500) Days of Summer is about a story of guy, Tom, who believes he has found “the one” in Summer. His fixation on that ideology has inflicted a problem with his perception of love. His belief of that ideology was created from “exposure to sad British pop music and the misinterpretation of the film, “The Graduate” ("(500) days of Summer", 2009). His ideals of love have created a self-concept where he believes will not be content till he finds “the one”. According to Baumeister (1999), a self-concept is a “the individual's belief about himself or herself, including the person's attributes and who and what the self is”. When he finds her, he is so fixated on her that he feels this might lead somewhere because she continues to kiss him, hold hands and sleeps with him; …show more content…
Furthermore by Summer sending mixed signals to Tom, she has misaligned his view of social cognition of relationships. By definition, social cognition is the “manner in which we interpret, analyze, remember, and use about the social world” (Baron & Branscombe, 2011, p.36). The displays of affection Summer gives Tom constitutes what a relationship is for a normal couple. Throughout the movie, you see Tom hold high regards for Summer. After their breakup, you can see that he so focused on her that he doesn't want to give her up; despite the demanding of his friends. However, in a particular scene of the movie we encounter: Tom’s reality vs expectations. Tom still holding onto his beliefs, manages to snap out of his expectations when he sees Summer with an engagement ring. One explanation for his situation is the self-verification perspective, “the processes we use to lead others to agree with our own self-views” (Baron & Branscombe, 2011, p.109). For example, Tom stresses his self-concept onto Summer and tries to get her to see that true love does exist. Summer clarifies she believe it doesn't believe in that sort of
Self Concept is based on the perceptions that we make of ourselves. The self-concept is important to the study of communication because it drives our behavior, influencing our communication with others and ultimately defining our attitudes about ourselves as products of our environment or creators of our environment. In the beginning of the film, Michael’s Self Concept about himself is very poor. He realizes that he grew up in an unhealthy environment and that affects the way he communicates. When Michael begins school in the film, he realizes and perceives himself as
knows that she is starving for true love and exploits that weakness to achieve his goal.
Near the beginning of the book, Tom falls in love with a beautiful young girl, Becky. The relationship that Tom and Becky shared is very childish and immature. When Tom mentions his past girlfriend, Becky gets super emotional and upset because she thinks Tom is still in “love” with her. Tom also claims that he will marry Betty even though
despondent marriage. Tom is depicted as a grumpy person, his significant other would conceal nourishment from him
The short story All Summer In a Day by Ray Bradbury illustrates that someone who acts upon their jealousy can end up with a feeling of great regret. The other kids were jealous of Margot for almost everything she had and they hated her for it. She was different from the other kids in a way that she had something the other kids didn’t. She remembered the sun. The other kids resolved their jealousy by doing some terrible things. Jealousy can cause people to do things they wouldn’t if they were thinking correctly. Jealousy can cause much regret.
He likes Daisy not for true love but rather for a possession-type relationship. He cheats on her and is proud of it. When with Daisy, he rarely acts romantic because he is always preoccupied with his greed. He doesn't strive for her love because he knows his wealth will keep her with him. He has a very realistic approach on life. He sees things as they are. This allows Tom to stay happy and rarely be disappointed.
Tom’s infidelity in his marriage clearly expresses his views about his wife, Daisy. In seeking an affair, he conveys that Daisy is deficient and not worthy of devotion. Daisy knows of his affairs, but because of the time period and their social class, she is helpless to do anything. As a woman in the 20th century, it would destroy Daisy to divorce Tom, even though the entirety of New York knows about Tom’s affair.
