How I Felt As A Child

(Baumrind 1966). I have come to realize that my parents and grandparents had this same parenting style. I have realized that I am repeating the cycle and I must break the cycle because if I do not them my children will continue this same cycle as an authoritarian parent instead of an authoritative parent. I would never want to be a permissive parent. This parenting style you are not teaching your children structure. “There are not held accountable for their actions”. (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). As parents we must teach our children there are consequences for our actions. If you do not apply any boundaries or rules as they get older they will feel like the rules do not apply to them. “Permissive parents will cause their children to be dependent, immature, and misbehave frequently.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). I believe some parents are like this because they want to be their child’s friend. It is okay to be their friend but there must be some type of guidelines in place.

Parenting is not one of the easiest jobs in the world to have; you either are responsible enough to parent or you're not responsible enough.You have to be able to raise a child from birth and teach he/she all the necessary tools to succeed in life. As said in The Blackwell Encyclopedia of Social Work, “Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood” (245). All parents will raise their children in different ways, whether they are very strict or they’re lenient, others can be easy going and strict depending on the situation and the way they group up will shape them into who they become as adults as shown in The Glass Castle with Jeannette Walls and her parents.

A lack of parental involvement can have long-lasting negative effects on a

Children have a lot to say and parents have to remember to stop and listen to their child and then maybe offer suggestions and ideals. Recognize how the child feels and acknowledge the flaws the child has. Nobody is perfect. Realizing the imperfections of the child helps a parent better understand the type of encouragement and guidance the child might need to become a more productive adolescent.

The last parenting style is uninvolved style. This is when the parent is cold and not strict. The parent is not involved with their children. They don’t have time for their children. Children with these parents end up acquiring many problems. “poor emotional self regulation, school achievement difficulties and frequent antisocial acts…” (Berk 389). As it mentions in Infants, Children and Adolescents, when this becomes extreme, this parenting style can be categorizes as neglect.

According to psychologist Diana Baumrind, there are four different parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, uninvolved, and authoritative. (p. 339) Authoritarian parenting is a strict form of parenting that demands obedience and respect, but offers little support. Children of authoritarian parents often do not have a healthy relationship with their parents due to the lack of communication. Permissive parents are known as the “cool” parents among adolescents. This parenting style is relaxed and comes with hardly any rules. Permissive parents have a very warm relationship with their child; however, this style is counterproductive in child rearing because they act as a friend instead of a parent who sets boundaries. Uninvolved parenting is the most detrimental to a child’s psychological health. Uninvolved parents are indifferent to their child’s activities, emotional state, and overall well-being. They are neglectful and even reject their children from being a part

• Uninvolved parenting: children of uninvolved parents develop a sense that other aspects of the parents’ life are more important than they are. The child often attempt to provide for themselves, sometimes halt dependence on the parent to have a feeling of independence and mature beyond their years. Child from this environment often withdraw from social situations, this also impacts there relationships later on in life and they show patterns of truancy and delinquency.

When growing up children always dream of having a perfect family with two caring parents who are both active in that child’s life. Children want to be able to spend time with both parents and have a great relationship with them but that is not always the case. Some children go through life with an active parent and a absent parent. One parent always has a positive effect on the child and the other parent has a negative effect. Active parents and absent parents differ in many ways of how they treat their children, how often they see their children, how strict they are on their children, and how they nurture their children.

The uninvolved parent groups scored low on all areas of parenting. The controlling- indulgent parent groups scored high on all areas of parenting. The authoritative parent groups score low on responsiveness and high on control of their child. It was similar between the mothers and fathers that the parents that were categorized as authoritative parents had the most positive outcomes on their life. However, the results of the parents that are uninvolved or more authoritative or over controlling resulted in the worst outcomes. Mothers did score higher in the area of warmth, while fathers scored higher on punishment.

According to the New York Metro Parents, a website that combines nine regional print magazines in New York’s Metropolitan areas, several studies of babies left to cry in their rooms show that parents can’t love a child too much. Ferberized children tend to grow up to be extremely successful later in life. These children grow up to be tomorrow’s doctors, firefighters, and millionaires of Silicon Valley. (Hogan and Haskell, 2). Most of today’s kids have one of the following types of parents: Indulgent, Authoritative, Neglectful, Authoritarian*. These are generally regarded as the four main types of parenting. These four styles of parenting are the stereotypical parenting styles most people identify one or both of their parents as. Indulgent parents tend to coddle their children and protect them from disappointment. Authoritative parents are people who have reasonable demands and rules usually met by children who respond well and listen to them. Though they have high expectations, these parents’ children tend to meet or exceed the expectations due to the resources the parent’s provide. These parents are known by some children as the “golden guardians.” They are what every parent who has ever purchased a parenting book strives to become. Authoritarian parents have extremely high expectations that are almost impossible to meet and very strict rules that must be followed unconditionally. These adults are the origin of parental nicknames such as “Scary Gary” and “Evil

There are many different ways of parenting children. Some are more favorable than others and some can even damage one’s emotional future, causing problems such as anxiety, unhappiness, and other low self-esteem issues. Although there are four distinct parenting styles, many parents are often somewhere in between a couple on the scale.

When parents generated their time and effort to constantly be there for their kid’s needs, conventionality, the emotional and behavioral state involve disarray, in the society, these kids could be deviant if not properly supervised.

“I always interpreted such crushing expectation as the ultimate belief in my self-worth. I knew that I was not being set up to fail.” says Grace Liu. It helps them gain the personality of one who is not easily torn down. Another reason why raising a child in this way is a good idea is because it tends to lead them to be more productive, motivated and responsible. According to a study published in a 2012 issue of JAMA Pediatrics , it reduces social risk. “Teens of strict parents are 38 percent less likely to binge drink, 39 percent less likely to smoke cigarettes and 43 percent less likely to use marijuana than children of neglectful

Over the course of an individual’s life span, one is seen forming relationships with several people in whom they find their presence an important aspect to their life. However, among these relationships, parent-child relationships are the most valuable, but also very complex. These relationships are built from a foundation of interaction starting from the birth of the child to their adulthood. Unfortunately, if this involvement is not present within a child’s life, it can ultimately cause them to feel neglected causing outrageous conflicts, behavior issues and emotional disputes. Parental involvement within a child’s life allows them to gain a sense of security ultimately increasing new learning of the child

As a child, I remember growing up in an area of Atlanta, Georgia called Mechanicsville. This area was very diverse with people from various socioeconomic backgrounds. Often, my mother would share valuable life lessons with my siblings and me. One, in particular, I remember even to this day is, “Life is only as challenging or motivating as you make it”. Originally, I did not quite understand the purpose of this aphorism; but as I got older, the meaning became quite clear. Although life for me has been both wholesome and unhealthy, in hindsight, it seemed better than my childhood friends. If you knew the real story, you would see that my life is not as perfect as it appears. Just to provide you with a little insight into my world, I had a