Belts, spoons, and shoes, all known as the weapons that are used for spanking. To “spank or not to spank” is an age old question that questions if parents should spank or not spank their children. Some researchers say that spanking is one of the main problem causers in bad behaving children. Other researchers say that kids are being spanked for already acting out. Children should not be spanked by their parents because spanking predicts negative behavior, there is no reason for it and it leads to many negative outcomes. Children should not be spanked because there is no actual reason to hurt a child. One of the reasons that there is no reason to hit a child is because it would be cruel to hit a child since they are not pleased after getting spanked. There are also more effective actions a parent could take such as reasoning, positive reinforcement and timeouts, further proving spanking as useless. Spanking could also lead to more aggression since children are being taught to be cruel. Spanking would just be hurtful to a child rather than teach them a lesson. …show more content…
According to researchers Elizabeth Gershoff and Andrew Grogan-Kaylor, hitting a child with an open hand increases the chances of a child developing emotional and behavioral problems. Another study shows that thirteen out of seventeen kids who have gotten spanked had aggression, behavioral and mental problems. Spanking, as mentioned before, teaches aggression. When the children who have gotten spanked have their own kids, they will spank them due to their parents spanking them, therefore passing down the aggression, behavioral and mental problems. Spanking would just want to make the child getting spanked act out more due to the learning of
It could even teach them a lesson. But there is no positive outcomes that come from spanking. Spanking your children leads to depression, bad behavior, and it doesn’t improve their behavior; therefore you should not spank your kids.
Everyday parents are faced with the challenges of disciplining their children. We all wish there was an instruction booklet that we could magical pull out and get them back on the right path, but no such thing exists. Often times, your child pushes you to the edge of your personal limitations. At this moment it is often we correct our child’s behavior by spanking. Spanking is considered a form of discipline that is acceptable by most and an unacceptable to a smaller crowd. Spanking can lead to psychological problems in early adolescent, which long term can lead to emotional and anger retention.
Spanking also effects a child emotionally. Think of a child looking up at this huge person hitting them. This could cause the child to feel inferior. In the long run, the child could develop insecurities. Spanking could also teach a child to lie. Why would a child confess to something if they knew that their punishment would be something that will cause them pain? A child's self esteem could be lowered by spanking as well. They may feel that when they are being spanked that the parent is telling them that they are a bad person and this can stay with them throughout their life. "Kids who receive a lot of physical punishment are less spontaneous, more reserved, and afraid to try
The main reason that parents use spanking as a discipline technique is because it is what they received when they were children. However, in many cases spanking has nothing to do with helping the child. It is used as a quick solution to stop negative behavior with no real regard for the long-term outcome. Parents often spank their children because they themselves are angry. These parents simply cannot handle a situation and take it out on their child. Spanking might be more accepted if it was the only, or the most successful, form of discipline, but it is not. Spanking is simply a short-term fix of a child 's discipline problems. Two of the widely used alternatives to spanking are the time-out and restriction punishments. Time-out is most effective when administered to children under ten years of age, and a restriction mostly benefits children over ten years old. Both of these methods, while effective, also have a positive influence on the child, they teach the child discipline without the use of force, help the child
The more a child is spanked between the ages of 3 to 5 the more likely they will become aggressive (Online Psychology). Spanking can cause mental health problems and can have anti-social behavioral issues. Children that get spanked tend to defy their parents and have cognitive difficulties. When parents spank they think it is to help their child now what is right and wrong, but spanking has accidental detrimental outcomes. You don’t have to hurt a child to punish them, in 2014 about 80% of people spanked their kids. If the parent was spanked as a child the parent is more likely to support spanking
94% of parents said they have spanked their child once within the ages 3 to 4 (Corporal Punishment Beneficial, Should Be Parents' Choice). Many people feel punishing a child is up to the parents. Many arguments believe that spanking a child teaches them discipline. Just as a child shutting their fingers in a door, teaches them to not put their fingers there. Or touching hot water on the stove makes them become aware of hot objects on the stove.
