions that improve the social wellbeing of people. Society relies on the certain beliefs and customs to preserve a culture, but people can also negatively influence social beliefs and impact the culture. Kinsey influence of sexual behavior made an enormous impact on the American culture. He

In the related study also describes depressed women not only masturbate more than non-depressed women but, they have more desire to masturbate; this tendency might put in a great risk of female sexual functional disorder. Masturbation frequency also relates with quality of women’ lives such as dissatisfaction one’s sex life, mental health, or negative attitudes toward penile-vaginal intercourse. According to American Psychiatric Association, defense mechanisms are “automatic psychological processes that protect the individual against anxiety and from the awareness of internal or external danger” and the scale measures from immature through neurotic to mature (Brody & Nicholson, 2013). The common facts about immature defense mechanisms are they can be more found in ordinary young children, and the immature mechanism includes denial, projection, dissociation, autistic fantasy, and isolation of affect. As many manifestations from the depressed women who more prefers masturbation have common with a person with immature psychological defense mechanism such as lacking in intimate relationship quality, the aims of this study focus on the relationship between masturbation and immature psychological defense mechanism. The hypothesis of the research is that immature

The adult-entertainment industry erupted in the late twentieth century and has expanded recently due to improved technology. Millions of men and women alike watch these films and arrive to the conception that what is portrayed on the screen is how a relationship should be. In a recent article in the New York Times, it was reported that 80% of men and 50% of women feel that their sex life is lacking due to pornography, and 40% of the people within the same poll have broken up with their spouse or partner due to the “lack” of love life. Clearly, the adult entertainment gives both genders a false conception of how a relationship and sex life should be. Pornography portrays sex as overly exciting and thrilling, which can lead to dissatisfaction with one’s partner. Such a situation can cause a rift between couples that can result in divorce and break-ups, which leads to fewer

Everyday in America, more people become addicted to sex. According to the National Association of Sexual Addiction Problems, “1 out of 17 people are addicted to sex.” Many people become addicted to it and do not even know it. “Sexual addiction is a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual

For therapists whose clients are thinking about getting into a cuckolding relationship, it is important not to disregard it and stifle this fantasy, but rather to allow the couple space to