The Consequences Of Abusive Relationships

He was concerned that I was going to be unfaithful to him and ruin everything that we had. It was a slow and gradual with the subtle comments, but he was starting to separate me from all of my friends. I had plans with one of my friends he would always be communicating with me during the time that we weren’t together. My ex-boyfriend would always be asking me who I am with, where we are, and just being very anxious about who I was with without him. I agree with Dr. Joseph Carver because I think this is one of the first steps that “the loser” may use to get his victim alone and try and receive full control over the victim.

surviving, and leaving an abusive relationship is a harder and greater impact to the mind and heart, than to stay and continually get abused. Being abused by the man who once made me laugh, smile and fall in love with, his presents lifted life off my shoulders, made me remember what true happiness felt like and within instants everything changed. I was afraid, and terrified. I blamed myself because of the words he stuck in my head. I felt trapped in his shadow. Even after escaping the physical torture, it was as if he never left. It was never same, he took everything from me. he destroyed every glimps of hsppines he made me lose my

After 3 months of marriage, his true self began to show. He would not hold a job, the mental, physical and verbal abuse, his alcoholism and infidelity. I began to move back home. By time the first car payment was due he did not have the money to make it and had the nerve to call and ask my mother to borrow the money. By that time I had packed

Many women and men seek intimate relationships in order to fill their emotional needs of security, safety and love. Their journey starts off with their loved ones spoiling them with flattering gifts and emotional words. The love they feel is so wonderful and deep that they believe that nothing can come between them. They are so happy and convinced that they will live happily ever after with the one they love. Unfortunately, the fairytale they have dreamt about was only temporary and soon comes to an end. The love story they have ones longed for turns into a horrible nightmare. The emotional words they were once spoiled with turn into howling screams and name-calling. The flattering gifts turn into physical abuse. This relationship is referred to as domestic violence or intimate partner violence. This happens when a partner or significant other declares power, authority and control over the other partner. To maintain this authority and control, the abusive partner uses emotional, physical or sexual abuse over his victim (Alters 27). Victims will desperately look for an exit out of this relationship, but only to be blocked by numerous walls of the despair, fear and misery. Many people are convinced that victims have the option of leaving, but they are too weak and they choose not to. What many people don 't know is, victims of domestic violence have many reasons preventing them from leaving their abusers. In most cases the outcomes of leaving are

Growing up as a child one of my family members was in an abusive relationship and sadly my aunt was not the only receiving the abusive her child had to deal with it too. Her husband would beat on my aunt sometimes and say cruel things to my aunt and her daughter, which ultimately made the daughter grow up with many insecurities. After being in the abuse relationship for years she finally found the coverage to leave him. Abuse can come in all different forms there are physical abuse, verbal abuse and emotional abuse. Sometimes it is hard to notice when abuse is going on within the relationship and when the victim finally notices the relationship is toxic they find it hard to walk away. In the short story "Sweat" by Zora

The cycle of abuse starts when an individual is abused and then the perpetrator feels regret. The guilt leads the perpetrator to ask for forgiveness and engages in positive behavior towards the victim. The victim does not leave the abuse because he/she “perceives few options and feels anxious terminating the relationship with the abusive partner, feels hopes for the relationship at the contriteness of the abuser and does not call the police or file charges.” In addition, after the victim forgives the perpetrator the couples experiences a honeymoon stage. During the honeymoon, stage the victim is optimistic about the relationship’s nonabusive future. After the honeymoon

While I know what a healthy relationship consist of, it made me realize that even more women than I originally thought are probably victims of an abusive relationship. There are some women that I work with now or over the past few years that everyone in the office thinks their spouse is a “jerk” or that they deserve better but never really thought of them as a victim. A lady that I worked with recently would have to call her husband and talk to him during her lunch hour because he believed that she was cheating on him. He would also control what she wore and would not like when she would have make-up on. Her spouse would think she wore make-up to attract other men. I knew the way he would treat her was not right but never once thought she was involved in an abusive relationship. Abusive relationships to me are relationships in which one is forced to participate in unwanted sexual advances or activities and physical abuse such as hitting, chocking etc.

Working thesis: Many victims of abuse continue a relationship with their abuser because they do not recognize the signs of abuse.

