Through Life and Death and Back Again They say there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, and the closer the people are to you, the worse it is when you lose them. Death. When the word pops into your mind, you immediately think of sadness, sorrow, and gloominess, but the word itself is not so terrifying. However, what it does to us is. It feels as if part of your soul is ripped out and tortured, but it is not like any wound. It never can truly heal, it is a burden forever in your heart. People try to spend most of their time to indulge themselves with happiness, trying to patch up the hole in their heart that they have lost, but they never can. My grandmother was diagnosed with cancer before she died. …show more content…
The telephone bellowed throughout the house, my dad quickly rushed to the phone. I hurriedly followed after him. He picked up the phone, making the absurdly loud ringing put to an end. The twinkle in his eyes slowly faded. I knew from the look of his eyes that it was bad news. A few days ago, my mother took a plane to Taiwan to check up with my grandmother’s health condition. Me: “What happened?”, I asked even though I knew what the verdict was. Dad: “Y-Your grandmother died.”, he replied, stuttering a little while he said this While I already guess what happened, I still couldn’t bear the truth. I dashed into my room and slammed the door, tears streaming down my face. A week later... A small, cool breeze blew my hair, making it dance in the air for a couple of seconds, before dying down. It was in the middle of March, the sky was sunny and innocent looking, as if nothing happened, but something did. The group of people dressed in black surrounded and stared at the cold, empty looking stone. The pain of her loss hitting me like a ton of bricks. I thought to myself, how was a headstone with her name carved into it, ever going to amount to what she did in life, all the happiness that she spread? Where would she be when we needed her? I had to accept the bitter, hard truth, she wouldn’t be with me anymore. I glanced over to my mom who was silently weeping while looking at the gravestone. A small tear slid down the side of my face, slightly glittering
Remaining on the gravel road, passing the first curb with a big old pine tree on the left. The sudden calmness takes over my body, as I approach her gravestone feeling her presence. The smell of fresh, crisp pine trees in your nasal cavities. The smell is much stronger this morning from the rain storm the night before and so relaxing like the smell of a little tree air freshener. I approach to her gravestone, as the summer morning warmth hugs me tightly and the morning breeze runs through my long black hair. The chorus of birds flocking in the blue sky. As I walk up the little hill to her gravestone, I pass the baby boy that lays beside her. His old, dirty gray gravestone in a heart shape with his name engraved in between a ribbon. His bright,
Write a 750-1,000 word paper analyzing Woterstorff’s reflctions in Lament For a Son. In addition, address Kubler-Ross’ five stages of grief, as they are expressed throughout Lament for a Son, and respond to the following questions:
Imagine being told one day a loved one has been savagely murdered. I could not imagine being told something like that, but I have had to go through the deaths of two grandmothers at the hands of cancer. I can personally say watching someone you love day in and day out suffer is one of the hardest things a person can go through. My dad’s mom passed away before I was even born, so I am left with knowing my grandmother loved me so much but I never got to meet her. My mom’s mother passed away when I was eight years old and she was always my babysitter and loved me more than anything, but they were both taken away from me due to breast cancer.
“This performance draws upon both ‘traditional and contemporary arts and cultural practice. The integration of… contemporary performance art and modern theatrics to form of cultural hybridity.”
People tend to deal or cope with death in a variety of ways, ranging from a very pleasant or healthy way to destructive. It really depends on how mentally strong and how much support you collect from family member, close friends, or possibly people who have dealt with similar trauma. Joe Manetti from “Always a Motive,” and Eric Clapton, singer and songwriter of “Tears in Heaven,” display quite an army of differences. However, they make it visible that they are not to different from one another. Clapton exposes that he is able to make it through such rough times by writing music. Joe Manetti on the other hand struggles with living with his misery because he does not have a strong outlet of emotions like Clapton does . Grief can be a
Acceptance: “It’s going to be okay”, Moving on and trying to live with it. According to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross this is the final grieving process. Accepting the loss doesn’t necessarily mean everything alright, it just means that a person is ready to live with the loss and learn how to live without what they have lost. Usually people want to keep on going with their lives as though they haven’t lost anything, but as time goes on they learn that, that is not completely possible and they learn to adjust. The author says we can never replace what has been lost, we just have to make new connections.
When someone looses a loved one, they will go through the seven stages of grief. In Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer, Oskar goes through the seven stages of grief after his dad dies on September 11th, 2001. Throughout the novel, Oskar goes through all of the seven stages.
