How to Win Friends and Influence People - a Personal Analysis

Listen - It is important to listen carefully so you can respond to what people say.

You have to pick the appropriate time to give feedback. This should be done as soon as possible after the event has occurred. Feedback is meant to be given in real time so it is in the person’s mind. When feedback is given too late after the incident the value of the constructive feedback is less.

Use the appropriate language and vocabulary for the person you are talking to and ask open questions.

As we go through our day to day lives be it at work or in other settings there will always be times when you disagree with other adults. The way that you cope with these disagreements is very important. You must ensure that you always remain calm and polite, no matter how

In Leadership 101 by John Maxwell, the author uses practical application points to give guidance on what it takes to be good leader. The book is divided in three parts, linking the development, traits and impacts of a leader, with a series of questions that the author answers. He also uses real-life stories and quotes from leaders such as the McDonald brothers and Princess Diana, to demonstrate leadership principles. The author also uses these examples and a detailed framework to help the readers enhance the leadership abilities they already possess. Maxwell suggests that in order to be a successful leader you need to; Follow your vision and bring others with you, produce a lasting legacy, grow the loyalty of your followers, make continual

Carnegie claims, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” (p.52). Smiling and remembering people’s name is a simple way to show interest in people, “…But forget… and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage.” (p.73). Carnegie encourages us to be an active listener, “If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener,” (p.88) and to, “let the other person do most of the talking.”

Being an excellent listener is one of the best ways to become a good communicator. Throughout the group work, the author demonstrated great communication skills when listening to her team’s different ideas and then taking them on board to create the best results. Fellow team members will appreciate good listening skills, and so in return, it will have a positive impact to the group’s mood, and encouraging them to be confident to speak up and say their thoughts as they know their ideas are being listened too.

* Dr. Cialdini explained that commitments are more powerful when they are active; public; effortful; and viewed as internally motivated. The statement of the commentator is accurate because the motorcycle owners had made their commitment public by tattooing their commitment on their

Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People gives several proven methods and examples on how to succeed in the business world. The book's chapters are comprised of how to handle people, how to be a successful leader, and how to win people to your way of thinking. The preface provides several ideas and suggestions that will help the reader get the most out of the book. The author suggests that the reader keep an open mind, and also suggest some other reading materials that will also help.

Some of the aspects that I feel like I could improve on include feeling more comfortable speaking in front of groups and feeling more confident in what I am saying, and not just going through the motions. This can play a role in how much eye contact I have with the group as well. The more comfortable I am with the information and the more confident

     The first thing one must know when handling people is “don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.” When you criticize

I chose this book in hope that it could help me understand the difference between managing and leading. In addition, I wanted to gain more knowledge and tools to help myself grow as a leader and help develop all of my subordinates that I may have to time throughout my career. The book jacket for this book is ultimately why I decided to read the book because it truly grabbed my attention. I found it interesting that John C. Maxwell is a #1 New York Times bestselling author (Maxwell, 2013). Moreover, the book jacket continued to catch my attention by stating to be more than a boss people are required to follow, you must master the ability to inspire and invest in people (Maxwell, 2013). I particularly found the “invest in people” line most interesting and caused me to want to read and learn more about the authors perspective on leadership.

Oliver suggests you try to understand the behavior. You don 't have to like it, but you might be able to handle it with less bias.

Break the ice with new colleagues or with your boss when you start a new job.

Be part of the discussion but don’t just talk. When you are attending an event, you want to be part of the occasion and not just end up sitting in a corner. Remember to talk and engage in conversation, even when the topics might not seem that interesting to you. Just make sure you’re not the only one talking and never make everything you say about you.