The Loser. Being in a toxic relationship can be one of the cruelest things that a human can endure. Speaking from experience “The Loser” is a real and terrible person to be in a relationship with. It slowly sneaks up on you like a thief in the night just waiting to catch the person at their weakest moment and trap them in the virtuous cycle of abuse. “The Loser” has many different ways of trapping their victim in a relationship and have zero intentions of letting them leave. This article is going into ways of avoiding being trapped in a relationship and ways to identify what type of “the loser” the person may be. I thought this article and its warnings were very realistic and relatable to people who have or will be in a relationship …show more content…
He was concerned that I was going to be unfaithful to him and ruin everything that we had. It was a slow and gradual with the subtle comments, but he was starting to separate me from all of my friends. I had plans with one of my friends he would always be communicating with me during the time that we weren’t together. My ex-boyfriend would always be asking me who I am with, where we are, and just being very anxious about who I was with without him. I agree with Dr. Joseph Carver because I think this is one of the first steps that “the loser” may use to get his victim alone and try and receive full control over the victim. When the loser starts cutting off your support they start gaining a lot of control over your life. When my former boyfriend started to cut me off from my friends and family, he did it in a way where I didn't even realize it was happening. He would hang out with my family and me on the weekends and would put me in a position constantly choosing him over my family. My former boyfriend would always put thoughts in my head that they friends weren’t really good for me, that they were spreading lies and rumors. I started to talk less with my friends and started to depend more on him. He did it so well that even my relationship with my parents and sister suffered. Once he started pushing my social support away from me until I was completely dependent on him. He would make it seem as though it was for the
The book “Lone Survivor” deeply develops Marcus Luttrell individually by explaining his life previously to becoming a Navy Seal. It goes through the process of his pre BUD/S training with Billy Shelton. It describes the rigorous training with Shelton from hundreds of pushup a day, to running down the side of highways carrying telephone polls. The book then progresses into describing what BUD/S training was personally like for Luttrell and the mental and physical strength he had to withstand in order to make it through Hell Week. The characteristics of courage, selflessness and perseverance he learnt in training transition into how he handles the failed operation in the book.
Being in a relationship is like being in a roller coaster, sometimes you enjoy the ride, sometimes you don’t. Even with the passing of the years, this statement hasn’t had considerable changes. Many women see themselves trapped in relationships they are not satisfied with. While a few of them look for solutions in order to live a pleasant life, the majority resign themselves to stay in distressed affiliations.
Every person strikes a breaking point at some point in their life due to some sort of issue that has occurred. These are the people that shape our world into what it is today. Kurt Vonnegut, a deceased but not forgotten writer that is known for his unique characteristics and eye-catching elements that create an unforgettable book, would agree with the fact that there are several things to love about life, but that we need to keep in mind that life is not a fairytale, meaning that you should not expect perfection in your daily life because perfection simply does not exist. In the story 2BR02B, Kurt Vonnegut conveys the theme the world is not always a bright place to live in by using different examples or external conflict,
surviving, and leaving an abusive relationship is a harder and greater impact to the mind and heart, than to stay and continually get abused. Being abused by the man who once made me laugh, smile and fall in love with, his presents lifted life off my shoulders, made me remember what true happiness felt like and within instants everything changed. I was afraid, and terrified. I blamed myself because of the words he stuck in my head. I felt trapped in his shadow. Even after escaping the physical torture, it was as if he never left. It was never same, he took everything from me. he destroyed every glimps of hsppines he made me lose my
We had dated for a year after breaking up. I tried to fix the issue that he kept on dragging on. There was a rumor that had spread throughout both of our friends and he took it to heart and believed the rumor was true.
In Colson Whitehead’s thought-provoking piece The Loser Edit, the author introduces the contrasting ideas of “loser edits” and “winner edits”, names given to the processes used by TV producers in order to make winners and losers make sense to the audience. Particularly in paragraphs seven through twenty, Whitehead’s usage of rhetorical strategies--namely rhetorical questions and syntax-- effectively establishes and develops his position on both “edits”. By using the aforestated rhetorical tools, Colson Whitehead competently creates a compelling essay.
