In American culture, marriages are optically discerned as very unpropitious. This is because we have grown up with the cognizance that when it comes time to espouse, we will have culled our spouse of our own free will. This way, the match will be a love match instead of being coerced into a marriage. Adolescent men and women grow up in India with a totally opposite view of marriage (Jain 7, 2017). It is taught, that when it comes time to marry, their parents will be the ones to find a suitable spouse. For over 1,000 years, Indian’s have perpetrated this tradition and have kept very rudimental credence’s and values when it comes to culling the spouse. As of 2016, over 90% of Indian marriages were arranged (Toledo 2017). Surprisingly, the divorce rate is lower in India than in the United States. Although arranged marriages are very prevalent in India, they are not always desired. Being coerced into a marriage can prove to be very stressful and awkward as shown by Nnaemka in the story “Marriage is a Private Affair” by Chinua Achebe. For over 1,000 years (Fish 2, 2017), parents and relatives have been arranging marriages for their children. There are pros and cons of arranged marriages. A benefit or arranged marriages is that there is no need to try and impress or attract anyone of the opposite sex because one could not choose to marry anyone of your choice (Toledo 2017). Another benefit would be that the families of the spouses are deeply involved in the entire process (Know
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Arranged Marriages have been around since time can remember. An arranged marriage is a marital union between a man and a woman who were selected to be wedded together by a third party. Historically, arrange marriages were the main way to marry. In certain parts of the world, it is still the primary approach. There are two types of arrange marriages. The first is a traditional marriage where the children can, with strong objections, refuse to marry their soon to be spouse. In a forced marriage, the children have no say in the matter. Bread Givers shows an excellent representation of the pressures on children from their parents to be married against their will.
Arranged marriages are very popular amongst many countries and cultures. It is the tradition of someone’s spouse being chosen for them, usually by their parents. Unfortunately, a decent amount of these marriages occur with the person being forced against their will, or the bride being a child. Arranged marriage, as seen in Shakespeare’s “Romeo and Juliet,” is an important topic in literature and modern-day culture.
Both arranged marriages and romantic marriages have good and bad points. Cultures such as India, Japan, and Ethiopia have had arranged marriages since the dawn of time. In America we allow our young adults to make their own decisions on whom to marry. Would Americans accept the practice of parents deciding whom they are going to marry without considering their wants or feelings? The answer is an emphatic NO! Americans are hopelessly romantic and fiercely believe in freedom of choice. Arranged marriages would never be accepted in American culture.
For many people, an arranged marriage is not a great choice to choose a life partner, but it is highly recommended in Hindu culture. In the speech “Finding Love in Arranged Marriages” on Tedx Talks, Omar Durrani shared, like other people who have Hindu religion, he was put under pressure to have arranged marriage by his mother. She believed in arranged marriage, which marriage comes first and love comes after marriage. She contacted matchmaker service to find a suitable woman for him. The matchmaker found many women who were interested in Omar, but Omar was not interested in any of them until he heard about one woman that her mother found for him. Although he did not believe that arrange married would work for him, he still agreed to start talking on the phone with the woman. Surprisingly, he found that they shared many common interests. Finally, they decided to meet each other, so Omar took a flight from Miami to Chicago for the meeting. The first feeling they had for each other was that they made for each other. They engaged in the next day after the first meeting and married one year later. Like Omar’s family, most Indian people prefer arranged marriage since they believe that will be the best to start their marriage life. Arranged married may be a short or a long process that depends on each situation. While love marriage is found when people love each other and get married, arranged marriages happen when parents decide who will be their children’s life partner. People with Hindu religion believe that arranged marriages are more successful than love marriages since of its typical features of the process of selecting a life partner.
Marriage is described as two people as partners in a personal relationship. There are two typical ideas of marriage that we know today. The first one that comes to mind is the one we all know, based on love, but there is another one that some may not even know of and its arranged marriages. Arranged marriage is not typically in our culture we know but in different cultures arranged marriages are their normal marriage. Throughout this essay, I will discuss the importance of realizing cultural diversity and how we apply the perspectives we gain from cross-cultural comparison to our own experience using central concepts about marriage to compare and contrast marriage in several cultures.
Marriage practices vary across cultures. Every culture has its own way of conducting marriage according to their traditions and customs. Most cultures share common customs and practices, while some cultures have unique practices. Marriage refers to a social union agreed upon by the couples to unit as spouses. The union of couples implies sexual relations, permanence in union, and procreation. This research paper focuses on comparing marriage practices in American and Indian culture. There is significant difference between the two cultures in marriage practices.
Arranged marriages might seem to be few and far between, but according to research institute Statistic Brain, they constitute 53 percent of marriages worldwide. Arranged marriages are not common practice in the United States and other developed countries, but they are very prevalent in various countries and tribes around the globe. In many instances, arranged marriages persist simply due to cultural and religious traditions. However, this is not to say that arranged marriage is without its pros and cons. In fact, there are significant counts both for and against the practice. Ultimately, arranged marriage is a very complex and arguably outdated practice, as can be seen in the short story “Marriage is a Private Affair” by Chinua Achebe.
