Have you ever heard of someones "list" that they have for the person that they want to marry? Don't lie we all have them and that's okay. Now don't get me wrong it isn't a bad thing for us to have certain wants and things that we are looking for in a future spouse. I just think that sometimes we are a little too superficial on what we are looking for as well as we don't always apply what we want from someone to who we are ourselves.
There have been a few times where I have talked to friends and they have said they are looking for a guy who is a go getter and is a hard worker, and to be honest the reason why they are looking for that is because that is something they are lacking in their own life. Now I have done the same thing and have seen guys do this too where they are lacking in a certain area so they look for someone who in a sense can make up for what they are lacking in. This isn't a terrible thing in the sense where you see something that you are lacking in, but instead of looking for someone who can pick up the slack for you why not look for someone who will motivate you and stand by you while you are working to get better at.
For me something that I have on my list is that I want a woman who has knowledge and love for the gospel well enough to teach our future children and lives it. Now I'm not saying I am a terrible person, but there are a few things I can for sure do better at in living the gospel like having consistent scripture study as well as regular temple
Love is an interesting concept. Wikipedia describes love as “a variety of different emotional and mental states, typically strongly experienced” (Dictionary.com). Romeo and Juliet, written by Shakespeare, portrays the illogical choices that may be made when in love. Another source explains how love is addicting in the poem “The Raven” written by Edgar Allen Poe. “The Gift of the Magi” depicts people who mistake love for lust. The force of romantic love inflicts harm on many because it persuades lovers to make irrational decisions, it is negatively addictive, and many cannot differentiate love versus lust.
You also posted that many of us try to find a person who really doesn’t exist because we have “unrealistic vision of what the perfect man”, which is so true. It took me a while to realize that and I had to lower my standard a little bit. I believe I let a few ones get away because of my standards.
The theme of love was developed in three African American Literature works; “Sweat” by Zora Hurston, “Long Black Song” by Richard Wright, and “when you have forgotten Sunday: the love story” by Gwendolyn Brooks ; each author allowing their main character to express doubtable love with their significant other.
A study done by the University of Groningen, The Netherlands by Pieternel Dijkstra and Dick P. H. Barelds, anticipated that most men and women want a mate that is similar to them in terms of personality. The participants were members of multiple dating sites; one for college-educated
“You love you learn” says Alannis Morissette in her famous song “You Learn”. But what have I learned from love is the real question. Love has thrown me through walls effortlessly and has caused me happiness and misery. This has taught me that whenever I feel the next crush coming on that I need to stop and think about what could happen and who the person I like really is. Love has made me question every choice I make thoroughly. Overall love has taught me that not everyone is a good person.
Even though many focus on the positive possibilities of finding that special someone, the main reason why the subject has been not been a conversation is because of the potential negative results. (Leadership 2013)
Being set up by a family member or friends with someone whom they think would be a good match for has become nothing out of the ordinary. You are set up on blind dates by family and friends, there are dating services available universally anywhere you go from newspaper ads to telephone personals and the Internet. Males are continuously seeking females and females are continuously seeking males. The dating game never ends and the thought of accidentally bumping into a complete stranger while running about you everyday life tasks and falling instantly in love has become unfashionable, out of date and just plain boring. People are devoting more time to the actual encountering and according to Doosje et al. (1999), "with regard to the importance of physical attractiveness in the preferred partner, the results of our study show that men value physical attractiveness more than women do" (p.57) and therefore less time is being devoted to the actual dating or courtship of the potential marriage partner. It is beyond doubt that not enough time is devoted into deciding just what it is an individual is actually looking for in a their marriage partner.