When we spank children we are crating a very unhealthy environment for children. 1. We can hurt their academic success. 2. Increase chances of children developing addictions, depression later in life.
Parents want to teach their children to get along, follow the rules, be respectful to others and have a sense of self control.(Judith Graham)These values are important to many parents. If in fact spanking can be damaging to children and the relationship between parents and their children, then spanking has to be the least effective form of discipline and character building a parent can use(Kangas). Many experts say that spanking has a lot of problems that it can cause kids later down the road, such as aggression, cognitive problems and the ability to speak with adults
If all parents would spank their children, kids of today’s society would behave. Parents should spank their children for many reasons. The starter reason is because children who are spanked regularly for their wrongdoings are better behaved than those who are allowed to do whatever they want. This topic can become very controversial depending on the way it is looked at. There are certain standards that should be followed.
Just about everyone believes that spanking is a necessary method of obedience for children to help legislate order in or out of the home. According to Cheryl Ladd, “discipline is so much of an important part of being a parent. Because it’s very, very important to teach your children to take responsibility for their actions.” Although I believe that spanking is not harmful, granted that it is not excessive, it is used as a disciplinary tool, helps kids decipher what is right from wrong, and keeps children motivated to do better and stay out of trouble.
Secondly, spanking is good for long term effects on the children. “According to the research, children spanked up to the age of 6 were likely as teenagers to perform better at school and were more likely to carry out volunteer work and to want to go to college than their peers who had never been
Parents should not spank children regardless of their age or what they have done. Most parents I have seen do not verbally say “I spank my child” but it does occur more than what is seen. It is not an everyday occurrence for me to see a child being spanked in public. However it does occur more frequently in bathrooms or behind closed doors. I am willing to bet it happens a lot more than meets the eye. When I do see spankings in public it makes me uncomfortable. Even though it is an arrestable offence to hit a child a certain way, parents still do it.
According to Sarah Kovac "Exposing children to HCP (harsh corporal punishment) may have detrimental effects on trajectories of brain development,”. Beating a child not only devalues them it also shrinks their brain matter the front part of the brain that leads to certain mental illness (Kovac). Spanking does not work instead it makes a child act out more (Stokely) studies shows that kids that were spanked for wrong full behavior still turned around and acted on that behavior when not being watched therefore it is not enough to spank a child and think that they will change you actually have to talk to the child. Creating a circle that can never be broken of kids grown up and hit there own child or start hitting their
Spanking has become an arguably debatable form of discipline. According to a study at the University of Texas, the more children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy their parents (“Spanking: Pros and Cons”). There is a connection between spanking during the childhood and mental health diagnoses later in life. There are other options of discipling your child than spanking them, especially because all children can take spanking differently. Parents should not spank their child because it showers that being “stronger” is right, demonstrates that older people have a right to hit younger people, and gives the examples that violence solves all problems.
The second reason why spanking should not be done to children is the fact that it is a form of child abuse. At the moment, countries are divided as to legalize corporal punishment or create a law saying it is illegal. In the book written by Abela (2007) for the Council of Europe, she notes that “spanking of children less than two years old increases the risk of severe physical injury and the child is unlikely to understand the connection between behavior and punishment.” Most parents tend to go overboard when disciplining their children, especially when they are very angry and have not subdued their anger. This then makes the child their venting medium to get rid of that anger and sometimes, they do not apologize and even forget why they have done the deed. Other parents tend to make this a habit and even if the child did nothing wrong, they would still continue spanking the child. Eventually, the parents may slowly abuse the child through pain and totally make the child’s life a complete hell. As a result, child becomes frail and suffers psychological problems. Some countries, especially social services, use this as grounds to get the child away from the family and file cases of child abuse and physical injury that can lead to jail time if proven guilty. Spanking may also cause scarring and may be with the child