The Cry Of Tamar Of A Healthy Non Abusive Relationship

Friends and family especially show concern for their female friends who are in unhealthy relationships. According the article by Layne Wood (Why do Battered Women Stay in Abusive Relationships?), writing for Live Strong, each abusive relationship is different and there are numerous reasons why women feel stuck in an abusive situation. Some women may think that an abusive relationship is normal because it’s the only type of relationship they have been exposed to. Women may believe that its normal to be abused and tolerate it if they grew up in an abusive environment. This environment my lead to a decrease in self-esteem.” One hallmark of an abusive partner is that he convinces the woman she is worthless or undesirable and that no one else would ever want her. The abuser often convinces the woman that the abuse is her fault” (Wood). Women may also be in a constant state of fear. This will prevent her from attempting to escape the abuse. Abusers may threaten her life as well as the lives of those who are important to her including himself. Some women may be dependent on a man in their life. If a woman goes from man to man they may have a hard time ending a toxic relationship because they are more afraid of being alone then being in a healthy and safe

In order for a spouse, romantic partner/significant other to overcome the psychological and emotional trauma suffered while in an abusive relationship, there must be a willingness to heal and move on, not wallow in self-pity because all that does is exacerbate the situation. As Reed & Enright (2006) noted “Spousal psychological abuse represent a painful betrayal of trust, leading to serious negative psychological outcomes for the abused partner” (Dutton & Painter, 1993; Sackett & Saunders, 1999). The abused individual must be of the mindset that the abuser no longer has power over her, that person can no longer inflict emotional abuse or issue threats to undermine their safety and sanity and it’s time to take back control of her life.

On Thursday night I went to the “Shatter the Silence, Stop the Violence” seminar by the Sexual Assault and Violence Education (SAVE) Committee. During the seminar I learned about several parts of dating and domestic violence, as well as healthy, unhealthy, and abusive relationships. I was familiar with many of these topics, but hadn’t gone so far in depth with them before.

Just like Janie, many women are physically abused. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence estimates that 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by their partner each year. Nearly eighty five percent of domestic violence victims are women and females between the ages of twenty and twenty-four are at the greatest risk of partner violence. Janie was only one of the few women to be assaulted. In the 1900’s, Janie’s time, it was even more likely that women were abused since men had more rights.

The Brigham Young University, lists the steps towards successfully eliminating the abusive factor in a relationship. First, understanding what an abusive relationship is like, and detecting whether you are currently in one. Secondly, supporting one’s dignity and acknowledging the importance of an abuse free household. Margaret E. Johnson focuses on the inner self structure. Realizing the problem, understanding the plausible consequences, acknowledging that the second party is wrong, and not letting their own self-worth go down, are just the tip of the iceberg in abusive relationships. In the other hand, being manipulated, going to court, divorce/ separation, are factors

We hear the stories of these women and learn about the women in themselves. We learn why studies show they were placed in that position as well as why they think they were placed in that position. The most interesting portion of the book is when the author shows us how the women write violence off as not being violent at all, with such excuses as "I wanted to keep the marriage together" or "he was mad" or even "I deserved it". Because a lot of women grow up in abusive situations similar to the one's they were in it is harder then to identify oneself as a battered woman. Many of the women interviewed in the prison stated that they didn't consider themselves battered women until it was too late to get help, some even went as far as saying that they didn't realize what they were until they went to prison and joined the CWAA.

Our culture refuses to hold women equally accountable as men for their participation in Domestic Violence. Women’s behavior whether perpetrator or victim, is understood and passed off as socialization or poor economic status. On the other hand men are held fully accountable for all of their behavior. “Despite the tough guy stereotype all boys are encouraged to embody and the abuse many bear as a normal

