What I think is the worst things a parent can do to or for their children, let us begin!!!!
Parents, they are the sole caretakers of their beloved children. They strive every living moment to care for, provide for, and to create a better life for their offspring. Most parents would prefer that their children follow the paths and guidance set forth by them. They teach and guide their children to the paths that they want them to follow, the paths that they believe is best for the future and well-being of their child. However in actuality, it is predominantly the child’s own decision to determine what their future holds. They may choose to follow the paths of their parents or perhaps even pave an entirely new road leading to their own destinies and dreams. Take the Wall’s family from Jeannette Wall’s memoir, Glass Castle, for instance. Even with
Looking back at my past, I recall my mother and father’s relationship as if it were yesterday. I am only four years old, small and curious; I tended to walk around my home aimlessly. I would climb book shelves like a mountain explorer venturing through the Himalayans, draw on walls to open windows to my own imagination, or run laps around the living room rug because to me I was an Olympic track star competing for her gold medal; however my parents did not enjoy my rambunctious imagination. My parents never punished me for it but would blame each other for horrible parenting skills; at the time I did not understand their fights, but instead was curious about why they would fight.
Can you imagine your life without your parents? Your parents are the ones who teach you about what’s right and what’s wrong, about growing up, about respecting others, about life and death; they are the ones who help you to become who you are today. Without them, you would be lost; you would stumble without their loving guide. It’s true; however, some parents do not have the best influence upon their kids, damaging the kid’s potential goals in life. There are also times when one parent can influence you more than the other, just like in Hugo Hamilton’s memoir, The Speckled People. In his beautifully vivid written memoir, we encounter a young boy named Johannes who faces many misconceptions due to his father’s teachings. Throughout his naïve
There is something quite beautiful about the dynamic between a mother and her son. And how the initial grounds of dependency are rooted in physical and emotional nurturance. But once adolescence arrives, the ground seems to dissipate between one’s toes like the sands of an hourglass falling from its start to eventual finish. The lack of communication during the teenage years causes a separation between both parties, one that is at once necessary, but also torturous to better understand one another and individually.
As teenagers, there is the stereotype that we complain about our parents all the time. And the topic that most adults would think we complain about is how our parents are controlling or are butting into our lives too much. Of course, it is normal for a parent to be overprotective from time to time, but little did I know that there are parents who literally control and or live their child’s life.
It takes a leader to raise children. It takes a responsible person to watch children. It takes a compassionate person to care for children. In the end it is only a matter of common sense, how can someone do their work to the best of their ability using the resources available and then still have someone view them as a substandard parent.
Her parents were very strict. They would not allow Shirlene go out with any friends because her sister was extremely ill. Her parents wanted her to stay home and watch her sister.
A topic that I wanted to explore in more depth in this chapter is parents’ response to a child’s cry. I still start by acknowledging that this is something that I personally find extremely important. In everyday life, both at work and at times in personal settings as well, I see parents who do not respond to their child’s protests or cry because “they got upset over nothing.” I will honestly voice that this bothers me a lot. I have always loved children, and now as a family therapist, I believe that it is important to respond to children when they are upset, however, I do encounter some clinicians (especially with BHRS background) and a lot of parents who believe that when the “function” of the cry is to get attention or have the parent give-in,
Now that I saw my parents through a ‘grown ups’ lens’, I was proud of them – of my father, for his success, in the competitive world of business; my mother, for maintaining her equipoise and both of them for accepting me; showering me with unconditional love. I felt blessed that my parents cared for me, loved me; supported me, unmindful of my having constantly rejected
When children see their parents involved in a meaningful way, they may benefit from the confidence and self-esteem that comes with feeling secure in their parents’ commitment to their well-being (Col. State).
A parent’s cultural norms, love, and overprotection may disengage the child from interacting with other people. “Rigid boundaries are restrictive and permit little contact with outside subsystem, resulting in disengagement” (Nichols, 2013, p. 125). For instance, Nichols explained the importance of allowing children to settle their own problems without the help of an adult. The children learn to derive with techniques in finding a solution to a problem.
Contrary to popular belief, parental discord does not necessarily adversely affect children’s lives. Both “Warren Pryor” by Alden Nowlan and “The Boat” by Alistair MacLeod illustrate an important, although controversial, message. Regardless of parents’ good intentions for their children, their consistent agreement with one another can have a detrimental effect on their child’s decision making abilities. Both texts emphasize parental love for their children, and a desire for them to be happy and successful. There is however, one crucial difference. Whereas Warren follows the path laid out for him by his parents, the professor makes his own life choices. This distinction can be credited to the Warren’s parents’ steady agreement, as compared to the professor's parents’ dissonance.
When I was growing up, I remember my family situation as extremely chaotic. I was one of eight children and my father and mother had little time to devote to me individually. Most of the time they spent trying to earn enough to support us with their meager resources. I was often called upon to act as a surrogate mother to my siblings. I felt I had little time to develop my own unique perspective and voice when I was very young. Even as a preschooler I remember doing chores to help out at home. However, this situation did foster some positive aspects of my character. I learned to be mature at an early age and gained a sense of competence because of my responsibilities. But I also was taught put the needs of others second to my own. I feel that I did not learn to value my own, legitimate desires to an adequate degree as a young girl and have only recently acquired a true sense of worth [THESIS].
Imagine where you might be if it was not for your supportive, loving, engaged, and dependable family and friends? In our first couple years we get to live through a vast amount of experiences that we most likely do not recall even though they will influence and guide us in our future. Most of us do not constantly wonder who and what helped shape us into who we are today, but according to Some Early Childhood Experiences Shape Adult Life, But Which Ones? a study published in Child Development uncovered that “the type of emotional support that a child receives during the first three and a half years has an effect on education, social life and romantic relationships even 20 or 30 years later.” Our family and friends deserve recognition for their inspiring work and dedication which shines through the person we have become. As annoying and frustrating it is having your parents control your childhood, you will be appreciative of their engagement as an adult because you will realize how much they impacted your success in life. People’s life decisions are instigated by uncountable factors, but their environment and what drives their judgments and treatment of others are fundamental aspects directing their life path.