Crying Scenarios

The next type of listening is critical listening. This is the type of listening required to asses facts and distinguish them from opinions. This seems to be the primary type of listening used in the initial assessment of a client’s needs. The initial motive behind a person’s complaints or problems must be determined and separated from any emotional aspect of a situation. The true meaning of a person’s problem or complaint must be challenged and questioned until an actual baseline is achieved. The revelation of truth is a primary goal in counseling, as it must come first before any plan of action can be made, (Hybels & Weaver, 2007), (Collins, 2007), (DeLashmunt, Glover & Patch, 2010). The truth involves not just the client’s situation, but the actual view of the counselor. The counselor must be aware of the truth of his/her own belief systems, prejudices, and objectivity, or lack thereof. Only then can a counselor be effective, (DeLashmut, Glover & Patch, 2010).

In this essay, the characteristics of a counsellor and a friend will be expanded upon in order to gain a greater knowledge for deciphering the two.

Nurses have a difficult yet unique role when it comes to bereavement. Nurses spend the most time with patients, so they are most often the ones that patients choose to share their concerns, fears, and grief with. According to Corr & Coolican, (2010), bereavement is the term used when someone significant is lost through death. According to Read (2002), nurses can help the bereaved by acknowledging the death, using active listening, helping them to express their emotions and ensuring that they are involved in the dying process. I am currently doing my senior capstone clinical rotation at a jail and even though I haven’t had to deal with any patient deaths so far, the patients that I deal with are essentially experiencing a loss. To some of the inmates, being imprisoned is like losing a loved one because they are cut off from the world and feel like their life is over. Even

When a loved one dies, children handle their grief differently than adults, but they still often grieve very deeply in their own way. Much of the grief children experience comes from the fact that children often lose friends to a sudden death such as a traffic accident. The loss of older loved ones may be more anticipated, such as

their crisis. In these conversations it can be helpful to give them methods and skills that they

Grief is experienced as the emotional, physical, cognitive, and behavioral responses to loss. These elements, like a fog rolling in, cover what may be right in front of your eyes. I have studied this the grief matrix for years. I am an expert in at leading people through the maze of grief. It is one of my specialties. Authors, like Amy Hemple, write about the language of grief. With help from their her detailed prose, I have honed my skills. I have worked with doctors, psychologists, and clinical social workers, though psychiatrists are often the most receptive to my methods. my favorites Today, I will begin working with Dr. Brouillard, the psychiatrist who helped my neighbor, Jack, after his home was burglarized a few weeks ago. Dr. Brouillard consults at the local police precinct where Jack filed the police report. Like repeatedly playing the same video game over and over until I’ve mastered each possible storyline, each every time I work with a professional, my craft gets better and better.

Grief is an acknowledgement that we loved someone, and the nature of our relationship with that person determines how we grieve. Grief is an exclusive process; one that is as different as the person experiencing it is. As Hospice volunteers we must respect each person’s individual grieving practices and refuse to give in to the temptation to advise others to follow our exact paths. Although those of us who have also experienced such loss can sympathize with other’s feelings, we must be attentive to the fact that they are mourning the loss of a relationship that was exclusively theirs. As Hospice volunteers, we must consider this exclusivity and abstain from persisting that the grieving person grieve any way other than what is best for

Counselling - client in distressed and disabling state. Tends to place an emphasis on non-judgemental listening, with no commitment necessarily to action.

Kathya Vasquez Mendoza ,Booth 6: Therapeutic Response to Clients Experiencing Loss, Grief, Dying, and Death

The bereaved person will always be encouraged within a supportive, caring and trusting atmosphere, to be themselves, to be able to express themselves and to talk about what they want to talk about and feel they need to talk about, in that they are to be listened to carefully and with compassion, that they are never going to be judged, and that there is patience, understanding and encouragement that is healthy and positive for them.

The counsellor has an active role in any dialogue or conversation – is not a passive actor.

The loss then becomes more real to the individual sharing. If the individual suffers from feelings of guilt or anger, the counselor can help the survivor move forward. If the client didn’t have a chance to say good-bye, writing farewell letters can be especially helpful. Other ways to help are through verbal counseling, writing poetry or keeping a journal. For children and adolescents or individuals who have a hard time expressing grief, expressive therapy and play therapy techniques can help.

Bereavement is an issue that affects families all across the world. It is often hard for parents and families to comfort bereaved children as they are grieving too. Grieving parents many times ‘‘feel like they are losing their minds” (Dickens). But if parents are actively involved in helping their child’s healing process then children can learn coping flexibility and resilience and can deal with their grief in healthy ways. However numerous parents are “too emotionally wrought to comprehend the grief of their remaining children (Dickens). They, as well as other family members, experience symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and complicated Greif as they struggle to cope with the loss of their parent, spouse or child.

To those of you who never experienced grief, you may say that crying is pathetic and useless, that I should “get over it”, but you will never understand unless it affected you. At the ending stages of grieving, you had to find closure over the person’s death and fully accept that they would never come come back. I had gone so far with my grief counseling that I hit a roadblock in recovering mentally, finding closure. Every session felt more and more frustrating as I would just sit there and think about the injustices surrounding her death. After several,

Self-awareness: This is important so that as a counsellor you are not imposing personal concerns