The short story “Little Things” by Raymond Carver deals with the humanity’s spiteful nature and its desire to flaunt what others can not have. On the surface, the story is about a man, a woman, and baby, none of which have a confirmed relation to each other, and a dispute over who should keep the baby after the man leaves. As the story reaches its end, there is no clear winner and the reader has a sense of unease based on the last line, “In this manner, the issue was decided” (Carver). Carver’s use of dialogue, allusion, and sight/sound imagery help build the darker mood for the story, and his use of those elements ultimately leads to one of Carver’s main messages. By utilizing the previously listed items, Carver highlights the idea that
St. John argues that when individuals fear change, it creates more problems and conflicts. However, if people were to embrace change, then this would enhance the lives of all people involved.
The first few years on a relationship, everything seems gold plated and perfect. Respecting, honoring significant others is a given, but unfortunately some feel the urge and need to claim their dominance over the relationship. Unexpected things would eventually start occurring, like physical assaults, diminished self-worth, and sometimes even child abuses are consequences of trying to dominate the members in a household. After growing up in a household where the abusive environment is dominating, people are known to develop trust issues, disturbed and unreal perceptions of reality; the solution may not always be clear, but immediate action is to be taken from the abused party or victims.
The Way It Was: A Social Comparison on Donalda Reid's, "The Way It Is" and What It Was Really Like Back Then
My Brother Sam Is Dead by Lincoln Collier and Christopher Collier is a novel about a boy named Tim and his mother, Susannah Meeker, and his father, Eliphalet "Life" Meeker, and their journey throughout war when their oldest son, Sam, goes off and fights in the American Revolution. The novel starts off with Sam returning home after being away for a long time serving his country in the war and college. His surprise homecoming was fun at first, until he and his father started getting into it because of their different opinions on the war. Sam believes that Redding isn't free and that their king should not rule their land because he lives 3000 miles away from Redding. He also believes that the king is giving them unfair taxes that is making them richer that they already are. On the other hand, his father disagrees completely. He thinks that everyone should obey the king and that his taxes aren't really that bad. Later on, while doing chores, Sam confides in Tim his plan to steal their father's gun in order to fight. Tim protests, but he can do
As I looked over my old writing, one noticeable difference popped out. Something you always emphasize is the importance of being specific. I realize now that this was something I struggled with at the beginning of English class. I examined my essays about True Diary and Mango Street, and came to understand, how much had changed. In “Junior’s Battle For Hope” I discussed huge themes of the book rather than choosing a focus. I had a paragraph about the alcoholism on the reservation and how it affected Junior, as well as a paragraph on Junior’s identity. Each of these could have a whole essay written about them, and I wasn’t able to do the subjects justice in such a short analysis. The next essay I wrote was “Sally, Control, and Female Perspective”
Today’s society contains an overwhelming amount of people “stuck” in abusive relationships. Why don’t they just pack up and leave one might wonder? Is this because they want to believe that people can change? It is a very disturbing issue, when the person that you are in “Love” with is the person inflicting so much pain on you. An outsider looking in a on a relationship of this sort will question why women that are victims of Intimate Partner Violence simply do not leave their relationships?
Not only did they establish credibility, they both established pathos in their own way. The use of pathos throughout both articles is diverse. Fredrik DeBoer’s use of pathos is not very distinctive and is very slight. The use of “You are a loser” (DeBoer 100) is to motivate a person into finding a job. This appeals to emotion because it makes the person feel depress until they force themselves to get a job to find happiness, but they ultimately still feel down. It also appeals to emotion because people do not want others to have a bad opinion about them. The use of the quote “Many were raised by self-consciously creative parents who wished for children who were similarly creative, in ethos if not in practice” (DeBoer 98) appeals to pathos by
In Short Cuts, by Raymond Carver, characters experience trials and problems in their lives, whether extreme such as in " A Small, Good Thing" and "Lemonade" or nominal such as in " Vitamins". They all seem to depict these struggles as uphill battles which the characters cannot and mostly do not overcome. The characters throughout Carver's "Short Cuts" struggle through their lives in private desperation, often to ultimately realize that they are bound to the truth of who they really are, which is shown in the story "Neighbors."