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The Faker Essay

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After reading the article from Stronger Marriage, I feel I’m “The Faker” kind of listener. I do know my wife will agree completely as well. May times she will be talking to me about something that happened at work or with the kids, asking me what I thought. I realize I had no idea what was said, therefore, I must ask her to repeat herself. This is extremely frustrated to her, especially if it’s important or a situation that needs dealt with. Thus, this is something I am working on and needs to be adjusted if I am to be an effective listener.
As for my journal partner, she has concluded she is “The Intellectual Listener”. She has adopted this type of listening due to her career. My partner has a job where she has to multitask and has …show more content…

Family and friends are an extremely important part of our lives, to maintain good communication with them you need to be a good listener. My wife and I attempt to be effective listeners, but it is tremendously difficult with all the noise and distractions we face. I know for myself, it is essential to stay in the moment, hence, not let my mind wander.
Furthermore, I personally feel I need to watch out for “analyzing”. Analyzing my wife is something I want and need to avoid. She has her own feelings and thoughts about issues. Equally, questioning why or how she can feel a certain way is not the direction I want our conversations or relationship to advance. Those thoughts and feeling are who she is, I am proud to be on the receiving end of them.
Lastly, my partner believes the mistake she makes in reflective listening is “listening without empathy”. She is aware she needs to be an active listener and pay attention to the person talking. Consequently, she is so task oriented that if she has a deadline to make at work, she will not make an effort to engage in a lengthy conversation, in turn appears uninterested. This is a problem she knows she needs to rectify. The suggestions in the article are a good start in making the corrections to be a better

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