Analysis Of ' Save The Date '

It all began with a simple phone call one night after dinner, “Joe,” my father hollered up the stairs, “it’s for you. It’s Jackie, and she sounds upset.” As I came downstairs to pick up the phone, I was not happy. I was tired and had looked forward to a nice quiet evening at home, not another stupid adventure with Jackie.

According to Yoder (1999) society views women as caring, and sensitive. As such, they are expected to

Aziz Ansari published his first book Modern Romance, on June 16, 2015, where he teamed up with notable sociologists to uncover the mysteries of the changing dating scene around the world. Ansari states that relationships have been evolving for the past century for reasons ranging from people having different wants and desires to more advanced technology. These developments have revitalized the dating culture, but simultaneously have also made it very complex. Ansari’s reason for writing this book was that he was “fascinated by the questions of how and why so many people have become so perplexed by the challenge of doing something that people have always done quite efficiently: finding romance” (Ansari 6). In the book, he dives into the

Strenuous, racing thoughts and anxiety are linked and chained together for people when it comes to dating. Brenda Miller’s short essay The Date, breathes life into what a person is thinking before they are going on a date. Brenda Miller has rapid thoughts ranging from her past to her present, while she is waiting on the arrival of her date. The author is persevering her apprehension through words and thoughts, so the reader can have a chance to experience some of her anxiety, “ A man I like is coming to dinner. He’s late. I sit on the edge of my bed, unwilling to stand near the front windows where he might be waiting. My stomach hurts, and is not soothed by the smell of tandoori chicken over cooking in the oven.” ( Miller, 2007. P.387). Miller’s memories are triggered from her senses from taste, smell, sound and sight. Her past memories shape her present thoughts. Her past experiences with rejection and failures had made dating much more difficult for her, as well added to the excitement of dating for her.

In middle eastern society Many may claim that the women in the middle east are being oppressed but the same may be said about women living in the west. Until quite recently in time women here in the United States received an equal status to men. Whereas these traditions and

unequally in marriage, in court, and in society. Difficulty through marriage for Muslim women can come from age, divorce, and having to be subservient to their husbands. Not only is there difficulty in marriage, but also in the unequal treatment in the islamic justice systems, such as when “evidence given by a female witness counts for half that given by a man” (Dargie 22). Although the societies of major Islamic countries differ, it is clear that women are not represented equally to men in any of them, for example having to dress and act certain ways so as not to attract any attention from men. However, there are Islamic women who are willing to change how their religion views females by speaking out and encouraging others to do the same.

As a second generation Indian American woman, much of my experience as a gendered person has been shaped by familial values, especially those regarding the respective roles of men and women in the Indian household. The combination of a highly patriarchal society and an emphasis on family as the most dominant institution in Indian life translates to a family in which women are subordinate to men in every way. My gendered experience in an Indian family unit was not as extreme as traditional families in India due to the privilege I had of growing up in an upper-middle class socioeconomic household in a progressive American society. However, gender expectations in my family were rooted in the South Asian immigrant experience, exemplified through

Though the !Kung people are an equal society their beliefs on how a women should get married can be considered at somewhat controlling. Women in the !Kung society are often married young. During her teen years it is expected for the !Kung girls to get married to an older man who will be able to provide for his in laws. With no say in who she will be marrying the girl is basically forced to be with this man who her parents believe can take

Young adults seeking to lift themselves out of tough situations can identify with the events of The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian. They should see in Junior the resilience and determination to achieve a better life and improved their self esteem. Alexie’s use of modern language and humor is applicable for the YA genre. His style of prose is laid back and conversational.

culture and see that it often still exists. Though there are many women who are

Women were seen as natural and appropriate caregivers who experienced strain juggling the demands of work and familial responsibilities (Spitzer et al., 2003 p.282). Overall, both Spitzer et al (2003) and Beagan et al (2008) both found that women see their responsibility for food work, housework, child care, elderly care and etc. George & Ramikissoon (1998) looked at the experiences of South Asian women integrating themselves in Canada (p.103). The South Asian women had come to Canada either for political persecution, for economic reasons and because they wanted to provide a better future for their children (George & Ramkissoon,1998, p.108). Dasgupta (1998) conducted a study to view how much success immigrants have achieved instilling Indian cultural values in their children. This study was also done to explore the similarities in the attitudes toward women and dating amongst Asian Indian immigrants and their children (p.958). DasGupta (1998) argued that if an individual held a liberal attitude toward women’s role in society that it was likely she would have acceptance for dating

I identify as a first generation Bengali-American woman. Although I have a lot of pride about my cultural background, the same background exposed me to a multitude of negative messages regarding gender. One of the first messages I learned due to my culture is that women only have two choices in life; they must either get married or become a nun. Because arranged marriage is common in Bengali culture, my elderly relatives often asked me when I wanted to get married and to whom I wanted to get married to. When I said “I’m not sure if I want to get married,” these relatives assumed that if I did not want to have a husband, then I must devote my life to God and become a nun. As I grew up, an increasing number of people continued asking me questions

Couples who dare cross the social conventions have to cope with a lot of social pressure within their families and outside. These problems are more acute in the rural areas compared to the urban areas and metropolitan cities. Much depends upon the family background. If parents are educated and enlightened on both sides, things would be easier for the children, who get involved in unconventional relationships. One of the evils of Hindu marriages is the ubiquitous dowry system.

As a girl you are expected to break, but in reality girls have to pretend nothing will break them or they will again be judged by society. This tends to be the case because if a girl breaks it will just add fire to the sexist prejudices put upon them as a gender. In Serena Nanda’s article Arranging a Marriage in India, she talks about her research in India, when a son’s parents are looking for a wife for their son they have a very long list of expectations. She should be from the same caste system, pretty, not too intelligent, meshes with the family well, doesn’t stray from home, nor does she gossip or call home a lot, and the most important thing is that she is pure before marriage. Though these expectations tend to look somewhat different in the U.S. they have the same ideas. A girl should be boxed in away from society and taking care of the children or perhaps being a good cook to put it into simpler terms because that is what society unfairly tells us a girl should be able to do. Serena also talks about how it is very important for a girl to protect the family name and in no way ever disgrace it. If that girl does disgrace the family (for example not staying pure) it is not uncommon for her brother or even cousin to murder her. Why is a family's expectations based on what a girl does? These unrealistic expectations push girls too far and cause us to think our worth is less because we cannot do it all, even though society thinks that's “the least we could

The second category as to why girls are married off so young, is poverty. Education can be a solution to child marriage, however it is too expensive and so families do not see it as necessary if they will marry their daughter into another family. In India, it is tradition for a woman to leave her