I Know I Can Be A Better Counselor

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Honestly, I have had no formal training in counseling. In fact, because of an unproductive experience in a college psychology, I have not been looking forward to attending class. I was content with just using common sense, and personal experiences to assist parishioners in coping with specific situations affecting their lives. I knew God had prepared me for my job as pastor, but when I read Webb’s book, “Crisis Counseling in the Congregation”, I realized that this book would prove useful in facilitating me in becoming a better counselor. When I was assigned to Rivers Chapel as a pastor, I used strategies I had learned, in the classroom, and on my previous jobs in counseling, which were common sense and life experiences. But now, after…show more content…
Because the congregation and the community were close knit and had a small inner circle, this couple’s problems were exposed to great gossip and scrutiny. The people were always talking about the couple’s problems. I never reacted to the conversation, but the information gave me insight into ways I could approach subsequent sessions. When were in session, I listened first as a facilitator before moving into the counselor position. As an adult educator, I had thirty-two years of facilitating, and I felt I have it down to a science. I found that I had unknowingly used Webb’s tool book categories. He explained that knowledge dealt with the mental modes needed for understanding the person(s) as a usable therapeutic process. He addressed the need for the pastor to have some good in-depth listening skills, perception in story listening, and be able to respond to situations that may arrive suddenly. As for attitude, Webb believes that one should stay centered and peaceful in the midst of conflict, appreciative of what is working, and solution oriented. As I look back on my experience in caring for my congregation, I see where I have used all these tools in a counseling section. Webb’s book has helped me define my actions and confirm their usage. As I read the section on therapeutic listening, I understand it to be listening with your ears and eyes. It made me reflect on my personal life experience with friends, students, co-workers and my
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