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The Christian Of A Christian Marriage

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A Christian marriage sets a positive example by conducting oneself in a manner worthy of Christ. Our attitude shows who we are on the inside. 1 Peter 3:1-2 declares: “Wives…if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of their lives” (NIV). God wants us to exemplify him. God doesn’t try and change us against our own will. We have to want to change for ourselves. In marriage, Borys said a great quote: “Your growth cannot be dependent upon your spouse taking the same step, at the same time, as you” (124). Acceptance of your spouse is the “absence of rejection,” which is critical for any marriage to survive (Hawkins 36). Accepting your spouse means loving them in spite of what they think, feel, or do. It is a commitment of love to your spouse that was promised when you got married. Vows aren’t meant to be just for show, but upheld as a daily commitment. You can’t change a person against their own will, but conducting yourself in a manner worthy of Christ will set a positive example. Communication is key to any relationship or marriage. As said by Dwight Small, “The heart of marriage is its communication system…It is…something to be continually cultivated through all of the experiences of their shared life” (11,16). Talking, listening, and understanding are all involved in the process of communication. Good communication means be able to speak to your spouse in a love language
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