“Holding dreams within her soul
Tattered wings, on which she’d once so flown
Battered life, it had come and gone
Come now, Rescue her self, so lone
Lift her up on her rightful throne
She need not shed those tears anymore
Make a heaven her own home
It’s her claim
Hers to have earned.”
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
A country whose national personification lies in that of the Mother Goddess ‘Bharat Mata’, whose citizens chant ‘Jai Mata Di’ with more vehemence than dancing on their own weddings, it is more than impossible to envision the horrific state of the women of this country.
Marriage for an Indian woman is not just the love and bonding with her husband it is about building strong bonds with every member of her husband’s family, when an Indian
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Alcoholic husbands in India beat their wives for multiple reasons, for demanding their wives to provide them with money to drink from the meager and inadequate funds that they have to spend on their families, for stopping their wives from nagging them for drinking too much and influencing the children wrongly.
Social Norms in Beating
Indian society is a highly patriarchal society and has always given men more rights over women. In such situations the woman begins to feel helpless and her life meaningless, this instigates the husband to feel more powerful and dominant. Moreover economically backward and illiterate families have the problems of bad relationships between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, where the husband siding with his mother, finds it right to hit his wife to teach her a lesson.
Reaction of Women to Domestic Violence
a) Passively
A passive woman says nothing and allows the abuse to continue. She becomes the abuser’s enabler. She grows weaker and allows the abuser to grow stronger. Her passivity prolongs the loss of her own honor and dignity, and encourages the abuse to continue.
b) Aggressively
An abused woman has every right to be angry at her husband, but far too often, her righteous anger deteriorates into a sinful rage that seeks revenge. Her response might include anything from filing for divorce to using
According to The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and The National Institute of Justice, one in four women in the United States has experienced domestic violence during her lifetime (Battered Woman Syndrome, 2012). This type of abuse can be fatal and detrimental to one’s personal growth. When woman are repeatedly abused, they show different signs, symptoms and general characteristics. These characteristics are defined as Battered Woman Syndrome.
Typically, domestic violence occurs between a man and a woman, and usually, women end up being the victims more often then men (Heidensohn, 2012). The male is usually more dominant because he is bigger and significantly stronger then the female. However, in recent years, men have been experiencing their fair share of abuse from women. According to a study done by the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men, “Over 90% experienced controlling behaviors, and several men reported frustrating experiences with the domestic violence system. Callers’ reports indicated that their female abusers had a history of trauma, alcohol/drug problems, mental ill- ness, and homicidal and suicidal ideations” (Hines, 2007). This study measured 190 male callers who called the DAHM and the study shows that women can also batter men. This applies to the case of Jordan Graham and Cody Johnson because a wife murdered her husband. No one should ever underestimate someone else’s strength or aggression as those characteristics can be extremely hard to gauge. Cody Johnson may have had no prior knowledge of Graham’s temper and may have even felt as if he were the dominant figure in their marriage. Sometimes, it is easy to accuse a spouse of being the core reason for domestic abuse, whether it is verbal or physical abuse. However, domestic abuse can be seen as a problem for human beings in general, “Others have argued that violence is a
Another journal article focusing on differences in domestic violence in Canada and Quebec by Douglas A. Brownridge(2002) has an interesting result in relation to occurrence of domestic violence and socio-economic status and education. It compares results collected from Quebec and rest of Canada. It finds that women with higher education experienced lower violence in Quebec but women with higher education experienced higher violence in the rest of Canada. This might be because of the notion of liberal views held in Quebec by males, and therefore would feel less threatened by highly educated women. This could also be because of the man is financially dependent on the
Women abuse is a problem that plagues society in numerous ways. It is a problem that lacks proper definition in today’s society, and as a result has many misconceptions regarding the subject. It has been a problem that has been going on for centuries and has only recently been discussed as inappropriate and a disgusting act against women. The stereotypical family of a mother, father and children, loving, caring and happy with each other is always depicted on television. Real life relationships and families range from happy and loving to extreme dysfunctional in today’s society. Not every relationship and family experiences the “haven in the heartless world” (Momirov, 2011), many experience more heartless world within the family. This paper will focus on women abuse within the family. The purpose of this paper is to explore women that are victims of domestic abuse and the social structures that create the social problem women will face for the rest of their lives. This paper argues that neoliberal state policies create the social conditions that force abused women to stay in abusive relationships. This paper covers women abuse through three main parts. Part one of this essay will
The book mentions about the mental confusions, insecurities and the effort to understand their spouses. The writer has expressed simple and usual emotions of a womanhood, fidelity and family. A tint of Indian culture is reflected in each chapter indicating how a bridegroom and groom select each other, the nature of an Indian woman and how she takes up challenges in her life, reconciling the roles of a daughter, an ex-wife, a wife and a mother, the strength of the human spirit and their passion to survive and fight for a good life. It also features the distinctive qualities of Indian relatives highlighting their interest in an individual’s marital life and how offensive it is to the society to find a married woman talking to an unknown man. The book also focuses on the pain of a mother to see her unhealthy
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