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The Gifts Of Imperfection By Brene Brown

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A Letter to My Sister

I wrote this during my time in higher education. I know things will change by the time you’re in college, especially since there’s a fourteen-year age difference. Although many things will change, I know some things will remain the same for the both of us. Like me, you’re a people pleaser. You want to do what will help others like you. You hurt deeply when someone has done something wrong and tend to place blame on yourself. You ask so many questions. You have compassion and feel for others- this grows from our family roots. So much of me I see in you and you’re only nine years old. So, my intelligent and loving little sister, here is some advice for your new adult life.
1. Remember all of the endless questions you used …show more content…

Comparison will steal your joy. Right now, I see many traits in you that I see in myself. Perfectionism is something I see in both of us. I used to think these traits could be a great tool when you work, but then I read The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown and she stated, “Perfectionism is self-destructive simply because there is no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal” (pg. 57). Bug-a-boo, I know this isn’t something that you want to hear, but she is right. There is no such thing as being perfect. As I see you struggle as a nine-year-old to perfectly read that chapter book or make all of the kids like you at school, I just want to hug you and tell you that you are and always have been enough. I once heard in a song, “You’ll always measure up if you compare yourself to you”. You are the only person you need to focus on. I don’t mean the ideal “perfect daughter, sister, friend, student” portrait you try to paint yourself to be. I’m talking about the beautiful girl who loves to dance down the hallway, the girl who leaves her school work scattered around the house, the girl who struggles, the girl who is human. Additionally, keep in mind, comparing yourself to others robs you of the potential YOU were given. And trust me, that potential is

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