Spanking is Positive
Have you ever been spanked, when you were a child? Do you remember how it felt? Did it have an effect on your attitude as you grew older? Now, when you look back at it, do you think it was a good thing? I have interviewed three random college students that have been spanked when they were a child. Even though spanking may be an example of physical abuse, I believe it is positive and not as serious as hitting with a fist or object. The following gives examples of how students felt during the time being spanked, how their behavior was after being spanked, and how being spanked affected his/her life.
At the time of being spanked NAU student Lindsey Richardson said, “being spanked was an
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Then for ASU student Monty Little says, “it hurt when I got spanked and just made me dislike my parents even more, but couldn’t say anything because they were the one’s that could spank me.” For Monty, being spanked was to feel the pain as well just like Megan. For me personally, I can remember how it hurt and it reminded me not to misbehave again.
After being spanked, the students I interviewed pretty much had the same idea about how they felt after being spanked. Lindsey Richardson said, “after being spanked I felt so embarrassed and it made me angry at my parents, but at the same time I knew I couldn’t get my own way all the time and knew my parents were still in control.” So, for Lindsey after being spanked made her realize she has no control over her parents. As for Megan Marlatt she said, “after my parents would spank me, it made me angry, but made me think that I wouldn’t want to get spanked again because of how much it hurt.” Therefore after being spanked it made Megan think about not to misbehave the next time. For Monty Little, he said, “after I got spanked it made me angry at my parents but think how serious my parents are when they tell me to behave and how scared I am of them afterwards.” Subsequently, it made him understand that his parents have
Spanking is a fiercely debated social issue in many countries, such as the US, the United Kingdom, Canada, Israel, and Germany. There are questions over what intensity of pain is suitable until it crosses the threshold into abuse. Up until the mid-20th century it was perfectly okay in most communities for a spanking to cause a child to cry in pain throughout and have difficulty sitting down afterward, even resulting in stripes or bruises for days. Nowadays several think even mere redness of the skin abusive, while others would call it effective discipline. This causes questions as to whether children should be spanked. In addition, whether spanking is an effective method of discipline and at what point does it constitutes child abuse.
A recent study shows 70 percent of parents believe it is right to discipline a child through physical means. Most commonly, parents will spank their children but being hit with things like belts or other objects happens as well. Parenting methods haven’t changed much with time and discipline in similar no matter the country. With more studies out to find the most effective method of parenting and discipline it’s coming to attention whether or not physical harm is the best way to teach children. Parents want what is best for their children, so it is important to constantly bring up and question methods commonly accepted in the past. One method that is becoming more controversial is spanking children. Though it is still considered normal to do, it is gaining more traction and more studies are being done to find the problems it causes. Checking on parenting methods can be difficult as everyone is raised differently. It is also difficult to test which forms of punishment lead to certain outcomes. However, there is a trend of negative effects from hitting. Gershoff acknowledges, “several national professional organizations have called on parents to abandon spanking as a child rearing practice and for professionals to recommend disciplinary alternatives to spanking.” Spanking children is a terrible discipline method as it has negative effects.
Have you ever been spanked as a kid and felt angry towards your parents? Did you feel they just hated you? Spanking is a form of corporal punishment which is a punishment intended to cause pain in many different ways. Corporal punishment started in slavery and led to schools and homes. Although many states have banned corporal punishment it is still allowed in 19 out of 50 states. Many adults will agree children just need a ‘good ol’e spanking’ and others will argue that it is a negative way to parent and causes more problems. Spanking children is not a proper way of parenting because it gives a negative effect on children.
Even after years of research, the issue of whether spanking is an adequate discipline strategy or damaging to children remains a controversial topic. According to Kazdin and Benjet (2003) the definition of spanking is “. . . hitting a child with an open hand on the buttocks or extremities with the intent to discipline without leaving a bruise or causing physical harm (p. 100). In addition, according to Maguire-Jack, Gromoske and Berger (2012) only a few studies propose that spanking is an effective form of discipline. On the other hand, there is more evidence to show that spanking is an unsuccessful form of discipline that can led to unwanted consequences (p. 1960). I personally do not take a stance in this topic because I can see valid points from both parties. Although, I believe that the way the punishment is presented to the child is extremely important. For example, I feel that the child should know why he or she is punished and what is expected of them thereafter.