Love is not something you easily throw away or put aside as Tom does when he so freely goes to Myrtle Wilson to have his affair. If Tom claims to love Daisy, which he does, he would not have the desire to go out with other women at all especially not have a full relationship with another woman in another town. Tom is not secretive at all of his relations. On one trip to New York City he insisted Nick meet her, “I went up to New York with Tom on the train one afternoon and when we stopped by the ashheaps he jumped to his feet and, taking hold of my elbow, literally forced me from the car. ‘We’re getting off,’ he insisted ‘I want you to meet my girl.’”(Fitzgerald 24). The fact that Tom is so willing to share with everyone, even Nick, Daisy’s cousin, means he has no shame and doesn’t care that he is stomping all over Daisy’s heart. True love is not a chore and should never be looked at in that light.
-Tom believes Daisy can’t make her own mind up “sometimes she gets foolish ideas in her head and doesn’t know what she’s doing”
On the other hand Tom and Daisy’s relationship was incredibly flawed, however they suited each other in terms of social class. They both had the same shallow views, as Nick states in the end, “they were careless people, Tom and Daisy, they smashed things up and creatures and retreated back into their money and vast carelessness.” The ending of the novel reinforces the idea that in such a morally corrupt society only relationships concerning those of the same social standing could work even in the slightest, and even so those relationships were doomed to a certain extent.
being caught by the party he is driven by his search to experience the truth, beauty and love that he
Another way is the superficial relationship that Tom and Daisy have. They are hardly Communicable towards each other and the way this is described is obvious."Daisy and Tom were sitting opposite each other at the kitchen table with a plate of cold fried chicken between them and two bottles of ale. He was talking intently across the table at her hand and in his earnestness his hand had fallen upon and covered her own. Once in awhile she looked up at him and nodded in agreement. They weren't happy, and neither of them had touched the chicken or ale-and yet they weren't unhappy either" (152). Daisy and Tom have been married for five years and this happiness and unhappiness they do and don't feel deals primarily with the fact that their relationship is not based on love. They don't look as if they share a deep connection-a connection such as Daisy and Gatsby's.
Kids can be cruel when they are envious as shown in the short story, “All Summer In A Day,” by Ray Bradbury. The sun is what makes Margot happy, and when that gets taken away from her. In this short story there is several acts of cruelty to Margot by her classmates. These kids live in the planet of Venus, and they haven’t seen the sun in seven years, except for Margot. The kids are only nine years old so they haven’t seen the sun since they were two years old, but Margot moved there from Earth when she was four and she remembers the sun and that makes the other kids envious. In the beginning of the story it is the day that the sun is supposed to come out for the first time in seven years! The kids were skeptical except for Margot because she wanted to see it so bad. The kids were starting to prepare for the sun to come out but they were sitting inside waiting. While they were waiting the kids decided to lock Margot in a closet and not let her out. When the sun came out all the kids ran outside to play in the sun that felt so warm and nice on their skin, except for Margot, who was sitting inside in the dark closet. When the kids came back inside they felt sorry for leaving Margot in there. Envy can lead people to commit awful acts and cause shame as demonstrated throughout the character's actions in, “All Summer In A Day.”
“It has been raining for seven years; thousands upon thousands of days compounded and filled from one end to the other with rain, with the drum and gush of water, with the sweet crystal fall of showers and the concussion of storms so heavy they were tidal waves come over the islands.” (Bradbury, 1954) In the dystopian story, “All Summer In A Day” by Ray Bradbury, it takes place on the planet, Venus. A group of children, along with scientists get to live there, while being educated at the underground school. Margot, who is only 9 years old, wasn't born on Venus like the other children, but instead on Earth. She’s the only one who remembers how the sun felt through her skin and how beautiful it shined. On the contrary, the other children are jealous of her because she has some memory of the sun, while they don’t. Jealousy caused the children to harass, isolate, and make her depressed.
In the film “500 Days of Summer” directed by Marc Webb, we were presented a scene where the protagonists of the film, Tom and Summer, are seen playing around inside an IKEA store. Webb uses this scene to give the audience an insight as to what the relationship is between Tom and Summer by using film techniques such as body language, lighting and dialogue which portrays the themes of expectations vs reality and idealisation of relationships/ love.