The Three Components Of Robert Sternberg's Theory Of Love

Lastly, the basic sociological basic of intimate relationships are a close, personal, and domestic relationship between partners. Intimacy is a close and personal relationship that occurs when the two partners are identified as a couple after a period of dating. Intimacy usually leads to love and changes over time, an

Love is unique in its striking ability to be a driving force in dictating interpersonal relationships. It patterns behavior and orients individuals towards their distinct, unique attractions. According to Velleman, love penetrates deeper than one’s qualities; it extends to one’s rational will, or the essence of a person. To him, though love appears to have particularity, it is also a moral emotion. Kolodny subscribes to the relationship theory, asserting that an ongoing, interpersonal, and historical relationship with a relative is a part of the reason for love. In Kolodny’s view, the existence of the true self is irrelevant, as is the morality of love. Both Velleman and Kolodny disprove the quality theory; however, their perceptions of love and its morality differ. I believe that Kolodny is correct in his view that morality is irrelevant to love and that there must be factual reasons for love. Although it is enticing to believe that one is attracted to the essence of another, the essence is not motivation enough for love. The relationship theory takes into account the motivation needed to love a particular person from a historical, interpersonal, and ongoing perspective.

Passion reflects attraction, romance, and sexual desire. A relationship that contains passion would not be a relationship that you would share with you parents or children. This is more to describe a romantic relationship that you share with another person. According to Sternberg (1998) “The key ingredients

Commitment- self-knowledge and an ability to trust others are the building blocks of commitment. Commitment to a joined set of goals and values provides direction and motivation for individuals members.

* intimate relationships involve a high degree of love, trust, empathy and commitment from both partners

The human idea of love is quite possibly the most misunderstood in today’s society. Love can be between a man and woman, mother/father and their kids, or even really good friends. However, these relationships of love go through many interactions and stages to start and progress. Many psychological events must occur and be worked through in order to be successful. All relationships must endure the five perspectives of human behavior. These perspectives are biological, learning, social and cultural, cognitive, and psychodynamic influences.

In the modern world, there is a difficult word that people are facing and having a hard time to identify it, which is the word “love.” Nonetheless, there is a triangular theory that carried out by Robert Sternberg which helps people to understand love. The three angles are used to represent three dimensions (intimacy, passion, and commitment), and each point represent the extreme of each dimension. This essay mainly discusses about Robert Sternberg and how to improve the current relationship.

People escalate relationships by showing an interest in increasing intimacy. Andersen’s Cognitive Valence Theory outlines the risks and outcomes for making intimacy initiating behaviors. One is vulnerable when increasing immediacy because the communicative partner may either be of low arousal, moderate arousal, or high arousal. If the partner responds with low arousal, there will be no reciprocity or compensation. If the partner responds with high arousal, there will be a negative relational outcome that will reduce the relational closeness. When someone is placed in the situation where they want to escalate their relationship with a friend, they are vulnerable because it could have a negative effect on their relationship. However, vulnerability is inevitable and someone has to be vulnerable when trying to develop relationships further. If the communicative partner responds with moderate arousal and has all six positive valences for schema, there will be positive relational outcomes with reciprocity and increased relational closeness. The main characteristics of being vulnerable when developing relationships, is the risk of not being accepted and instead being

can be defined by the love the to have for each other. In the book "extremely loud and incredibly close" by Jonathan

Intimacy – a personal loving relationship with another individual or group such as family and friends.

Currently, the level of intimacy is much greater than at any other time in my life, the amount of personal time comes from consciously altering my thoughts to dwell on Jesus.

1. According to Robert Sternberg, love goes through 3 stages of love he calls “The three dimension of love; passion, intimacy, and commitment. Sternberg believes when you go through the three dimension of love, there are also seven different type of love. The seven different type of love is liking, infatuation, empty love, romantic love, fatuous love, companionate love, and consummate love. The first dimension of love is passion; it is the process where we first start falling in love with a partner. Passion is what I call the “getting to know each other” stage of a relationship. The second part of the three dimension of love is intimacy. Intimacy is when you feel close to a person whether it’s emotionally or physically. It is also a stage where you share your deepest secret about you to the person who you feel that you’re in love with. Intimacy is where you feel the closest in your relationship. The third and final stage of the three dimension of love is commitment. Commitment is the phase where people decide that being with that one person is enough and they would spend the rest of their life being together that leads to marriage and children. I feel that Sternberg’s dimension of love is associated to Erikson’s intimacy vs. isolation. “Adults seek someone with whom to share their lives in an enduring and self-sacrificing commitment. Without such commitment, they risk profound aloneness and isolation.” (Berger, p.525) I believe

Some say, to love is to be willing to die. Others say, to love is to be willing to do whatever a loved one asks. Barbara Fredrickson says love is neither of these. In her book, Fredrickson attempts to redefine love through the biological microscope. The author compiles a variety of studies and research data to prove her claim that love is the product of neural coupling, oxytocin in the brain, and the work of the vagus nerve. Fredrickson presents a well-rounded claim, but there are some deficiencies that hinder the strength of her argument. Fredrickson’s use of vague language throughout this excerpt causes the reader to call into question the validity of said studies. In addition, Fredrickson’s use of first person point of view is a clever

Commitment follows when the two parties know enough about each other to develop the ability to predict each others’ behaviour and therefore elicit reward/pleasure/satisfaction from each other.

A wise man once said “Man is only great when he acts from passion.” When you hear the word passion, the first thing that might come to your mind is something related to love, and you’re not entirely wrong. According to Merriam- Webster’s dictionary, passion is defined as a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something or a strong feeling (such as anger) that causes you to act in a dangerous way. All in all, it is a strong feeling, be it happiness, sadness, anger or liberality. You can be passionate about many things such as love, sports, food, or intimacy. However, it can also mean having a strong yearning for something.