After reading the article from Stronger Marriage, I feel I’m “The Faker” kind of listener. I do know my wife will agree completely as well. May times she will be talking to me about something that happened at work or with the kids, asking me what I thought. I realize I had no idea what was said, therefore, I must ask her to repeat herself. This is extremely frustrated to her, especially if it’s important or a situation that needs dealt with. Thus, this is something I am working on and needs to be adjusted if I am to be an effective listener.
As for my journal partner, she has concluded she is “The Intellectual Listener”. She has adopted this type of listening due to her career. My partner has a job where she has to multitask and has
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Family and friends are an extremely important part of our lives, to maintain good communication with them you need to be a good listener. My wife and I attempt to be effective listeners, but it is tremendously difficult with all the noise and distractions we face. I know for myself, it is essential to stay in the moment, hence, not let my mind wander.
Furthermore, I personally feel I need to watch out for “analyzing”. Analyzing my wife is something I want and need to avoid. She has her own feelings and thoughts about issues. Equally, questioning why or how she can feel a certain way is not the direction I want our conversations or relationship to advance. Those thoughts and feeling are who she is, I am proud to be on the receiving end of them.
Lastly, my partner believes the mistake she makes in reflective listening is “listening without empathy”. She is aware she needs to be an active listener and pay attention to the person talking. Consequently, she is so task oriented that if she has a deadline to make at work, she will not make an effort to engage in a lengthy conversation, in turn appears uninterested. This is a problem she knows she needs to rectify. The suggestions in the article are a good start in making the corrections to be a better
Firstly, it is not enough to be a good listener, one has to be an active and deep listener, with the true ability to understand what the other person is saying (Marquis & Huston, 2015). A servant-leader does not interrupt to argue, validate, or refute points, but allows free expression of the person to whom they are listening (Hunter, 1998). This demonstrates a contemplative as opposed to a reactive style, which builds trust with other people. When we have truly understood and not just heard our patient,
listening that I have not thought of before. One important thing that Ms. Headlee had said was to not pretend that you’re listening when you actually aren’t. This is called pseudolistening and our book calls it “pretend listening” (Rothwell 150) Pseudolistening is when you are looking at someone while they are talking and responding with ”Mmm-hmm” or even saying “really” (Rothwell 150) It appears as though you are intently listening when in reality you are not. If you are doing this you are not only a bad listener but also disrespectful towards the person who is talking.
Listening is a very complicated skill that many people do not posses. It requires individuals to reflect and to admit to their flaws. In order to communicate effectively it is important to know when to talk and listen. Peterson’s book is an excellent tool to enhance all types of relationships.
Thank you for your response! I can agree with you as well. I always try my best to stop everything i am doing and listen to what the person(s) are saying to me. Also, I try to put my phone away while I am listening to someone. I will say it is a challenge since we live in such a technological savvy society. Usually, I communicate my interests and passions to my family and a few of my close friends. I completely agree that it is important to have certain individuals in your life to communicate ideas and passions to as well.
James Petersen (2007) uses five parts to describe the talking and listening to help us process a better way of communicating and understanding each other. They are provided to help us connect in our relationships with others. According to Petersen, most of us think we listen well, but we don’t. Not
The development of the European economy since 1945 to the present day has been significant as much change has occurred during this period of time. The first and possibly most interesting development that occurred during this time that I will write about is ‘The Golden age’. The Golden age transpired post World War II in the time period 1950-1973 and was a period of great economic growth within Europe. There were several reasons for the growth and development of the European economy during this time period and I will discuss each in detail throughout my essay with the support of scholarly articles and book chapters relevant to the development of the European economy throughout these
In the article of The Skill of Mindful listening, Hennessey teaches us the difficulties of effective communications in today’s society. His first focus in the article was based around how we are almost disconnected from one another and the outside world. How sometimes it can seem challenging for people to communicate with one another because we feel that we must compete with the others phone first. Hennessey reminds us that being mindful is not only just being open minded of what the other person is saying, but to also be giving our full attention to them. Listening is a mind and a body skill; that listening involves all of our senses and gives information to both parties. Hennessey also reminds us to not be judgemental when it come to listening to another person and that you need to be patient and listen to the full story before you engage in judging. As I read more and more from Hennessey about
The opportunity to gauge my personal listening style in the home was exponentially more revealing than any other experience. During conversations with my children, my listening style would vacillate between time-oriented, people-oriented, and content-oriented; sometimes with a combination of two different styles. I found that content-based and time-oriented listening was employed during homework and reading time, whereas people-oriented listening was applied to all other situations. With my fiancée, I realized that the listening styles I use most are that of content and time-based listening. We rarely have access to each other, so it unnerved me to awaken to the fact that I didn’t inject the attributes of a people-oriented listener
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At 10.41min. Reflective Listening- He acknowledged that his alcoholic lifestyle is causing more problems like anger and hangovers, inability to concentrate and adding to his stressors. Through reflective listening, what he said was repeated in regards to his awareness of the problems, concerns and reasons for wanting to change. Reflective listening is the pathway for engaging others in relationships, building trust, and fostering motivation to
To be a good listener you should listen more than you talk, use the others person name, and keep a positive tone (Zehring,1986,p22-25). I took the “Are you a good listener” survey and probably to my mother’s surprise I scored a 90, which means I am a “strong and effective listener”. This means that I try and help others get through the problems that they are facing, but I need to not draw the conversation back to myself as much. I do agree with my score because I do try and talk to my friends and others about their issues, so that I can try and help them get through whatever they might be experiencing.
This engages the client and builds trust. In order to reflect effectively the clinician must listen carefully, notice body language, and summarize what the client said. In reflective listen you have the ability to express empathy as mentioned by Klonek and Kauffeld, (2015). Imel, Baer, and Atkins (2015), states there are two types of reflective listening. Reflective listening is when the clinician what the client stated almost verbatim. Complex reflection is reflection with intensity. Here the clinician is restating what the client has said and adding to it or increasing concentration on a specific area.
In the first chapter of her book, You Just Don't Understand, Men and Women in Conversation, Deborah Tannen quotes, "...studies have shown that married couples that live together spend less than half an hour a week talking to each other...". (24) This book is a wonderful tool for couples to use for help in understanding each other. The two things it stresses most is to listen, and to make yourself heard. This book opened my eyes to the relationship I am in now, with a wonderful person, for about four years. It made me realize that most of our little squabble-like fights could have been avoided, if one or the other of us could sit down and
The ability to listen well is an important tool for understanding others. Sadly, very few people know how to listen well. In fact, most people can think of only one or two good listeners in their lives. Listening is not simply agreeing - it is much more. Good listeners are able to better understand and respond to others, complete assignments accurately, settle disagreements before they escalate, and establish rapport with difficult people.
The Imposter Essay | Griffin Bebbington The Imposter, Directed by Bart Layton, is about an identity thief in search of a loving home by praying on the vulnerable families with missing children that look similar to him. In response to this text I feel quite angry towards Frederick stealing identities from the saddened Barclays family, I also felt curious as to why the Barclay family thought that Frederick was there real brother/son and how the family looked as if they knew what happened to Nickolas. Finally with all this been said, both my anger and curiosity tie together and make me feel confused.