The Nature of Love

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“Harry couldn’t help it, he was in love”. What does such a statement imply about the nature of love? Write an essay which argues your particular view on the nature of love and the object of that love. Limit your answer to the notion of romantic love and use Robert Ehman as a starting point. Everybody seems to believe that love is a good thing. However, not all agree on what love is. Is love that warm fuzzy feeling a person has when they are with a familiar person? According to the Bible, love is caring in action. Love is not what we feel, but what we do; however the object of love is not defined. (Bible Gateway, 2012) In this discussion I will describe what the nature of love is based on the idea of love as a verb, as something one does…show more content…
For love to be considered ‘true love’ individuals must share their personal sides (Ehman, 1989) as this create the idea of unity in the relationship. Chaney, (2002) states “The personal identity of an individual is represented by a narrative unity.” By this Chaney is referring to the idea that in romanticised love, unity in the relationship is created from the deep bond of both lovers creating an emotional connection. (p. 4) The nature of love can be derived from this aspect of experiencing love as the result of an action, for example spending lots of time with someone. When referring to the notion of romantic love Ehman (1989) defines doing love as “sharing the personal side of the life of a friend.”(p. 261) When the ultimate motive in a relationship is sharing their personal sides of life and the relationship is considered most important “above all other relationships in an individuals’ life they have moved beyond friendship to genuine personal love.” (Ehman,1987 p. 261) The nature of an individual’s upbringing can also effect how one defines love. As stated by Harlow, (1958) love responses begin to form extremely early on in the development of an infant between an infant and the mother. “The human infant becomes a "self," a being capable of speech and action, only by learning to interact in a human community longing for true love.” (Sartre 1989 p. 348) This in an example of the idea that it is

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