Love Is About-Face By Fred Frickson

One of my absolute favor stories to read to my kids when they were younger was Love You Forever by Robert Munsch. The story will defiantly strike at your heartstrings as you read it aloud to your children. I have never been able to make it all the way through the book without crying. Especially after I read an article on how the author Robert Munsch came up with the story.

I remember an incident i read long back. A man inserts an advertisement in the news papers ‘Want a wife’. Within half an hour he got five hundred telegrams and messages ‘Take Mine’, a mirror for the popularity of Wives. Often, what goes under the name of love has little to do with love. The word 'love' has become a word to describe the wants of the body. You are required to love her in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer? All this for life and beyond!

David Maybury-Lewis gives us viewers some insight on romantic love, being in love and just plain old love. He says that being in love is a need for possession because we feel incomplete and this is usually why we marry. The problem we have is that feeling fades. He also says that romantic love threatens the family. Societies need people who will live for their children, not those who will die for love.

Love is different for each and every person. For some, it comes easy and happens early in life. For others, such as Janie in Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston, it happened much later in life after two unsuccessful marriages. Janie’s grandmother, Nanny raised Janie to be attracted to financial security and physical protection instead of seeking love. Nanny continually emphasized that love was something that was bound to happen after those needs were met; even though Nanny never married. Janie formulates her ideal of love while sitting under a pear tree as a teenager; one that fulfilled her intellectually, emotionally, spiritually and physically. She was then informed that she was to have an arranged marriage to an older

Love is defined as an intense feeling of deep affection. Although it is not as easily defined as some may make it. Every situation and the lessons we learn from those times, help to form what we believe love to be. For some it may be a physical attachment that others degrade to lust. For some it may be their reason for continuing on in life; but overall for most, love is what drives our lives. From childhood to adulthood we seek to find relationships that will fulfill our hearts and make our short time on Earth a little more enjoyable. However as well as any other activity we partake in, ways in which we perceive love and marriage have changed over time. Although there is slight variations, when most imagine the life of a married couple pure happiness is what is expected. As wonderful as that expectation may be, not every marriage fits into this ideal. The criteria of marriage used to be based off of what your partner can offer you. However as times have changed and gender roles have begun to disappear, marriage has now

We are always making decisions that can impact the rest of our lives. It is vital to settle on the best choices in each circumstance, as well as making the most ideal course of move. Love only makes this task even more difficult than it already is. Love affects our actions and decisions by causing us to deter from our goals and leading us to impaired judgement.

Love is the dedication that two individuals share. Jarold Ramsey's sonnet "The Count Stick" is an awesome case of the dedication that two individuals share. The speaker says, "Here from the begin, from our first days, look:/I have cut our lives in mystery on this stick" (1-2). Beginning with their marriage, the principal indent is "Close to the butt, this mind boggling score where the grains/focalize and go along with: it is our wedding" (6-7). The couple utilizes the stick as an image of their adoration for each other. The stick symbolizes how dedicated they are in their relationship. Love is a dedication one makes to put somebody's desires, wants and needs most importantly. Consider the possibility that the spouse or wife turned out to be

What causes people to contemplate marriage? Many would like to believe the answer is love, but that is not always the case. People who think of an ideal marriage would think of two people loving each other and sharing a personal bond or goals together. Marriage is usually defined as the legally or formally recognized union of two lovers as partners in a personal relationship. This suggests there is an actual connection between two people in marriage, but do people actually consider this when committing to “love” and “support” their partners forever? As research and studies have shown, people ultimately get married for the incorrect reasons, in which love is not included or even a part of. This philosophy can be easily applied to the short poem, “Marriage” by Gregory Corso. In this emotional poem, the author argues marriage is more effectively understood or known for culture and convenience rather than through the abstract considerations of love. Corso finds himself confused multiple times, wondering if he should marry to not be lonely, for tradition and for his physical and mental health. He disregards love, a relationship or a connection with his future wife. The author ponders the decision weighing the options. He highlights which ones are the right and which ones are the incorrect reasons, according to his opinion. General ways of convenience like coping with loneliness, health and economic status, and navigating cultural stereotypes and religion are often the true

Beginning with the theory of Rempel and Burris I will discuss what these researchers consider as definition love. First they describe love as being a “multifaceted construct with multiple meanings, diverse targets and varied expressions” (Rempel and Burris, 2005). It is formed through multiple attachment styles such as the secure attachments defined by Bowlby and Ainsworth and the romantic attachment style by Shaver and Hazan. Rempel and Burris go on to describe what love is believed to be as it pertains to the object: (2005)

Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote “Give all to love; obey thy heart” In which love is seen of most importance. Edna St. Vincent Millay in her poem [Love is not all: it is not meat nor drink] warns the reader against love being the most importance in ones life. The speaker feels the people who think this way are ridiculous, and pokes fun at them in the beginning of her poem. Although later in the poem the speaker believes that she too could be one of those people. Millay expresses the speakers idea of love using rhyme, repetition and alliteration to allow the reader to feel the change and uncertainty in the speakers mind.

Love is an intense feeling of deep emotion and affection. It can overcome pain and heartache making for a happily ever after type of fairytale. Love can lead to happiness regardless of any issues that may arise or any traditional clichés that may be met. In both poems "Marriage" by Gregory Corso and "Break it Down" by Lydia Davis the assumptions of love are made very clear. They both suggest that love/marriage inevitably leads to an undesirable outcome resulting in lack of spontaneity and a great deal of pain.

When someone falls in love, how do they not let it fade out? Bernard Roth in The Achievement Habit believes that “It can be a great feeling to fall in love, especially if your love is reciprocated.” Meaning that people need love in their life, it is such an amazing feeling, why not. The problem is that people often confuse love with marriage. Falling in love is based on projection and marriage is free of projection. Roth’s purpose is to inform people on the difference of falling in love, and making a marriage work. Roth’s argument is effective because he understands what it takes to hold a marriage together, and what is a marriage without love.

First and foremost commitment is an extremely important thing; in fact it is the most important part of marriage. Every girl dreams of the day she says “I do” but what she does not know is that when those words are said, there is an invisible agreement between the two parties that they will give up their own beliefs and values to accommodate their partner’s. This can make marriage difficult. American society preaches to everyone at a young age that they must hold on to their beliefs for that is the only thing that can make a person their own person. Couples fear those things for it can lead to a failed marriage and destruction. Scott Stanley, a marriage counselor, compares

Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we cannot command, demand, or disappear love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don 't fully understand. Similarly, we can stage a seduction or mount a courtship, but the result is more likely to be infatuation, or two illusions dancing together, than

English writer and poet Gilbert K. Chesterton once stated that,” You cannot love a thing without wanting to fight for it.” Because true love, the passion that binds two people, is something that renews itself and is never diminished. It neither deteriorates nor does it die. Rather both bliss and hardship, distance and nearness, pleasure and pain, form the foundation for which love sits upon. Love, like steel, is tempered by the flames of adversity and as a result it is made stronger by its heat. Love is so deeply rooted and critical to humanity because in love there is stability, compassion, and comfort. In love people give a part of their heart, their soul, their own passion, to another. In a world of loneliness, uncertainty and danger, love is a constant worth fighting for. Moreover, love that one choses to not fight for does not deserve to be called true love. It can be lust, passion, or endearment but never love because the gift of love is sacred. It is selfless, mutual, and permanent. It is true.