Escaping the Nightmare
Since I was young, my parents would tell their stories about escaping the nightmare of the war when the Northern Vietnamese communist forces invaded Laos. Both of my parents were born in Laos, which is a country located in southeastern Asia. During the Vietnam War and Laotian Civil War, or as many Hmong Americans call it, the ‘Secret War’, over 10,000 people died while fighting for their country.
My parents were lucky enough to escape the dangerous terrains of Laos, but each had their respective paths. My father, his parents, and his younger sister and brother immigrated directly to Minnesota in early 1980s, while my mother and her family immigrated to Southern France before moving to Minnesota when she was 16. Both
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I knew that I had a different skin tone and that I was Hmong, but the question was, why? Sometimes I wondered why I couldn’t be “like everyone else”. As a first generation, I can see how groups like the Hmong have assimilated into American culture. As I grew older, I lost most of my knowledge for the Hmong language, as I mostly spoke English to my friends and my family. My grandmother would always tell me in Hmong, “Always keep your heritage and never stop speaking Hmong”. To this day, I generally understand the language, but I barely speak the language. Because of this, I feel like living in our society today slightly hinders the expression of these cultures and that they are forced to adapt or else they are viewed as “different”. For me, I’ve always felt more “americanized” my entire life as a first generation, which isn’t a bad thing at all, but from people like my father who emphasizes on preserving culture adds another layer of …show more content…
I spent endless days and nights thinking about my future. What was I going to do? Where was I going to go? How was I going to do it? I didn’t know why I was stressing about it since I knew that I really didn’t have to make any permanent decisions until the end of Junior year. I guess the fact that I am a first born in the United States has always influenced me to try and surpass my peers when it came to academics. My goal in life was to make sure I would live the ‘American Dream’, but what I wasn’t aware of was that I was already living that dream thanks to my parents. As I’ve said in this article, I wouldn’t even be here writing this article if it wasn’t for them. I would’ve not had the infinite amount of perseverance, courage, and bravery to be writing this article. At some point in every teenager’s life, including mine, there’s that moment where you just want your parents to leave you alone. Trust me, I’ve been there, but in the end, your parents are always going to be there for you. This year for me involves many college visits and tours, stressing about AP classes, extracurriculars, and finding that one college (but let’s be real here, more like a list of ten), that is perfect for me before applying next fall. I know for a fact that every step of the way there my parents will be with me leading all the way to when I receive my diploma, to dropping me off at my dream
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Great things are destined for you honey, you have everything in you, and you have no idea how capable you are, everything is there in you, but you have to want it. I want you to go after it with everything in you because with the proper education there is nothing that can ever stop you. My entire life, I have believed that if I work hard enough, no dreams could ever be out of my reach. My grandmother’s incredible story has always taught me that I can overcome any obstacle that may come my way; my father’s speech was an amazing reminder of why I have worked so hard to make my family proud of me. As I approach the start of my senior year, I cannot help but wonder how my future is going to play out. My life has been filled with significant events that have carved me into a diverse young woman. I owe my family for all the lessons and experiences that I have benefited from, and I truly believe any college would be happy to have all the different aspects of culture that I can bring on their campus.
I heard the crowd screaming and yelling; electrifying the air with great excitement. Family members’ cheers erupted with the force of a powerful volcano as the graduates began to enter the arena. As they came in one by one, I saw my mother walk out the tunnel with a joyful smile on her face. Seeing her, it took me back to a place where I hadn’t envisioned the idea of going to college. Lying stretched out on my bed, I stared at the dull white ceiling in my room as the thoughts of my wavering future started to race across my fledgling mind comparable to that of a speeding dragster. With my grandmother only obtaining a sixth-grade education and many of my family members not being able to finish high school, the idea of going past my sixth- grade year remained a distant thought. However, this unconventional thinking changed as I had the epiphany that my mother graduating from college was the moment I wanted to go to college. Regardless of the various obstacles she faced in and
When I was younger, my mom would always tell us about her life in Cambodia. She’d talk about the small village she lived in, how everyone was close, how much she enjoyed living a simple life. She’d talk about the arranged marriage with my father, how they were so young, how Pol Pot came into power, and how she came to America. This is her story.
Slowly dragging my luggage with my mom’s hand in mine, I approach the doors of the Ho Chi Minh City Airport. Reluctant to let go the only life I’ve ever known, I waived a bitter goodbye to my grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. At the age of 7, I had to leave behind the comfort and familiarity of my life in the city of Binh Gia, Vietnam. Throughout the 10+ hour flight from VN to the U.S., I had no clue what the United States would be like at all. Once I took the first step off the plane onto the Charlotte Douglas Airport, it all hit me. I was no longer in Vietnam. I couldn’t visit my grandparents whenever I wanted. I couldn’t run off and play with my friends whenever I desired. Nothing was the same and even worse, I had no clue what anyone was saying.