In the first stage that I will discuss is denial. In this stage people may deny the reality of the situation by blocking out the words and hiding from the facts ("5 Stages of Loss & Grief | Psych Central," n.d.-a). For instance, someone could be diagnosed with some form of cancer. That person may not want to know because it might overwhelm them. So they would not want to know the reality of
To begin coping with perinatal loss, it is important to review the stages of grief and how they pertain to this extremely sensitive topic. The seven stages of grief include shock or disbelief, denial, bargaining, guilt, anger, depression, and acceptance/hope. It is known that as a person advances through the stages, it can be common to regress back to a prior stage throughout the recovery process. It is important that the parents are aware of these stages of grief and are constantly reminded that it is perfectly normal to jump back and forth from stage to stage.
It’s ironic that Elizabeth Kubler-Ross theory, of the five stages of grief is present in the story “Hamlet” by William Shakespeare after so many centuries later. Hamlet is believed to be the most dramatic play in history, and comes with many personal conflicts that people still today will struggle with. In “Hamlet”, the main character, Hamlet goes through the 5 stages of grief throughout the story. Elizabeth Kubler- Ross developed a theory based on how she believed to be the stages of acceptance of death. “The 5 stages of grief and loss are: 1. Denial and isolation; 2. Anger; 3. Bargaining; 4. Depression; 5. Acceptance. People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them.” (Axelrod, 2016) Even though, Hamlet repeats some of these stages, and is involved in multiple stages at the same time, he does in fact experience through all these stages. Hamlet the Danish prince, son of Gertrude, grieve for the death of his father. The unexpected passing of his father causes Hamlet to experience a roller coaster of emotions. The death of his father is not the only thing he struggles with, but the marriage between his mother and uncle troubles him also. He feels as if his mother has betrayed him, and did not give him the proper time to grief over the fatality of his father. Claudius, Hamlet’s uncle, not only replaced his father, but he also inherited the throne that was supposed to be passed down to Hamlet. When Horatio and
Warily, I walked over to where my father was standing right outside the school, waiting for Cole and I, when I saw he had shades on, I knew for sure that something was wrong, due to the fact he never wore shades. When we were to the pick-up my whole family was in there. Noticing, when I jumped in the pick-up, my mother also had shades on. Anxiously, I sat there attentively for the longest second of my life, then my father stammered to us that grandfather had passed away. Countless emotions were running through me, overwhelmed; I didn’t know what to think, raving; owing to they said he was going to be adequate, grieving; due to I didn’t get to talk t6o my grandfather before he passed
Answer: People deal with loss in different ways. Painful emotions take place when the reality of the loss sinks in and the numbness of the loss wears off. This is when a person starts to face their feelings. Mrs. G. has been experiencing many different emotions including withdrawing from other people, feeling alone in the situation, not having the desire to eat, losing weight, having trouble sleeping, looking sad, feeling tired, and feeling depressed (American Cancer Society, 2014).
What is grief? “The grief experienced as the result of a death can be deep, very painful, and can often feel unending. But grief is also a process, and can lead to the healing of the loss and to finding solace and reprieve from the pain.” (The Five Stages Of Grief, 2018, para. 1). The grief process can be characterized into five well-known stages of grief. “There are five stages of grief that were first proposed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book On Death and Dying” (Axelrod, 2018, para. 1). Every person is different and they will move through the five stages of grief in their own way. For example, some people may move back and forth between them, and others may skip stages completely. The means to understanding the five stages of grief is knowing that no person is the same, thus there is no specific order or way to move through the stages; therefore, looking at the stages as guides in the grieving process will be more beneficial to you because
Step, step,step. Slowly I walked toward the gravestones. I could the sun glistening against all the polished headstones and the late morning dew still sitting on the grass peacefully. Also in the further back I saw the headstone that belonged to my great grandfather. I didn't know him but he was still in my heart. Knowing that today my great grandma would be buried next to the love of her life didn’t really matter since I didn’t really know here that much. I heard the mumble of my mom telling me in the background where to stand, ¨ Jordan… right here… don't… move.¨ None of that matters though I already knew that what I did would feel right. Everyone member of our family crowded around in a big circle waiting for the service to begin.
Step, step,step. Slowly I walked toward the gravestones. I could the sun glistening against all the polished headstones and the late morning dew still sits on the grass peacefully. Also in the further back, I saw the headstone that belonged to my great grandfather. I didn't know him, but he was still in my heart. Knowing that today my great grandma would be buried next to the love of her life didn’t really matter since I didn’t really know here that much.