What´s Helicopter Parenting?

Parenting is a very controversial subject. Everybody has an opinion as to what is the ideal way of raising your child, and many prefer for people not to interfere in this decision, but what if you’re doing it the wrong way and in reality causing more harm than good?

A college freshman walks into her dorm room and collapses onto the bottom bunk. One would assume that since it is her first week being on campus she is tired and overwhelmed from all of the freshman activities, but in reality it is her parents who are exhausting her. Her parents got a hotel room for move in day, and they haven’t left her alone since. Multiple research sources suggest that levels of parental involvement have been rising over the past decade, and according to Cline and Fay (1990) this high level of parental involvement is now commonly known as “helicopter parenting” (qtd. in Weinstein). These helicopter parents have definitely “grabbed the attention of scholars, media, and academic institutions” (Odenweller, Booth-Butterfield,

It’s true that different parents have distinct parenting styles. Each child must be disparate from another due to cultural background and upbringing. Three major parenting styles that have been around are tiger, helicopter, and free range parenting. In tiger parenting, parents are strict, while in free range it is just the opposite, parents let loose and let their children be who they are and allow them to take risks. The article “I am a helicopter parent, and I don’t apologize” by Elizabeth Fairfield Strokes is an epitome of helicopter parenting and what goes on in a mind of helicopter parent. Helicopter parenting refers to "a style of parents who are over focused on their children," says Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D., director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders near Detroit and author of Anxiety Disorders: The Go-To Guide. "They typically take too much responsibility

Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A

While I was reading your article, “Kids of Helicopter Parents Are Sputtering Out” I was given a glimpse of how stressful it must be for students who have helicopter parents. Being what you would call a ‘free ranger’ myself, I had no problems with parental interference when it came to my studies. In this letter to you I will strive to point out the strongest and weakest parts of your article. You are able to use pathos, ethos and logos in several different ways to get your point across.

The hypervigilance of parents where they dictate everything that their child does actually does damage to the child because it stunts the development of internal motivation in these students (Margolies, 2016). If my parents had told me what clubs to be in, what sports to do, what classes to take, and what homework to do at what time then I never would have developed the motivation to choose for myself. It would have actually made me less capable of choosing things for myself, thus causing more stress in my life as more responsibility would fall on me as my schooling continues. The other dangerous way that this forced culture of perfectionism damages these youths is when they seem to be the perfect student, excelling in their studies in high school, and then without this constant support they crash in college and can quickly spiral out of control, not knowing how to handle this new stress as they no longer have the hypervigilance or the praise of their parents to keep them going. Helicopter parents think that by controlling these aspects of their child’s life will benefit them and create the best possible outcome for them. This is very obviously false as it is creating the situation of a severely underdeveloped child.

How does a person grow up to be who they are? Most people say it is determined by the way their parents raise them. The parents that hover close and the parents that give their children space will have children with complete opposite characteristics. Parents that hover close are referred to as “Helicopter Parents,” and children that are given a lot of space are called “Free- Range Kids” (Rutherford). Although these styles of parenting are vastly different, both kinds of parents are trying to do what is best for their child. Of the two parenting types, helicopter parenting is looked at as a worse method for parenting. There are more negative aspects of it then there are positive. Not only do helicopter parents

Regardless of who you are or where you come from there’s one instrumental factor we all share. We all were raised by a parent, parents, or guardian that was key in who we became. While like many things Americans cannot seem to agree on which stratagem is best in child rearing it is indelible that the common goal of every parent is for their son or daughter to succeed and find happiness in life. However, this has given rise to some extreme forms of parenting producing helicopter parents and tiger moms; Parents that feel the need to control every aspect of their child’s life to either keep them safe or make them the “best” when compared to others. In the end everyone wants to be a good parent, but helicopter parents and other groups like them are, in the long term, hindering more than helping their child towards a successful future.

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

When regarding helicopter parenting, most of the time there is a misconception of what this type of parenting is really about. In which, I was included in this misconception, as before reading an excerpt from Alfie Kohn’s book, The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the Conventional Wisdom about Children and Parenting, I thought every aspect of helicopter parenting was bad for children. However, Kohn’s excerpt from his book has changed my point of view on excessive parenting. As before reading this excerpt I thought helicopter parents were overbearing with their children, but now I see them just as parents trying to carry out what is best for their children. Except I agree with Kohn to a certain extent, since not all helicopter parenting

When you listen to a convicted murderer speak of his drunken, physically abusive father, you don’t blink an eye. You say to yourself, “No wonder he turned out that way. He came from a screwed up household.” It makes perfect sense that children born to violent and cruel parents will feel the impact later in life. That being said, not all parents have to be violent and cruel to do serious damage. Does the term “helicopter parenting” ring a bell? Julie Scelfo of the New York Times references the term in her article, “Suicide on Campus and Pressure of Perfection.” In recent years, “helicopter parenting” has become more and more prevalent in our society. These parents relentlessly hover over their children, micro-managing every choice and decision

Currently, family around the world have different way to take care their own children. Some of parents are very care too much about their children and some maybe not even care. However, some of parents are very care to much about their children. they don’t think that can extremely harmful to their children and adolescents because of their to much overly involved in children's life and overprotective .In fact, Helicopter parenting family who is overly involved in their own children and Some Helicopter parenting family had Bubble-wrapping our children that overprotective parenting .they don’t think , when they do like this can be bored the children life,make their kid stress, feel alone and hopeless because of them too much overprotective. For example, on these articles I had read before BUBBLE-WRAPPING OUR CHILDREN by Michael Ungar, “Helicopter parenting Deliver Benefit” By Don Aucoin and there two article are different.

Being a child of a helicopter parent, I don’t believe that having a helicopter parent made me dependent on my mom, if anything I’ve distanced myself so that I can have more independence. My mom means well she just wants to protect my sisters and I, but how does she expect us to learn if we never get hurt or fail? The effects of helicopter parenting, in my experience, is distancing so that we can do what we want. Rebelling from parents is another effect, again because of the need for independence. I do think that if parents are willing to do their child’s homework and projects then they might as well let them live at home for the rest of their lives because once someone experiences that kind of “sheltering” they aren’t going to want to do work for themselves if they know their parents are willing to do everything for them. In some cases this type of parenting will not have bad effects on the children. It’s natural for parents to want to protect their children, but there comes a point where parents have to let their children fail in order for them to learn what to do and what not to

Have ever wondered if helicopter parenting is useful or harmful to children? Some may say, helicopter parenting is good for children while others may say it's not. Michael Unger takes about the perils of helicopter parenting in the article " Bubble-Wrapping Our Children". On the other hand, Don Aucoin discuss the benefits when parents helicopter their children. Therefore, helicopter parenting is beneficial to children because it protects them from harm or dangers, help them live a better health life and help them meet their dreams.

There are two type of family that care too much or not. As we knew already, we had a typical family, but there are many different ways of caring between two of them. Some family who care that much about children's might have their own way to protect them, no matter what. When a family overprotecting, which is called "Helicopter Parenting". Is Helicopter parenting beneficial?. Begin helicopter parenting isn't easily because you have to keep your child's safe from harmful. According to the "Psychotherapy Networker Magazine's article", "BUBBLE-WRAPPING OUR CHILDREN" by Michael Ungar, and "Helicopter parenting Delivers Benefits" by Don Aucoin. We can tell by this article that helicopter parenting is beneficial for their children's such as: