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Analysis Of The Loser By Joseph Carver

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The Loser. Being in a toxic relationship can be one of the cruelest things that a human can endure. Speaking from experience “The Loser” is a real and terrible person to be in a relationship with. It slowly sneaks up on you like a thief in the night just waiting to catch the person at their weakest moment and trap them in the virtuous cycle of abuse. “The Loser” has many different ways of trapping their victim in a relationship and have zero intentions of letting them leave. This article is going into ways of avoiding being trapped in a relationship and ways to identify what type of “the loser” the person may be. I thought this article and its warnings were very realistic and relatable to people who have or will be in a relationship …show more content…

He was concerned that I was going to be unfaithful to him and ruin everything that we had. It was a slow and gradual with the subtle comments, but he was starting to separate me from all of my friends. I had plans with one of my friends he would always be communicating with me during the time that we weren’t together. My ex-boyfriend would always be asking me who I am with, where we are, and just being very anxious about who I was with without him. I agree with Dr. Joseph Carver because I think this is one of the first steps that “the loser” may use to get his victim alone and try and receive full control over the victim. When the loser starts cutting off your support they start gaining a lot of control over your life. When my former boyfriend started to cut me off from my friends and family, he did it in a way where I didn't even realize it was happening. He would hang out with my family and me on the weekends and would put me in a position constantly choosing him over my family. My former boyfriend would always put thoughts in my head that they friends weren’t really good for me, that they were spreading lies and rumors. I started to talk less with my friends and started to depend more on him. He did it so well that even my relationship with my parents and sister suffered. Once he started pushing my social support away from me until I was completely dependent on him. He would make it seem as though it was for the

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