My Family Values And The Role Of Family Roles

It may seem like everyone has the perfect life, but if you were to look more in depth you would see it’s not that way at all. Most people want to presume as having both parents in their life married or divorced, or even have grandparents to go to when they need advice or knowledge. I believe to have a life that couldn’t be any better. I come from a two parent home who both worked very hard to have me sitting where I am today. Without family supporting me I may not be here at college expanding my education even further. But, other kids may not even have the support to get up and even attempt college. It is all about how you were raised, Family is more than important in a young man or woman’s life.

On top of this, my parents always specifically looked up to me for being a leader in the house. The reason for this is, my parents knew very little English, and needed assistance with almost everything they would do. Also, I am the first child; the child that has to fall and learn from the mistakes without any older siblings advice or wisdom. Because of this, I make sure that once I learn the most efficient and effective ways of doing tasks, I then pass it down to my younger siblings. I make sure that they learn from my mistakes and accomplishments, while doing my best to lead them in the right direction to attain

I knew college was going to change me in many ways. Yet, after my family and I restructured our collective and individual emotional reactivity over the three years that I was away at school, I believed my work in that department was done. I thought transiting into college was difficult, however, I found myself once again unprepared for the aftershock that rocked my family once I return from school. I left college a strong, independent, mature, and differentiated person, or at least I kind of did.

I can recognize this feeling in my everyday life. Being the oldest child, I have the unspoken responsibility of taking care of my siblings and expected to be the most mature out of all of my siblings. For example, this summer I was home alone with my grandma and all of the sudden she was not feeling well. I immediately called my dad and told him what was going on; I explained that she was shaking and he told me to call for the ambulance. I did what I was told right away and waited for the ambulance to come. My dad came home at the perfect time so he could also go to the hospital with my grandma. While all this occurred, my mom told me to wait for my siblings to come home and to feed them dinner. As soon as my siblings came home, I explained everything to them and made them alfredo pasta for dinner. Additionally, my siblings and I had school the following day, and my parents did not come home until past midnight. Being the responsible young adult, I packed their lunches and put them in bed at an appropriate time; I also made sure they completed their homework. I did not want the kids to call our parents and bother them, so I made sure to take the responsibility of my parents’ and keep the house in order and out of chaos while they were gone. This experience portrays that I have lived up to the meaning of my name by being responsible and stepping up to take the position of authority when my parents are

Family life Education is to help families become a stronger unit through the proper education. There are so many different thoughts and beliefs pertaining to the family life education program. There have been good and bad beliefs, but the majority have been trying to improve the family and the education system that has been taught.

The second chapter, of the book “Family Interaction”, focuses on the theme of family strategies and boundaries. While reading, I noticed that my family has similarities and dissimilarities with other family members. Several topics that interested me were open and closed boundaries, and maintenance resources. My family is enmeshed and has internal boundaries, but other members of my family are on a continuum. For example, my family is very accepting and open to letting friends and spouses come over our house for special occasions the holidays. However, as a family we can be very different as a sub-unit. For example, with my mother I was often allowed to stay the night over a friend’s house, and later when I got older my boyfriends were allowed

Boundaries are rules for family members on physical and psychological distances and what is appropriate. These boundaries are organic and complex. Clear boundaries allow for emotional contact and having a sense of identity, and each culture has a different definition of what is too close or far away. Enmeshment and diffuse boundaries are fragile and do not have a clear difference of the members in the family. This causes mutuality which disturbs individual independence. Things to look for in the family include interruption, speaking for each other, assumptions, and protectiveness and over concern, wanting devotion even when it affects individual needs, and when there is an argument feeling threatened. Disengagement and ridged boundaries show autonomy is more important than the family emotional connection. This type of boundary generates emotional and physical loneliness, causing a hard time giving support and security. Things to look for in the family contain no reaction and limited consequences, ability to do what they want due to independence from family, a small number of demands for obligations and devotion for family, and while in the same area family members are doing activities separately.

Family boundaries are described as limits that separate one member of a family from another. Boundaries in a family define who is responsible for what, how parents and children interact, and how the family relates with the outside world. Not all boundaries are the same or equal in the domain of family functioning. Three types of common boundaries in a family are described as clear boundaries, rigid boundaries, and diffuse boundaries. (Hoemeyer, 2011)

My family is composed of both my parents and a sibling. There is a hierarchy of authority as well where my parents embrace an authoritative approach towards discipline that focuses on open expression between my sibling and I and my parents.

First, based on the article read "boundaries relate to limits, togetherness, and separateness, what or who is "in" or "out" of the family" (pg. 5, Walsh & Giblin 1988). However, I thought that having boundaries is important in a family because through boundaries we know when we can step into certain areas or when can 't we know. My experience in my family system theory as having boundaries was that was that we each had an individual room, individual spaces, and trust within our own decision. I also was able to give my own opinion but I needed to know which was the right timing and to never step over the adult conversation.

Research tells me that the family unit I grew up in is the training ground for how I learn about boundaries (Cite). If healthy relationships were modeled for us as children, this should be carried out into the child’s adult life (Cite).

Ezequiel Pagan  Patrick Williams  English 111  16 October 2014   Family Value and Truth  Family in society is a social structure. Family plays a key role in human life because it can give  people a sense of home, or a loving and supportive group. In most cases when people think of families  they think of having a mom, dad, brother, sister.  However, nothing in life is perfect. Today, we have  separated , same sex, extended, and blended families. Society tries to explain these more contemporary  families but has a harsh way of doing so. In the essay, Stone Soup, by Barbara Kingsolver, she  discusses how society views families and in the essay, Family Values, by Richard Rodriguez, he talks  about American family values. Both

When raising a child one is taught values by their families that they feel are important for their child to have. I believe that family values consist of certain actions and qualities that are important to a family to uphold. Values that are important in my family are honesty, trust and to have respect for others. Each of these values is equally important in my family. They played a big role into making me the person I am now.

If we talk about Christianity point of view Holy bible lays down “Wives submit yourself into your own husbands as unto the Lord.”

What is a family? What parts make up a family? These two questions are questions that millions of adults and children ask themselves regularly. When people think about a family in their head they think of a nuclear family. Where you have a Mom, Dad, and a few kids running around a home in the middle of a suburban wasteland. That is the nuclear family that I feel most modern families strive to be like. But factors can change within a family and still be a family. I do not believe that a family is strictly based off what people see from the front porch looking in. A family is about the everlasting bond that is formed between a group of people whether they are related by blood or by other means. A family is a group of people who stick together during hard times and good times, they laugh together and they cry together. They eat meals together, party together, are weaved together in life. They are like a strip of palm leaves, and when you weave a bunch of them together it makes a basket, that is a family. The people that someone can call at two in the morning on a Wednesday just because they can’t sleep. The ones who would sacrifice anything to help them. The bond can never be broken because the word “family” holds them together like glue to wallpaper.