Established with Adam and Eve, still surviving, marriage is the oldest institution known. Often the climax of most romantic movies and stories, whether it may be ‘Pride and Prejudice’ or ‘Dil Wale Dulhaniya Ley Jaein Gey’, marriage has a universal appeal. It continues to be the most intimate social network, providing the strongest and most frequent opportunity for social and emotional support. Though, over the years, marriage appears to be tarnished with high divorce rates, discontentment and infidelity, it is still a principal source of happiness in the lives of respective partners. Although marriage is perceived as a deeply flawed institution serving more the needs of the society than those of the individuals, nevertheless, marriage is
The author begins with the basics of marriages in India, explaining that arranged marriages are so common that marriages not setup have a special term. She goes on to speak of how the couples set to wed usually do not meet before the ceremony and that if they do, it is for only a momentary conversation after the decisions have been made. However, she points out, that if one person objects to the match that the parents agreed to, they do not have to wed.
A few good things about arranged marriage is the spouses can feel closer, know much about the other people, don't get divorced, and they can feel comfortable around them.
In modern culture and fully developed nations, the ideology of an arranged marriage is a foreign concept, but in reality the global percentage of arranged marriages is 60 (Toledo 1). Although the majority of these arranged marriages occur in Asian countries such as India and China, this type of matrimony should also be prominently implemented into the society of modernized nations like the United States. Before arranged marriages can completely fuse into industrialized cultures, one must fully understand the concept of an arranged marriage. As commonly thought, parents do not always select the marital partners in arranged marriages; spouses can also be chosen by a community, elders, matchmakers, or religious leaders ("Arranged...
It’s said that the happiest day in a girl’s life is when she walks down the aisle towards the man she wants to spend the rest of her days with and marries him. But what connotations does the word “marriage” have for this statement to be made? In her article, “The Radical Idea of Marrying for Love,” Stephanie Coontz writes on the contrasting cultural ideas of marriage, relationships, and love. She explains that for thousands of years, love was not seen as a necessity for marriages in different cultures, but now as a Western society, has been idolized into a primary component for marriage. She adds that other cultures, such as ancient Egypt and Eskimo tribes, share spouses and relations as a societal norm. On the contrary, in “Will Your Marriage Last,” Aviva Patz writes on the research done by psychology professor, Ted Huston, on the ways Western society has failed with marriage and how it has affected marriages and divorces. Patz writes from a personal standpoint, including her own divorce. Although both authors hold to different views on love and how marriage should be, they share a common attitude about how Western society has made unrealistic expectations about marriage, and the effects because of it. While Coontz takes a historical and factual approach to these subjects, Patz contradicts with a more personal style and passion-filled tone.
Marriage is a union that has been around for as long as humans have walked the earth. The human race depends upon the union of its members, and as such, the subject of marriage has been an issue that receives more intense scrutiny and attention than many would likely believe. In today's day and age, with humanity continuing to move in a modern direction, many argue that marriage is a union that should be entered into freely and should be based exclusively on the love between two people. However, I argue that arranged marriage, which has taken place throughout the ages and throughout the world, is a union that offers its observers a marriage based in support, longevity and love, and is an institution that should not be frowned upon.
When comparing many sociological perspectives and theories against the idea of arranged marriages in India there are many conclusions that can be drawn. In specific, feminism, functionalism, and the conflict theory all point out very interesting facts. Some of these theories do a much better job in terms of accounting for this phenomena; which is not surprising as we looks at the long and detailed history of the subject. However, there is no sole theory that can truly be linked to account for the total occurrence of such a subject. As you will see, there are many factors that come into play when an arranged marriage takes place. Not only are the couple being married affected, but the families of both the man and the woman are traditionally
Nowadays we live in a world which is full of choices and the choice of the person you would like to merry is one of the most important one. It is really hard to decide whether this person is really “yours” or it is just the illusion. Thus, can it be a better way to have somebody who decides who will you be married to? Some people think it is unfair because person doesn’t have the right of choice but the others think that arranged marriages are a good choice. Farahad Zama is one of few many people that encourages arranged marriage. In fact, in his article he tells his own story, how his parents arranged his marriage and how it worked out for him. On the other hand, Rohit Garoo opposes arranged marriage and encourages free love marriage and lists the benefits of it. Free choice marriage is a marriage in which both partners choose each other by themselves and the choice is based on factors such as physical attraction, the desire for emotional stability, love, similar outlooks, personalities, interests etc. However, this is not the only way to choose. In arranges marriages the partner is selected by elder family members but the young people may have the right to veto the choice if they strongly disagree with it. There are definitely pros and cons of both and only after taking them into consideration person can decide which to choose: arranged or free choice marriage.