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Assertive Behavior Analysis

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When I moved away from home for the first time, I rented a townhome with two of my high school classmates, Kaylin and Rachel. Each of us attended Wichita State, worked part time, and lived similar lifestyles, so we believed our arrangement to be ideal, despite not having been the closest of friends. The planning stage was very exciting and involved lengthy discussions about who would furnish the living room, kitchen, or dining room and how we would handle expenses and house rules. Additionally, the three of us agreed to share the cleaning and other household responsibilities, but within three months, Kaylin and I quickly realized only the two of us had meant it. In order to bring this to Rachel’s attention and request she start contributing …show more content…

This allows the speaker to get his or her point across and leaves the lines of communication open for the listener to respond. After all, assertiveness is a positive quality not to be confused with aggressiveness; rather, the goal of being assertive is to stand up for yourself while still showing respect for the other person. This is best done by using “I-messages,” expressing your own feelings, showing empathy, and suggesting ways to resolve the issue that benefits both parties (DeVito 121). Thus, when applied properly, assertiveness can greatly improve one’s interpersonal communication …show more content…

I then moved on to describe how Kaylin and I felt it was unfair that we were having to do extra cleaning, when we had schoolwork and jobs too. As for solutions, I told her Kaylin called dibs on vacuuming and asked her to choose one of the other chores she felt she could do each week, such as cleaning the kitchen or the bathrooms. I would complete the remaining tasks myself. In an effort to make her decision easier, I even pointed out that cleaning the bathrooms took the least amount of time, and thus would be more accommodating of her busy schedule. After a little prompting, Rachel agreed to start cleaning the bathrooms regularly, and as a bonus, she herself acknowledged that she had become sloppy about not picking up after herself, and agreed to try to improve in that area as well! To conclude, I thanked her for listening, reiterated that household responsibilities require a team effort which we all benefit from, and asked if she could clean the bathrooms before the end of the week, as maintenance had scheduled a routine

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