The issue focused on is Domestic Violence; a common yet silent form of battering, harassment , and sexual assault. As explained by Annie, she meets her husband when she was 16 years old. He was five years older than her. Expeditiously they developed a relationship, and she became pregnant. That’s when the abuse began, he would hit her, throw her into walls and leave her helpless in a puddle of her own blood. She was trapped in a world of fear, regret, and slowly began to feel as if all this was her fault. She would scream and shout for help, to call the police. Neighbors would turn away, ignore the issue. Her own family ignored the signs, the cries for help. After a while the hitting and verbal abuse suddenly became a part of her life, she felt as if it was always something she did wrong and accepted it. Unquestionably this is just small insight of Annie’s domestic relationship. The hidden reality that the underlying commonality at the back of all varieties of abusive behaviors related to domestic violence is the reason to gain manage and strength over one 's partner thru patterns of bodily, sexual or mental abuse. According to “Domestic Violence Statistics, a woman in the United States is being beaten and assaulted every nine seconds. Based on the findings of domestic violence studies, at least one in every three women around the world have been beaten, coerced into sexual activity or otherwise abused during her lifetime. It is reported that men who as children witnessed

Women of different races, age groups, and lifestyles have dealt with sexual, physical, and psychological abuses from history until today.

According to statistics found by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Every nine seconds a woman is abused by her husband or intimate partner. At least 1 in every 4 women and 1 in every 9 men have been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused in their lifetime. Most often the abuser is one of their own family. Domestic violence is a problem that somehow affects every one of us in this room at some time and is actually the leading cause of injury to women -- more than car accidents, muggings and rapes combined.

Domestic Violence is a human tragedy, and has been a part of life for many individuals. It is not subjective to a particular group, race, or culture. Historically, the feminist movement preserved the theory that domestic violence is a growing matter because of the continuous power differential between the male gender and the female gender. Remarkably, this approach on domestic disputes unveiled the inner workings of barriers men, women, and children would face when in a domestic violence situation. The feminist theory emphasizes on studying “the gendered nature of all relationships…which aims at understanding how gender is related to social inequalities and oppression” (Marsigila & Kulis, 2015, p. 148). Disastrously, an ignorant notion that once dominated our culture was the belief that emotional agony was less painful than physical brutality. However,

Women who delay ending an abusive relationship are faced with many of the same complex emotional issues and social obstacles that face any of us when we contemplate leaving a partner. We are attracted to partners for reasons beyond the physical, for the good aspects of the person and the happy or comforting moments spent with them. When things are not going well in the relationship, these positive qualities and experiences provide incentives for working out problems. Reinforcing the effects of these incentives is the fact that we are socialized to expect to maintain a serious, committed relationship through good times and bad.

Every day most of us go about with our eyes closed towards the crisis of domestic violence. A study done showed that every nine seconds a women is beaten or assaulted (“Statistics”). The time that it has taken you to read to this point is the time it has taken for a women to be hit by this crisis. Yet, so many think that the concern for domestic violence is over-exaggerated. Many think that there are so many other epidemics going on that should take precedence over domestic violence. Besides worrying about these epidemics, it also can be hard to determine who really is a victim. Therefore, why should we spend time on this, when we could be directing more attention to the other occurrences? However, domestic violence is starting to become

No relationship will ever be perfect, but that does not mean you should settle for one that is toxic and degrading. However, according to National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1 in 3 adolescents in the United States have experienced at least one type of abuse from their romantic partner. Evidently, this shows that people still continue to engage in these unhealthy relationships. Perhaps what is even further alarming is that the majority of the abused refrain from reporting it, often suffering long-term effects from this abuse. When thinking about the effects, most people’s minds will retreat to bruises, cuts, and other physical evidence. However, people fail to consider the scars that are not

Violence against women is a worldwide yet still hidden problem. Freedom from the threat of harassment, battering, and sexual assault is a concept that is hard to imagine because violence is embedded in a deep part of most cultures and most lives. “Violence against women includes all verbal, physical, and sexual assaults which violate a woman’s physical body, sense of self and sense of trust, regardless of age, race, ethnicity, or country. Violence against women has been identified as a major public health and human rights issue, and has been estimated by the World Health Organization (WHO) to account for between 5–20% of healthy years of life lost in women aged 15 to 44 (Alhabib, 2009).” Violence against women reaches beyond the immediate threat of bruises and broken bones. The violence against women in many parts of the world contributes to severe health problems such as chronic pain, disability, disease, and mental problems. Violence against women does not only affect the women physically but also mentally, emotionally and socially. Women are affected mentally due to violence because their self esteem is reduced very much, their confidence level is reduced and women who come through the situations in life where they faced violence, they are unable to recuperate to their normal life style. Women who are involved in violence once upon a time in their life usually face post traumatic disorder syndrome. Women involved in violence also experience mental health disorders of