It was a cold, windy night, a group of my friends decided they wanted to play a board game at my house to pass the time. The friends I had over were Thomas Jefferson, the Dalai Lama, C.S. Lewis, and Gretchen Rubin. Daniel M. Haybron didn’t get out of work until 8:30 so he wouldn’t be joining us until later in the game. Anyways, at the house there was an odd number of people so we just created two teams of two. Jefferson and the Dalai Lama in one team and Lewis and Rubin in the other team. I decided to sit out the first game to get a feel of how to play. Everything was going fine at first, but then things started getting a little messy. A small disagreement arose, between Thomas Jefferson, the Dalai Lama and C.S. Lewis. Their argument was about whether or not we have the right to happiness. Jefferson was actually the one that started this argument by simply expressing his opinion that people have the right to pursue happiness. Lewis, a little taken back that Jefferson said this, clearly stated his position on the topic by telling us that “[The Founding Fathers] did not mean that man was entitled to pursue happiness by any and every means”(228). He explained how some people get joy from hurting others and would that mean that those people have the right to hurt others for their own happiness? No. Well at least that’s what I was thinking when he brought that point up. We all stayed quiet for a second or two, then Lewis continued by saying that “the ‘right to happiness’ is
“Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea. Understand that your morality is not law. Understand that we are you. Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe, safer, or unsafe, it is our decision and you have no rights in our lovemaking,” said Derek Jarman, a well known english film director and author in the late 1900s. This statement is showing how sexuality can not and should not be mandated by laws. Many people arguing this topic do not know all the facts on whether it is genetics or the environment. Homosexuality has always been a very controversial topic throughout history. This issue has broken up many families and have caused many conflicts. Especially the older generations, who are very quick to judge on one's sexual orientation. Those who quickly judge others usually are the ones who are not informed that being homosexual is not a choice. Homosexuality, which has been proven to be caused by genetics through studies done through the field of human biology, many traits in genes have been found and many gays have been born into anti-gay cultures.
Merriam-Webster dictionary defines love as, “A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.” To me, it is beyond imaginable to the brain. It is not just about kisses on the cheek or hugs to warm each other’s heart. Forgiveness is a key to successfully achieve love. No couple or relationship is perfect, but in an ideal world, there would be rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes, one will let their inner demons get the best of them and disguise it from the other. Even bottle up emotions about their true feeling and never say how much the other means to them. What truly makes a relationship stable is love. Love in a relationship is built upon forgiveness, patience, and kindness.
Regaining someone’s trust can truly be difficult. One might be defensive about whether to trust someone furthermore and let the past cut loose, or hold a grudge on that person. When it comes down to trusting an individual, that you love, and they promise things they do not keep. It makes it difficult for them to be trusted.
“Shut up”, “You're so stupid”, “Why can't you do anything right?”. These, these are the words I hear every day. These words haunt what's left of my meaning less existence. I wish they cared about what they are doing.How can they be so blind not to see what they're doing? How can they be so oblivious to the situation? You know it never used to be this way. Once I was happy, and they were too.
● How well do you know yourself? This is a question we should all ask ourselves when making the decision to commit our lives to another person. If you are unable to figure out what is important to you personally, it will be difficult to share common goals with a spouse. Sometimes an honest look at who you are can save you heartache in the future.
The seem that people who are in love often try to do anything that will help the other be successful even if it means that they are not together anymore. is proven in a lot of places in the text but one example that I think shows it the best is, “‘Are you going to enter the selection?’ No! Of course not! I don't want anyone to think I'd even consider marrying some stranger. I love you,’ I said earnestly ... ‘ I think you should do it’’ Do what?’’ enter the selection. I think you should do it.’ I glared him. ‘Are you out of your mind?’ ‘Mer, listen to me.’…. ‘If you had a chance for something better than this, and you didn't take it because of me, I'd never forgiven myself. I couldn't stand it.’... Fine,’ I whispered. ‘I'll do it. But
I hope to meet a hard working man who will have pride in being a provider for our family. A hard working man is what I would need to have in my life, as I may want to be a stay at home mother. I don’t anticipate having a flawless man, however, I need a man who will sustain a tough work load for our growing family. I value a man who is hard working for the reason that I am one myself. A man who cares for himself is eye-catching as every woman needs a real man. If we are in need of extra money he will step-up without me having to ask. Therefore, my man needs to have the initiative to seek work to care for our family by doing this himself it displays independence. Likewise, I need a man who is reliable in what he says since I need to be able to depend on him. He will be a diligent man who will stick to his plans, and accomplish them without disappointment. I need a man who is conscientious, for he will do what is right and not make wrong decisions. A man who is meticulous in his work shows that he pays attention