I think that the ways we are taught to handle conflict growing up greatly affect how we handle it as adults. For myself personally I know it has shaped it entirely. In my family growing up there were two different types of conflict that had to be handled completely different, conflict with peers and conflict with authority figures. My parents taught me to play nice but stand your ground when dealing with your peers, a little politeness can go a long way but you cannot let people walk all over you. When dealing with conflict with authority I was always taught to suck it up and do whatever the right thing is with my mouth shut. These are both my first instincts in handling conflicts today. I observed these in the way my parents dealt with conflict and how my parents dealt with …show more content…
After a year I broke what I had always done and stood up to him, after that I had earned his respect and we had a good working relationship. While what my parents taught me works in most situations I understand that not everyone handles conflict the same way and in some cases you have to change your methods to get the desired result. I think that being taught this way of dealing with conflict has helped me a great deal in life. I see how some of my teammates automatically hate authority figures and try to prove them wrong and I know that it most cases that simply will not do you any good because of what my parents have taught me. I chose to be firm in my word and not show grace last spring with my little brother. He is eighteen years old and a senior in high school, when he was a sophomore I caught him messing around with drugs a little. I gave him one warning, do it again and we will have a problem. This spring my parents informed me that he had been with the wrong crowd last weekend and they had heard he had tried some illegal stuff again, after finding this true I knew I had to handle
Conflict is something that some people can't handle it.how people best respond to conflict'i am Malala'' she responded to conflict by trying to make a difference in peoples lives when things were not ate their best she really tried to make a difference in the world not with her hands but with the most important thing in the world her voice she spoke out to people who gave up in the world to try and them to rise up and also speak what they think is right and what needs to change if they want the people to remain neutral,to all that they are doing wrong to all the people. the Taliban hated how malala spoke out and tried to gain people's trust but the Taliban wanted the people to remain scared and helpless because if all the people spoke
Philosopher Emerson once said “every coin has two sides; so do conflicts”. In the pages of human history, conflicts are unavoidable and while major conflicts such as war have been evil forces in the world it can also produce very positive results. That is not to say conflict is entirely positive. When conflict arises there are those individuals that show unexpected qualities; those assets that are sudden and unforseen. These assets can be seen in the movie The Sapphires through the character Dave and on a global scale through Mandela. Unfortunately there are also those individuals who in the midst of conflict express unexpected negative traits. This can be seen through the
There are five different types of conflicts that one could go through, and they are: Person vs. Person, Person vs. Society, Person vs. God/Fate/ Destiny, Person vs. Self, and Person vs. Nature or Technology. Person vs. Person is where one character is in an opposition with another character and an example of this is Creed where Adonis Creed fights Ricky Conlan so Adonis can be the heavyweight champion. Person vs. Society where one is opposed to the society that he/she lives in or its laws, so the example of this would be The Dark Knight Rises when Batman is trying to help the people of Gotham and the cops are trying to arrest him. The next is Person vs. God/Fate/Destiny where a character is in opposition of forces that are not of this world, and this is an example of The Avengers: Age of Ultron where the Avengers are fighting against Ultron who is not of this world. Next is Person vs. Self where there is an internal struggle with the character, and this can be shown in Gone with the Wind when Scarlett is trying to make the one man she loves to get her to love her back. The last is Person vs. Nature or Technology which is where a character is up against the harsh forces of nature or against a type machine or technology, and this can be shown in Big Miracle, where Adam Carlson and Rachel Kramer try to fight the harsh winter in Alaska to save a family of Gray Whales. There are a few of those conflicts going on in the book Fahrenheit 451 that the characters have to fight
The way a person responds to conflict can determine success or failure. The type of response a person has can have an impact impact on them and the people around them. This being said, people can react to different types of conflict in different ways.
QP provided William with a CBT activity geared towards dealing with conflict. QP explained to William that the activity will teach him how to deal with conflict by speaking up and decreasing tattling and need for adult intervention. QP examined with William, how he respond to anger situations. QP encouraged William in discussing how he workout different anger situations. QP asked William, if he has tried negotiating with his parents over a situation instead or respond to it by being angry and aggressive. QP asked William to list some situations and events that cause him to get angry. QP discussed with William cues to make good choices when in conflict situation. QP discussed with William alternatives to getting into fights and conflict situations.