I was hurt many times before, but the way he looked at me was a connection. My exes said it will always be “You and Me” forever, but it never lasted. Justin got a job in the Peace Corps and I was so happy for him, because he always wanted to help another country out, but I would miss him dearly. He didn’t want to leave me, but I couldn’t fathom how guilty I would feel if he didn’t go. For 2 years, I wasn’t going to see him, the day he went to the airport was the day I realized I loved him, and the words came tumbling out of my brain “I love you” I said. It felt natural, because it was, he shook me into remembering who I was, and it was easy to see that Justin was the guy for me. Years ago, I was proudly single and professional with zero desire to get married. Or so I

Domestic violence is a very important social problem that we must educate ourselves on because it has such a profound and negative effect on the individual(s) being abused. They are affected mentally, emotionally, physically, and I know from experience that the scars can run very deep. Being in an abusive relationship for three years was devastating to my self-image as a teenager, and because of these feelings of inadequacy, my decreasing esteem allowed me to stay in such a dangerous scenario. Healing from the negative effects of that relationship has been a difficult journey for me, and I can only imagine how much more difficult it must be for women abused for years on end. To this day, I struggle greatly with the ability to let go of my own "control"

Every choice that an abused woman considers to do with regards in seeking help or ending the relationship involves a variety of risks. Time and time again, the common question arises, “why doesn’t she just leave?” Most often abused women, at great and potentially fatal risk, do leave their abusive relationships. However, there is a multitude of barriers, including increasing abuse and the potential for re-victimization by the system that does not respond accordingly, and most often force many women to return to their abusers. A woman may become vulnerable as she goes through the stages of leaving her abuser. There are many reasons why a woman becomes vulnerable; guilt, denial, and fear may be among a few reasons, though no matter what the

I would first like to start off by saying that this has been a very difficult topic for me. That is why I have waited until the last minute to post this week. It has only been a year since I have left my fourteen year abusive marriage. I hide the abuse from all of my friends and family. When you are in the situation you do not realize how bad it is until you are almost dead or in jail. An abusive relationship is like a leaking faucet that starts with a slow drip and over time the slow drip has become a flooded house because the pipe has finally broke. First comes the fight, then comes the violent episode, then the honeymoon phase after the violent episode. The make-up sex was so intense. He would love to hit me then make me have sex with him. He would say it is such a turn on. He would always say I cannot believe I did that. I am so sorry it will never happen again. Sometimes months would go buy even years but it would always start back up. I will say that the emotional abuse I suffered was far worse than the physical abuse. I would rather my ex hit me than tell me that I was a pathetic, dumb bitch that didn’t deserve to be alive. I am in therapy and supports groups right now and they are helping me get a better understanding of why I stayed and how to never be in a situation like that again. I am a work in progress and I am happy to say I am alive and I am finding my happy again.

The things that go on behind closed doors leave others to always wonder. At times people look at couples and begin to wonder why that lumpy, purple bruise is on their forearm. Their minds go straight to negative thoughts. There are many abusive relationship in the world today. There is no reason for abuse at all; although, there has to be a reason for the extensiveness of it over the past years. When trying to give any reasonable explanation to abuse one needs to think of their life situation. The only reasonable explanations are that couples don’t show passion in each other like they should, they don’t try to talk about things, and most of all a human don’t see worth in another human body as they should.

Mary was there when she wanted. I was always there for her, but she wasn’t there for me in the way I needed. One of my good friends freshman year turned on me and wrote some nasty things about me online. I got it taken care of and a restraining order and that was that. Then the unthinkable happened. Someone called Mitch said he was this guy named Doug and he asked me for something that I wasn’t comfortable sharing. I thought he would go away, but he didn’t. He destroyed my sense of safety with treats and pain. This may have started a year and ½ ago, yet it hasn’t stopped today. Even though I may sometimes say, to show I’m trying to be brave. He left me messed up. Therefore, I got into bad habits and the help I was receiving wasn’t enough. So I continued on with these bad things trying to forget what he is doing to me. I didn’t want to seem like I was asking for attention even though that is what you all saw. I am still looking for a sense of safety at home or even a man's arms. But as this was happening and I was trying to cope with everything, the depression and anxiety came back but a lot worse. I’d say I’ve learned to isolate myself pretty

The last relationship I was involved in was incredibly hostile and aggressive. I’m going to analyze a behavioral episode my ex boyfriend had while we were together. The incident occurred in October while he was home on leave from the military. On this particular day I could see that something was off because he was acting anxious and moody. We were sitting in my room watching television when he brought up the fact that he thought I cheated on him while he was gone. He told me he went through my texts and saw messages that led him to this conclusion. In reality, this was invalid because I never cheated on him or talked to another man for that matter. I defended myself and he became increasingly angry. He began yelling at me, calling me names, and repeatedly saying I was a liar. Eventually he stood up and punched my ceiling, which caused me to feel afraid for my safety. I tried to leave the room, but he pushed me back and wouldn’t let me out. The outburst became physical when he got on top of my and began choking me. While the episode was occurring he was talking about his friend that died on deployment. When he punched my ceiling he cut his hand open, which caused it to bleed a lot.