Children are now carrying more of the burden, as a result of marriages and relationships not working out. They are the ones who are suffering and paying for the adults bad and irresponsible decisions. We as the adults have to start making better decisions and setting better examples for our children. As parents, we are our children’s first teachers. We set the bar. Children mimic what they see, so if a positive image is being seen, then that child will think and act in a positive manner. On the other hand, if all a child sees is negativity, then you know what comes of that. This is a problem not only in America, but global. Yet American women lead all nationalities as far as living in a single family dwelling. Here in America, black women lead all nationalities as being or living in the single parent environment. 72% of black kids today, are born to a single mother, which is unacceptable and out of control. Single mothers are not the only major problem in this epidemic of children growing up in fatherless homes. Another major problem is fathers who are abandoning their children and leaving all of the responsibilities on the mothers. They are not only giving up on their relationship as a spouse or significant other, but giving up on their role as father and teacher to their children. Men need to be men and teach our children how to stand and face adversity, not run away from it. Also, to pay attention to those warning signs beforehand coming from the women.
The introduction begins with quotes from people who mention that fathers get women pregnant and then leave the woman and the child; they mention that men need to realize their responsibilities do not end with conception. The book summarizes these quotes as unwed fatherhood is one of the leading social problems, and these men are irresponsible and “hit and run.” A CBS special report, The Vanishing Family, was an interview of McSeed, a father of six from four different women. In the interview, he says the responsibility of raising the child is on the mother, not him.
All across the globe, there are children growing up in single-parent households, and through some research
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Did you know that more than one fourth of all children in the United States live with only one parent? Single parenting has become more common today than in the 1800s, when it was sometimes frowned upon. As the years have gone by, it has become easier and easier for women to become single parents. In the 1800’s if husbands died or abandoned their families, women had no choice but to work for extremely low and unfair wages. Today, most men and women are treated equal and receive equal wages making it easier for women to be single parents. This concept is shown in Twain’s The Adventures of Tom Sawyer through Aunt Polly in the 19th century, single parenting is also common today.
In 2002, number of children living with their single parent was 16.5 million (Davidson). The most important thing is that each single-parent family is different from the other. Children who live with a widowed mother will definitely be living a different home life from children with divorced parents or the one whose parents were never married. Children of the parents who were divorced will always have some kind of relationship with parents and parents’ partners. But it is obvious that children from single-parent families face tougher times economically as well as
Single parents are more common than a couple who has children together; my co-worker is a single parent with two kids and she’s twenty-one. It’s not just men, leaving the women, like in my co-worker’s and Connie and Rose of Sharon’s cases. Additionally, women also leave men. In the past, there were a couple that were expecting and the mother would have rather not have the child, but the father urged the mother that they have the child. After she had the child, she gave her daughter to her ex-boyfriend and left both the child and the
According to the U.S. Census' most recent information, there are approximately 13 million children living in single-parent households. That in itself isn't all that surprising, but here's something that is: 2.5 million of those children are being raised by single fathers. That's nearly 1 in every 40 households –over half as many as ten years ago –in which custodial fathers are raising children, many of whom are girls.
Today in America, 34% of children are living with an unmarried parent. In 1960, only 9% were living in a single family household, and the number increased to 19% in the 1980s. Fewer than one-in-three children are living
School and education happens to be one of the main things affected in the lives of both African American males and females living in single parent households. Parents tend to become less involved in the childs academics and social activities in school from the stress of being a single parent and having so much responsibility on them. It seemingly gets worse by the time the child reaches high school. One survey asked high school students whether their parents helped them with their school work and supervised their social activities. Students whose parents separated between the sophomore and senior years reported a loss of involvement and supervision compared to students whose parents stayed together (Mclanahan, n.d.). This usually leads to the child performing poorly in the classroom and on assignments. The child becomes less motivated to attend school, which leads to poor attendance. Poor attendance and lack of motivation sometimes results in the child dropping out of school. If the parents live apart, the probability that their children will drop out of high school rises by 11 percentage points. And for every child who actually drops out of school, there are likely to be three or four more whose performance is affected even though they manage to graduate (Mclanahan, n.d). Children born to unmarried parents are slightly more likely to drop out of school and become teen mothers than children born to married parents who divorce. But the difference is small compared to the
For many decades, kids who grow up in a single parent environment have been outcast as different or said to be less educated. Being raised by only one parent seemed impossible but over the years it has become more accepting. Today many children have grown up to become stable and more successful in life whether they had one or two parents to show them the path to adulthood. The problem is how the children are raised rather than who the child is raised by. Does a child need both a mother and a father or is one parent enough? Does a young boy/girl need a father figure around? Does a young child need a mother figure around? What people often forget is that raising a child does not depend on the shape of the family; it all depends on how the parent
Divorce and out-of-wedlock childbearing are now epidemic in American society. Both forms of disrupted families are harmful to children and to society. The children of single parents are more likely to do poorly in school, commit crimes, and become single parents themselves. In addition, the increase in single-parent families contributes to such social problems as poverty, crime, and a decline in the quality of public education.
Summary: Singles mother hurt themselves and children by trying to show society that they are strong and that they can survive by their own. This source show us how kids can be affected in a bad way because of their mother status. When those women decide to bring to the family a new integrant, kids get hurt with their emotional and in their academy life as shown in this quote “ The more “transitions” experienced by a child — the arrival of a stepparent, a parental boyfriend or girlfriend, or a step- or half sibling — the more children are likely to have either emotional or academic problems, or both.” (Hymowitz, 2014)
Single parent households are a sensitive topic that is highly debated today. This topic is one that has repercussions for both the parents and the children involved. However, regardless of the different consequences, these households continue to grow in the coming years. “In 1970, traditional two-parent married households dominated, making up 81 % of all households in the United States (US). By 2012 this number dropped to around 66 % … In 2012, approximately 21 million children, or 28 % of all children in the US, lived with one parent” (Kramer, 2015). It is interesting to look at the way the single parent households continue to grow throughout the years, all while being a hot topic for discussion on its consequences. When thinking about a book to read for this course, there was no real choice. I stumbled upon this book and knew right away that I could benefit from this book, as well as connect to it on a deeper level and relate to it personally.
Especially in today’s society, it’s disturbingly common for a child to have to grow up in a single parent household, letting the consequences of this scenario internally destroy the child like a virus. The effects are usually the same, but the frequency of the effects shouldn’t deter the severity. Another misconstrued ideal about single parent households, is whether or not the “statistics” and the “studies” taken on these families is enough to summarize the general population. They aren’t. The same goes for the causes, but on a much more significant scale. The causes and effects of single parent households implied by the studies and statistics are all true, but there’s a much bigger story that can’t be accurately measured or recorded. What the numbers show, are what represent the average. The non-hispanic White race represents the average race, low class to poverty level, and women to gender. But, as can be seconded by most struggling families in this situation, “average” doesn’t describe “real.” There are some things that can’t be taken into account, and those are the things that affect the child the most.
“More than half of all Black children live in single-parent households, a figure that has doubled — doubled — since we were children...Children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime; nine times more likely to drop out of schools and 20 times more likely to land up in prison”