Some individuals decide to take action to handle the situation while others won’t. There are people like Winston Churchill, a leader , who is brave and will not back down. On the contrary Shmuel , a prisoner at a concentration camp, deals with conflict the opposite way that Churchill does. Although their struggles are a bit different , this shows what kind of person they are.
To being, the conflict system I grew up in was an aggressive system. There were many stressors in my household because my father had to possess all the power. For instance, if I were to question my father about his actions or beliefs I would get yelled at or put down for doing so. It was tough at times and I was afraid of talking to him about questionable topics or about some of his actions in fear of being ridiculed. Honestly, my father did the best he could and looking back I believe he was an aggressive father since he was a single parent. He had to prove that he was in control and his aggression was his way of proving he was the parental figure. Although it was difficult to see him as a parental figure all of the time, especially when he acted like a child, I still think of him as my father.
Avoiding conflict is a pivotal and detrimental part of my life. For as long as I can remember I have attempted to avoid conflict at all cost. I assume Sigmund Freud would attribute this trait to the lack of a real father figure in my life or possibly the excess amount of condescending, over bearing, and verbally abusive reprimands I received from my step-father. When confronting someone who has wronged you results in a worse outcome than being passive you tend to learn very quickly that it’s easier to live emotionally oppressed than it is to live physically oppressed. It’s been a long time since those days and I am not the young kid I once was but, sometimes I still try to avoid conflict like my life depends on it. The most recent, or even
There are many ways conflict causes more good than bad. Conflict can people live a better life and also, it can help people learn from their troubles. With conflict, people can solve there problems. Conflict causes more good than bad in everyday life. Also, conflict can help a multitude of people not just one particular group, this is why conflict causes more good than bad.
So, next time there is a conflict with your parents, try to use the accommodating, collaborating, competing, compromising or even avoiding tactic to resolve the problem so both parties feel satisfied.
I wanted to let you know that I am doing well in school! There is one class that I enjoy in particular and it is called Communication & Conflict. This week we are assigned to write to a friend explaining three theories that we have learned so far in chapter 3. So, I decided to write to you. All of these theories have to do with managing a conflict using a theoretical perspective. The first theory I want to tell you about is the psychodynamic theory. This theory says that we as people experience conflict because of our mental, emotional, and psychological state. Basically, the conflicts that I experience might be different than the ones you experience because of our different mental states. For example, a child who had been physically abused
Conflict is pretty much inevitable when you work with others. Everyone have different viewpoints and under the right set of circumstances, those differences could pile up and escalate to conflict. How you handle that conflict determines whether it works to the team's advantage, or contributes to its disadvantage. Conflict isn't necessarily a terrible thing. Healthy and constructive conflict is a factor of high-functioning teams. Conflict arises because of the differences between people, the same differences that often make diverse teams more effective than those made up of people with similar experience. When people with varying viewpoints, experiences, skills, and opinions are tasked with a project or challenge, the combined effort can far surpass what any group of similar
In times of war, history shows how people from across culture respond to conflict. In world war II some people respond to conflict by mass genocide, hate, fear and by losing faith. However, others respond with a positive attitude love, and hope. Also in a war some people lose the ones they love.
My dad once criticized me at work for not listening to his criticisms. I had been working with a drill and I had been screwing screws into the wrong areas and they were useless screws because they weren’t hitting studs. Dad got mad at me because this was something he had pointed out to me a while ago and I was doing it again. Then I got mad because I don’t usually mess up and I thought dad should take that into account. I fixed the problem and began doing it correctly but I had a terrible attitude the entire time and I am not proud of that. Recently, after being put in charge of my younger brother, I had to criticize him for doing the exact same thing I had done and he reacted the exact same way I did and then I began to see it from dad’s point
I gained very little habitual ways of dealing with conflict from my parents. One thing I did gain from my parents is to always express how you feel if something is bothering you. My parents always used the conflict response “voice” as illustrated in our book. “Voice deals directly with the problem and is potentially the most active constructive response (Wood, p. 145)”. I believe my parents used voice in the wrong way sometimes. Our book states, “Voice needs to embody good communication skills and cultivate supportive climates (Wood, p. 145)”. My parents always used you-language that attributed attentions to the other individuals and not themselves (Wood, p.85). They were always blaming each other and never taking responsibilities for their