In addition, I am Hmong. The language, clothing, and social bonds reflect the beauty of this way of life, but since the mid-twentieth century, it evolved due to war. Many Hmong people fled their homeland- Laos- and immigrated to America to seek refuge. In the newer generations, tradition is not being upheld because of cultural assimilation. Through my experience with my Hmong culture, I have grown up being conscious of how I portray myself to others, because of reputation and pride being highly valued. I was taught manners and rules to be a good Hmong daughter. However, I do not agree with many of these traditional views. There is a distinct hierarchy that declares men as the dominant figures,
College has been something parents expected their child do whether or not they were motivated to do so. And like most of those parents, mine encouraged me to further my education. Though I didn’t mind doing so, in fact, I kind of thought about going to college or a university for as long as I can remember. In a way, I didn’t think there was anything worth my time to do after high school other than continuing my education. Of course growing up as the youngest child in my family, I looked up to my siblings and even my parents to help me guide in which direction I desired. While my parents lacked some education, and my siblings seemed to find themselves in trouble with either mom and dad or the school administration, it made me realize that school is really a path to decide how someone will end up as. For example, my parents dropped out during grade school and have trouble getting better jobs because of not having a college or a high school degree. My sister dropped out of college after her first semester and though she did continue with beauty school and starting a family, I can tell she wishes she had the time to continue college, not juggling 3 jobs to support her family. My brother never found the motivation to do great in school and though he has some social issues, he continues on his 6th year at the local college with F’s and no idea what he will do once college is over. This motivated me to do amazing in school. In a way, I wanted to do what they couldn’t just so
“Two years ago, I just graduated from my high school in my home country, thinking that I could get into one of my dream schools in the United States and enjoy my fantastic 4-year college life. Since my GPA in high school was pretty high, I expected that all universities would like to accept students like me. I started applying for a couple of schools that I was very interested in, but did not receive any good news. Knowing all my friends had got their acceptance letters, I felt inferior and began to complain about my family’s social and financial status. I complained about why my family could not afford me to go to a high school in the States so that I could have more chances to get into universities that I wanted. Another reason why I was so anxious was that I did not apply for any schools in my home country, so I had to take one gap year in the worst case. I did not want to do so because I thought everyone would feel disappointed in me and perhaps looked down on me. Unfortunately, I was rejected by all my dream schools. At that moment, I was extremely frustrated; I lost my confidence, I lost my hope, I could not see the road ahead of me. Then, I had depression.”
When I first came to college, I was nearly overwhelmed by the seemingly complete independence and freedom that I had. Of course, such freedom has its limitations, and going beyond those constraints will almost certainly lead to serious consequences, as I discovered watching so many of my peers crash and burn during their first semester – or at least come close to doing so. As I observed the struggles of my friends and classmates, I realized how lucky I was that my own high school experience, combined with the way my parents raised me, protected me from most of the disasters that I could have suffered during my freshman year.
The Americanization of going to college is idolized, treasured, and held at a historic prestige here in the United States. You put your hope, hard earned money from summer jobs, faith, endless tears, ACT scores, missing high school football games, slaving away your weekends, and giving up your entire “social life” at the age of seventeen is an epidemic. In the end you’re doing it to get a piece of paper delivered to you in the mail. You pace back and forth, you constantly pester the mailman and even know exactly when he gets to your neighborhood just for the sliver of hope today is the day. Don’t get me wrong I’m the same way especially wanting to transfer to an out of state school after I’m done at ccd. But when you take a minute to stop and think about what you’re volunteering for it can be quite frightening. The dorm life is known as having the full “college experience”. It’s truly exhilarating experience but can only imagine the only experience vie had with it first round was helping my sister move into her dorm freshman year at Regis university. You’re finally escaping the tight grasp of your parents who are insane however you’ll miss them. No more sharing a room next door to your pestering little brother who is always asking for rides and never respects your privacy. New friends, cute boys, cool parties, your own rules and freedom finally. You walk out of your dorm and take on that first day of school. You unknowingly put your trust, safety, well-being, and home cooked
Last August, as a high school senior, I made a big transition in my life. Not only did I pack up my things and move to another city, I moved with the intention of acquiring higher education. I made the next step in my life by beginning college. High school life as I knew it was over, and my life would be new and different upon my arrival at school. My room, schedule, motivation, school life, money availability and parental influence has changed greatly.