There are only a handful of people who can truly say that they have never lost control or succumbed to their own anger. The deceptive relationship between us and this specific emotion has proven to be detrimental to the development of our character. As the famous G.M. Trevelyan once said, “Anger is a momentary madness, so control your passion or it will control you”(Trevelyan 1). We can all come to a consensus that we become prey to our own anger. Because anger is a strong emotion, people often find themselves surrendering their will to it. Speaking from personal experience, anger is prone to consume a person unless tamed by one’s own rationality.
Throughout life, people are accustomed to falling victim to their own anger. Anger results from
I chose to do this project on anger because for me, it is the most frequent fault I commit. In addition, it is the hardest one for me to avoid, which makes it one of the most distinctive sins to me. Moreover, writing about it gives me a better understanding of what it is. To me, anger is like a test. Imagine that your life and your decisions are like a path that has many other paths leading off of it, and the goal is to stay on the main path. Anger is like a rock or boulder that blocks the path of travel. As a test, will you keep calm and find a way around it and make
This paper will examine Robert C. Solomon's Emotions and Choices article, to best identify what anger is, and to what extent a rational human being is responsible for their anger. Firstly, Solomon's argument must be described. A quick summation of Solomon's argument can be found in the following four points: Emotions are judgements, emotions are chosen, emotions serve a purpose, and emotions are rational.1 To quote Solomon, he explains that “Emotions are not occurrences, and do not happen to us. They ... may be chosen like an action.”2
Last but not least, our feeling of helplessness and loss of control is another cause which triggers anger. This feeling often appears when you are prevented from doing what you want to do or from going where you want to go. Someone who is trapped in a traffic may well explain this kind of anger. No matter how many times he honked, the cars in front of him would not clear up a way for him to drive by. No matter how loud he screamed, his boss who had been waiting for him to arrive at the annual meeting would not hear his excuses about why he was late. He was
Anger in a business setting can cause one to act inappropriately or unwisely by blowing an incident out of proportion and possibly irrevocably damaging a career. Learning that at any moment we have the ability to consciously control our anger is empowering but not that easy to accomplish. Goleman asserts the body’s chemical reaction to stressful situations, relating back to our ancient ancestors, is the reason for this difficulty. The introduction of hormones into the body is not a gradual elevation, but a quick release relating back to our basic fight or flight response to environmental dangers. Every day, hormones are incrementally released into the body with each passing taxing stressful episode until a level is reached that triggers anger. He offers two weapons against anger outbursts. The first is method is to recognize, as early as possible, what is triggering the anger. This disruption of the anger
Utilizing strategies and techniques to effectively manage anger can be difficult, the lack of anger management can result in serious consequences. The literature suggest that problems related to anger and aggression can cause difficulty in many areas of life. In addition, it can cause impaired functionality for
When I feel anger a strategy I use or would like to implement in future situations is to control my anger and not to say what it is in my mind.
Anger runs through people’s veins, it is a tricky thing to avoid. During Macbeth, some characters let anger get the best of them. For example, by the end of the play lady Macbeth kills herself from anger and not being to be able to get what she wants. She knows that she hates Duncan and wants to attack him, but she knows that she can’t do it right so she asks Macbeth if he can do it because she knows that Macbeth can do it but Macbeth says no and she grows angry at him and
Sometimes people can be angry or furious. However, when the time passes they do not even remember their anger. Should they stay angry or should they let it go as Martha C. Nussbaum says in the “Anger and Forgiveness” book? To answer this question, the notion of anger needs to be explored. For instance, according to Nussbaum, in “the Middle Realm”, anger is the “domain of life”, and affects the way we spend our lives (p.138). Nussbaum says that we mostly deal with people who we meet temporarily; it can be at work, at the store or on the street, but we do it on a regular basis. Therefore, as the author points out, we do not get into a deep relationship with these people in this realm, and this is a short term situation. Also, Nussbaum says that she finds it easy to transition herself in a non-anger situation with people who she loves. On the other hand, she finds it harder to transition from this feeling when dealing with “irritating strangers” (p. 139).
There is often a certain knee-jerk reaction to hearing an opinion you don't agree with: anger. See also: disgust, contempt, bitterness. It's simple to get angry at your friend when you find out she doesn't hold the same stance on gun control you do. It's easy to get into an argument with your classmate when he denounces feminism. And while some anger is justified in these matters, holding onto it does neither party any good. Especially in times like these, with tensions running high and hatred prevalent, being angry at others for thinking differently is, ironically, what we are so hotly denouncing. It's superfluous to get mad at someone you consider "close minded" when you close your mind to their opinions and ideas. I used to anger at any
Often, when a person gets angry, it seems that the situation they are dealing with has no end. Consequently, this happens because the intensity of the anger takes control and thus misdirects decisions, creates
Anger is an emotional state to express feelings such as indignation that may range in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage, according to Charles Spielberger, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Anger can destroy man's life and make him live in misery forever, so anger has been fed by feelings of disappointment, hurt, rejection, and embarrassment. Anger may consider useful for psychopaths in order to express their inside feelings. The expression of anger can be through active or passive behaviors. In the case of “active” emotion, the angry person “lashes out” verbally or physically at a target. When anger is a “passive” emotion it is characterized by silent sulking, passive-aggressive behavior, hostility and tension” (Clausen 7). Anger can also be caused as irritation escalates during exposure to an annoyance.
day. What the studies did all find, was that anger is an emotion often used to mask other
In our personal lives we get angry over at least one thing on almost a
Anger is ire. It is when you’re causally walking, not really listening to all of the chatter around you in the hallway. Everything blends together into white noise, and you don’t really care for the incessant talking. It’s when you finally tune into couple of girls talking together, attempting, and failing, to whisper. You figure they were just gossiping about the latest thing on the news, but when you catch a wisp of the phonetics of your friend’s name, you couldn’t help yourself. It’s when you hear the lies slipping from their lips, lies about your friend. The same person who’d never hurt a fly, the same person who had always been there for you. It’s the deep spark of rage that ignites through your body, the furious feeling that pools up in your heart. It’s when your lungs tighten and your chest compresses as you try to keep your composure, but you feel yourself slipping. It’s listening to each insult, and feeling as though each sentence physically pained you.
I hear some people say that they got so angry they lost control and didn’t know what they were doing. I often wondered what that must be like. I, being a very passive person, have never lost control when I’ve become angered. I’ve always had total awareness of my situation. In the movie “Anger Management”, Jack Nicholson so nicely stated: “Your temper is the one thing you can’t get rid of by loosing it” I’ve probably come close at times, but never gone over the edge to uncontrollable rage. I remember there was one time it came close.