Stating Emotions Effectively
Illogical Fallacies
Irrational fallacies lead to illogical conclusions and result in debilitative motions, and since we aren’t usually aware of these thoughts, they are very powerful.
1. The Fallacy of Perfection – people who accept this fallacy believe that a worthwhile communicator should be able to handle every situation with complete confidence and skill; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to the disapproval of others and it can also diminish self- esteem.
2. The Fallacy of Approval – people who accept this fallacy seek approval from others, even if they have to sacrifice their own principles and happiness; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to feelings of nervousness and embarrassment and cause
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You make me happy.
I didn’t say what makes me happy and I failed to share my feelings. It would have been better to say, “When you hold my hand I feel safe, content, and loved.”
7. Why should I help you now? You never show me any appreciation.
I was snarky and negative. It would be more appropriate to say, “Sometimes I feel like you take advantage of me because you never offer to help me, but always expect me to help you. If we both try to ‘give and take’ a little more, I will feel more valued. In fact, we both will.”
8. I was a little ticked off when you didn’t show up.
I failed to express my feelings. I could have said, “I was disappointed when you didn’t show up for our dinner engagement and thought something bad may have happened to you. What caused you not to show up?”
9. You jerk—you forgot to put gas in the car!
I failed to express any emotion or feeling. If I were married, I would say, “What the hell were you thinking?! You used my car and didn’t even have the common courtesy to put any gas in it. Can you imagine my surprise when I got in it this morning – already late for work because I had to feed you breakfast and pack your lunch - and found there wasn’t even enough gas to get to work without making a stop at the station? And, of course, it was pouring rain! The wetter I got, the angrier I became….and I still feel that way!”
10. It’s about time you paid up.
I failed to express my feelings. It would have been better to say, “I’m
Pathos driven messages appeal to a person’s emotions, and can often bring out emotions that can reside in them already. There are lots of ways to see them in our daily lives; on the Internet, the radio, or the television. An example of a heavily pathos driven message is UNICEF USA: Save a Child for Only 50 cents a Day.
The well-known writer and cognitive scientist/cofounder of the Nielsen Norman Group, Donald A. Norman, in his book, Emotional Design: “Why we love (or hate) everyday things”, he analyzes the design elements in products. Norman’s purpose is to show why products we use should not be hard to use but attractive and fun. He explains in tremendous detail how the design of an object affects a person emotionally. He argues that in order for an object to be more successful it must be more attractive to the users. Norman uses concrete evidence to back up his argument. He employs the use of imagery, diction and tone in order to convey to his readers the idea of emotional design.
"I didn't so much mind you being angry," he said. "What I thought was rotten was the way you wouldn't let me talk." "That was rotten, all right. I'm really sorry." "I came up to talk to you now.
“An appreciation of the power of self-justification helps us understand, therefore, why people who have low self-esteem, or who simply believe that they are incompetent in some domain, are not totally overjoyed when they do something well.” (p..
Society has become addicted to achieving perfection. Its precedence can be seen in every aspect of life from sports to appearance. The illusion of human perfection motivates great feats yet it can also be the cause of infamous failures. Famous coach and commonly quoted motivator John Wooden once said “Perfection is impossibility but striving for perfect is not. Do the best you can. That is what counts.” Working for an idea or belief that is unreachable or in some cases may not even exist seems futile, but the success of the attempt does not outweigh the presence of the effort. The idea of perfection is unachievable because everything has flaws, but the path to perfection is walkable. In his
“I'm sorry to inform you that your parents were in a car accident,” the man stated, the words rolling off his tongue.
Because of this inductive thinking, it influences us to believe in this imaginary standard of perfectionism everyone tries and hold themselves to due to how we were raised. Being ridiculed and penalized for being uneducated about the slightest,which makes individuals afraid of wrong or having to be corrected. Society has put such a negative connotation on being wrong people don’t see the positive of being wrong or challenging evidence of your own to see how much of what you believe in is
I feel that I did not do a very good job at being a very good husband towards you or being a good father to our kids. I blame myself because I tried to save you from being accused as a witch and I now I am being sentence to death. I don’t want to leave you, and our kids. I love you so much! Also, I regret having that fight with you. I never meant anything I said about your attitude “being frozen as beer”. I regret having that moment with Abigail, because I had a gut feeling in
One will either come out of a situation with a positive or negative concept of these surroundings. Poor communication can cause one to have a poor perception of oneself. One's emotional state, dislikes, likes values and body image are affected by the opinions of others and can render one to have an inferior and insecure self-concept.
many people will compare yourself with others or begrudge them. It makes you immersed oneself in foible. As a result, it will affect for the self-esteem
This week's topic is interesting. it talks about emotions of people in all situations, emotions can be positive and negative depending on the feelings and thoughts of each one of us. Words such as "Disappointed and "Undecided" may appear most in my emotions when I think about a certain negative thing. This effects on my mind as well as my spiritual.
It takes a lot of courage to talk about this in front of your client's family members. Privacy and the way you communicate with the family members are very important, especially in this type of scenario. I think informing the family members are very stressful and challenging. Behavioral reactions(initital shock) from family members are expected and I should be prepared to tackle varied range of emotional
- feeling more important than one truly is (grandiosity),confidence, inflated sense of self-esteem, unrealistic beliefs in one’s abilities, powers, or importance,
I am almost at a lost of words and confused. “But, my dear, I thought you would be thrilled to death. You never get a chance to go out, and this is a real affair, a wonderful one! I had an awful time getting a card. Everybody wants one. You’ll see all the most important people there.” Then