The Pain and Joy of Becoming a Mother
Life experiences pose obstacles that are both challenging and rewarding, sometimes offering mixed and conflicted feelings throughout the experience. Becoming a parent is one of those life experiences that many people will face in their lifetime, and there are as many difficulties as there are rewards. We will explore my journey to motherhood and the challenges and lessons I learned pre and postpartum.
Life experiences can be challenging and difficult while also beautiful and rewarding. One of the most difficult experiences that I have ever faced was my journey to motherhood. While every day is a new learning experience, testing my patience and sanity, having my daughter and learning …show more content…
Brian was different from anyone I have ever dated. He knew how to court, be a gentleman, and exhibited the love and compassion that I saw my parents share, and their parents, too. I always knew there was something special about him. But amongst all the exceptional qualities he had, being a father was something he excelled at. He was nurturing, thoughtful, and purposeful with Sabrina, and I could not wait until we had our own child.
Fast forward to three years later. I had just finished practical nursing school and secured my first job as a nurse. We were engaged, and together, we decided that we would try for our first child. Sabrina, who had been longing for a sibling, hoped for a little sister, and we were more than happy to oblige. Within a month of trying to conceive, we were pregnant with our first child.
The first three months of pregnancy were blissful. We were relieved to make it out of the “danger zone” of pregnancy, finally able to tell our family and friends that we were expecting, and were coming to terms with the fact that we would be welcoming a new baby in June of 2013. I was elated to be symptom free. There was no nausea, no vomiting, no food aversions, and other than an annoyingly keen nose, everything was perfect. That was until we went to the doctor and discovered our baby had no heartbeat. I was crushed, defeated, and was battling to keep my sanity every day. I mourned that
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Dawn Kingston (assistant professor of Faculty of Nursing) studied a s survey done by ‘6,400’ mothers and how their experiences before they got pregnant, during pregnancy, and after delivery. With her research she offered first time views
In this paper I will evaluate two artworks that share the same theme of “motherhood and breastfeeding.” In the last few years, the sexualization of breastfeeding has become a big issue. This is due to people see breast as sexual objects and think that women are being exhibitionist, and are doing it just to flaunt their breasts in public. Breastfeeding mothers are faced with the public criticism as they struggle to breastfeed their child, although it is the most natural and healthy method of feeding. The first artwork is by Mary Cassatt and is titled Mother Rose Nursing her Child. This painting was created in the 1900s and it depicts a woman breastfeeding her child. The second piece is a contemporary portrait created by Catherine Opie titled Self-Portrait Nursing. The portrait depicts a modern mother also nursing her child. When comparing both of these pieces of art I plan to focus on the beauty of motherhood and the bond between mother and child. In this paper I will discuss the social issue of mother’s being criticized for breastfeeding in public. Now more than ever women’s breasts are being overly sexualized when they are not a sexual organ, but in fact a part of their body used to feed another human being.
Being a mother is not an easy job, it takes a lot of time and dedication. There are a lot of trials and tribulation that goes with it, as Rollin points out in her essay, but there also is a lot of joy. Rollin mentions all the negative aspects but fails to include any positivity, and most mothers would disagree with a majority of Rollin's claims. Her tone and phrases are harsh and can be viewed as disrespectful towards mothers.
Have you ever been told that you couldn’t have a kid? Well, Kathe Hoch of Sinking Spring, PA did, she got told when she was younger and was really disappointed. From that point on, she never thought she would have a kid in her life. She also realized she had a lot more responsibility after having a kid than before she didn’t have a kid. Kathe did not think life after a kid would be different but now she says it is a lot better and different with a child. Kathe Hoch was a good student at the Governor Mifflin School District. She didn’t really like math but she loved English. Kathe looked up to be a veterinarian or a teacher growing up but never became one. A baby her was like chocolate to a little kid. 14 Years ago in 2003, Kathe gave birth
Everyone knows that being a mother is not and easy job, especially those who have the right to be called “mother”. Women who are gifted with the miracle of giving birth are gifted too with an enormous job of guiding a person’s life. Moms are always known for being there always, breaking the obstacles with their sons and making them learn from their own mistakes. Being a mom is a hard work and sometimes they suffer from abuse from their sons or family members for just wanting the best for them.
Motherhood has taught me many life lessons. Before becoming a mother, I was a self centered child. I had no motivation to succeed. All I was worried about was where the next party was. At that time I had no want to try because I was so scared to fail. I was slowly progressing to go nowhere and do nothing with my life.
I can honestly say going through labor was the most painful thing I had ever experienced. Once Freddrick finally did arrived I knew that I would love him unconditionally for the rest of my life. He was just as precious as he could be and didn’t have a worry in this world. I didn’t know the type of mother I would be, but I was determined to be a different type of teenage mother. I wanted to show everyone I might be young with a son, but I made sure Freddrick was taken care of financially, Freddrick came first in my life at all times, Freddrick had disciplined in his life, and that he would know that mommy would always love him regardless of what happens through life.
One thing in my life that I had to dive into doing was being a single parent. I no longer had just myself to worry about and to take care of; I was going to have another person to be responsible for. I had a mixture of feelings when I found out I was pregnant. I did not know if his dad was going to be around or not to help me. I was worried, nervous, scared and excited all at the same time.
People always think that once you have a kid, it will be all sunshine and daisies. Maybe sometimes it can be like that, but not always. There are joys and challenges with everything in life. Many people have different ways of describing the joys or challenges of taking care of an infant, for example, some people would find that first outing as a joy and some people find it as a challenge. Men and Women both have perspectives with how they raise their children, whether together or as a single parent.
Becoming a father is a life changing experience. Most fathers will remember that one special day for the rest of their lives, while other fathers say the day their child was born was the day their life as they knew it was over. After sitting down and interviewing three different fathers who had three very different experiences before and after child birth my eyes have been opened to the multiple views, experiences, memories, and feelings these three gentlemen have experienced or will soon experience. Mr. Snyder who is currently awaiting the birth of his first child in the spring of 2015 was the first man I interviewed. Mr. Celso is the second man I interviewed. Mr. Celso and his wife experienced a very emotional and nerve wrecking pregnancy and birth of their two 4 month old twins. Lastly, Mr. Shipley was the last man I interviewed. Mr. Shipley is a father of a one year old boy. Mr. Shipley’s experience of the birth of his child was much different then the other two gentlemen given that Mr. Shipley and the mother of his son are not in any type of relationship, nor were they during their child’s birth. Each of these men shared a lot of similarities as well as an abundance of differences regarding their children and soon to be children.
I will never forget the moment my labor began, the moment that marked that step in my journey into motherhood. I can remember everything about it so clearly. My mom, fiancé, and I woke up early Friday morning to make our way to Western Missouri Medical Center. I stood in front of the mirror looking at my belly knowing it would be my last time standing in that bathroom with my baby inside of me still. It was a bittersweet moment that I cherished as long as I possibly could. I was set to be induced that morning and very excited, yet a little bit nervous. I had no idea what to expect. I’d been waiting a very long 37 weeks to finally meet this precious human that had been growing inside me. I had ideas of what he might look like, and what the experience might be like, however nothing could have prepared me for what was in store over the next few days.
Father: There were some tough moments during the pregnancy. Most parents worry themselves crazy or sick during pregnancy and we were no different. We were both on the older side to be first time natural parents, so that was a concern.