True Love

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True Love From a simple mixture of sexual attraction and attachment to a manifestation of the human soul, feelings of fierce romantic desire boast no shortage of theories explaining their origin and meaning. Love is as much a mystery as it is familiar, highlighting a lack of insight into the human psyche. As man attempts to unravel the endless enigmas behind this apparently paradoxical emotion, more and more questions seem to arise. What is love 's true purpose? Why does it begin? How are loved ones chosen, if indeed they are chosen at all? Why does passion fade? In her article "True Love," Lauren Slater explores in a longing tone the source of intense affection and why its maddening effects seem to dim over time, finding instead…show more content…
She notes, "the reasons romantic love fades may be found in the way our brains respond to the surge and pulse of dopamine that accompanies passion and makes us fly" (Slater). The author here portrays the loss of passion as a biological response of the brain to being overloaded with excessive stimuli for elongated periods of time. The brain, Slater indicates, simply accustoms itself to the intense feelings of lust and longing new love brings about, and learns to ignore said feelings as a way of retaining functionality. By accepting the validity of both theories, Slater intentionally fails to answer the key question of why exactly passion diminishes over time. Recognizing both theories but adopting neither, Slater leaves the topic exactly how she found it: unanswered; the mystery remains, for all intents and purposes, a mystery. With no concrete answer to love 's burning questions, Slater can only make efforts to reignite any lingering affection between herself and her husband. During an exercise meant to do just that, the author recalls how her husband had taken a turtle and "held the animal out toward [her], a love offering... [she] took it, and together [they] sent it back to the sea" (Slater). It is no coincidence that during an exercise meant to start again the intense passion long dormant between the couple, Slater recalls a small, beautiful moment she had shared with her husband. This realization, placed at the conclusion of the
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