The more a child is spanked between the ages of 3 to 5 the more likely they will become aggressive (Online Psychology). Spanking can cause mental health problems and can have anti-social behavioral issues. Children that get spanked tend to defy their parents and have cognitive difficulties. When parents spank they think it is to help their child now what is right and wrong, but spanking has accidental detrimental outcomes. You don’t have to hurt a child to punish them, in 2014 about 80% of people spanked their kids. If the parent was spanked as a child the parent is more likely to support spanking
Spanking a child is a controversial issue. On one side of the debate are people who believe spanking is a necessary component of parenting. On the contrary are people who think spanking a child is destructive. Somewhere in the middle are people who believe spanking is legitimate only when used correctly. Part of the reason for the debate is that some parents and experts define spanking differently. To some, spanking means slapping a child on the rear-end, while others believe it is a form of corporal punishment that does not cause injury. By showing how each perspective of spanking supports their claim and defining spanking, one will be able to form an opinion.
There are lessons when it comes to spanking your children. I am glad this happened to me growing up because if it wasn’t I would not have become the person that I am today. There are many lessons and it helps children to become
First off, let me start by saying that of the 21 people I surveyed, all of them had been spanked as a child, except for one. This shows that 95.2 percent of the people I surveyed were spanked as a disciplinary measure to teach them some lesson on how they should behave. Two participants, one male and one female, were also spanked simply because their parents were upset at someone, not necessarily them, or something. Considering that only 9.5 percent of the participants that were spanked got extra spankings when
Spanking has received a bad reputation dues to increase in child abuse that is report yearly. In 2012 2.9 million cases of child abuse was reported in the United States this neglect and abuse. (Safe Horizon, 2012) As a child I was spank, punished and talked to about what was acceptable behavior, respecting all adults and people in authority. As a child I would have rather receive a spanking because my mom never stop talking but maybe that because I got so few spanking.
Spanking is a form of punishment that consists of striking another person to cause physical pain. It is often used as a method of correcting a child's behavior and has been used for many years by our ancestors, typically being done with an open hand. Spanking children has been a very controversial topic over the years. Spanking is ineffective because it causes aggressive behavior in children, leads to long term mental health issues , and is an act of violence.
Argument 2 1. Spanking can deter the child from feeling close to their parents; feel less attached to them. 2. Nadine Block, author of: “This hurts me more than it hurts you”, in her books she gives examples of children sharing how spankings huts them and they prefer their parents not to spank them. Bodily punishment puts a detachment amongst the parent and the child; this distance is particularly disturbing in home situations where the parent-child relationship may already be weakened, such as single-parent homes or in blended families.
The issue of spanking has become an important social controversy over the past few decades. As a result, some people are bringing out some negative opinions against spanking. One of them argues spanking is really unnecessary and not effective when parents disciple their sons and daughters because it might not be helpful directly changing children’s wrong behaviors result in parents’ abuse and family violence. On the other hand, I do not agree with that because parents’ discipline when a child got mistake is supposed to be under a type of affection toward them, so people would know parents rarely spank them either to express their anger or to beat them severely. Sometimes people may not agree with them, but we need to remember that parents only
It honestly was one of the best things for me and for children everywhere. I realize at some points of my childhood I was being tough to deal with and that’s when they did it. It was because I was being spoiled rotten and it helped get the point across that that kind of behavior in life will not be tolerated. It instilled in my brain that if I want something or if something didn’t go my way, then I can’t just sit there and complain about it, I have to get out there and do something about it. Things don’t just happen in life because you cry about it, you have to get them for yourself, and that helped me realize that at a young age. A lot of the kids you see these days do not get spanked, and that’s why a lot of kids do not respect their elders. It’s sad to see so many disrespectful kids this day in age. I think that spanking would have made a huge difference for those kids and their
The main problem with spanking is that it may increase the child's belief that violence is a good way to solve problems and/or the spanking will instill the child with feelings of defiance and anger towards the administering person. (Duncan, 2007) I believe that effectual spanking would include proper education with love before and after the spanking for the purpose of clarifying the intent of the person who is spanking and the cooperation of the spanked child. The understanding of the context and reasoning of the parent is crucial for the child to grasp before an effective physical discipline session can be carried out.
As a child I was spanked when I did something wrong. My parents never left a mark on me what so ever. Being spanked taught me respect and kept me in line. The way my parents disciplined me, I think is an accepted method of punishment. I believe what parents do to their kids at home